So tonight my fiance and I went to look at a venue, fell in love with it, found out it was well within the price we had in mind and had everything we wanted and have provisionally booked it... I left feeling mega happy and excited! BUT he seemed happy while we were in there, then as soon as we left, he kept putting a downer on it. We got home where his mum and dad were babysitting and spoke to them about it and again, he just seemed unhappy. Asked him what was wrong and he said nothing and that he was happy with the whole thing, and that it was exactly what we wanted but he just seems SO pissed off. Put up a status on FB just saying how excited I was that we have provisionally booked a venue, someone asked me where and I told them, and now he's shouted at me for it... Said "Why the f*** do you have to put EVERYTHING on FB??" (he barely uses it so hates that i do)... and when I said I just wanted someone to be excited with me, that made it all worse. He's now not talking to me :( It's ruined my excitement. He did the same on Monday when I tried on a dress and rang him to tell him that I thought I may have found one, and for half the budget too!! Since he asked me to marry him (and said HE wanted to get married within the next 12 months, not me), he has just seemed really reluctant to get involved with anything, and just seems really p*ssed off whenever I mention anything wedding related... Is this normal???
Got together 3rd December 2008
Got engaged 22nd August 2012
Got married 23rd August 2013
CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
Hia, i didn't want to read and run.
Congratulations on your provisional booking!! I'm so sorry that you're feeling so deflated :-( I don't know what to say, do you think he could be feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything? x
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CommentAuthorsusan1990
hmmm i think you need to have a sit down and have a good talk about things, this doesnt sound good, maybe hes worried? maybe he is worried about the money or maybe something else, you really need to talk to him x
CommentAuthorLegoWife
Does sound like he's hiding something. Sit him down and ask him to be honest with you.
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CommentAuthorSam
I can understand not wanting something on Facebook as everyone will find out about it. I'm a fairly private person and keep most of my life off Facebook. I only use it to keep in contact with others. However, when you combine his Facebook comment and his mood about the venue and the dress that would make anyone think there was something wrong. Does he have something on his mind? Does he have a deadline at work? I know when my H2B is stressed the last thing he wants to here is anything about the wedding. Then again at least he tells me he's stressed and doesn't want to talk about it. He will probably never be as excited as you are about the wedding, but the getting stroppy bit is strange. I hope the truth comes up.
Hi. I think as said above you need to talk to your h2b. It could be just stress or feeling overwhelmed by it all (as suggested above).
Hope you get it sorted.
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
Hi Tanya, I had a similar situation with my h2b and the book of face after posting how many sleeps (its 16 by the way! lol). Like my oh, yours is probbaly just nervous and overwhelmed by it all. I started to think my oh had changed his mind but after speaking to our best man, discovered he's just nervous about it all. Talk to him and make him talk to you! Good luck x
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
I think you need to speak to him, maybe he's overwhelmed by the whole thing x x
CommentAuthorKirstyM3690
Aww Hun first congrats on youre Booking! Think you need 2 talk 2 him! My other half was acting all strange! when i asked him he said he didnt feel involved i was so shocked and then said 2 him choose what u want so that weekend we went brought the rings got the bridesmaids gifts hes helped with favour bags even helped blinging my shoes when my arms became dead Haha i think sometimes we forget its there day 2 just explain You felt you both loved the place! and whats the issues now??
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Sit down and have a chat with him. I felt like this sometimes with my OH, I would try and keep him involved as much as I could in organising it by asking him what he wanted etc etc, and the reply was yeah whatever, and then when I went ahead and done it he would say don't I have a say in this wedding!!!! At times I thought is he really interested in getting married with the way he reacted to the wedding and how un involed he was. It was only when we had a few difficulties financially recently and we may of had to cancel it did I realise he actually did want this as much as me.
Chat with your OH and se what's on his mind.
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CommentAuthorCatrinaP
my oh was the same went in a mood everytime wedding was mentioned then i would hear him on the phone to his mates telling them how it was going and what i had bought then say to me all i did was buy buy buy lolsaid i was to get on with it he would just turn up say i do i was beginining to feel it was all one sided i showed him a venue online we went to see it he loved it paid the deposit himself now all i get is can i invite anyone else to the wedding where will we go on honeymoon are we going to have a tradional wedding lol maybe your oh is just feeling a wee bit left out we do all get a bit carried away with wedding lol x
CommentAuthorMrsbayliss2B
Congrats on the provisional booking, i think he is probably just overwhelmed by it all/worried about being able to afford everything maybe? i know sometimes my oh seems so excited about it, and then other times not so- this is usually when he is stressed at work or if were having a bad financial month and have to dip into some of the money we have saved! but they do say planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things- which it is! but also sooooo much fun too! You should sit down and have it out, its not good to bottle things up, and sometimes little things can be blown way out of proportion! x
CommentAuthorTatty
If I were you I would just try and sit down and have a chat with him about it, it might have just clicked to him that he's actually getting married and for some men that's a bit scary! I'm sure you'll be fine and for the time being you have all the lovely ladies on here to be excited with you!! x
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CommentAuthorTanya83
Aww thank you all for your replies!! I did have it out with him last night and he just said he was being "realistic". I said that is all well and good but so far he has ruined both big things for me by being too "realistic" and not allowing me even an hour of being excited before he starts with his moodiness. .. and that he is SUPPOSED to be excited too! He did say about FB again and how he wants to do it properly and announce everything when we confirm and when people are invited, which I DO understand and so I've promised to keep things to just us and the key players for a while. So today I went for a second viewing of The Dress with his mum and sister (who is a bridesmaid) and he seemed a bit more interested in it and let me have my buzz and my chatter about it. :) We'll see how he goes... but thank you again everyone for your replies and advice. I may be back yet!!
Got together 3rd December 2008
Got engaged 22nd August 2012
Got married 23rd August 2013
