I dont know what to do about a friends husband.... I have known my friend since school and we were really close until about 4 or 5 years ago (when she met her husband) for some reason he took an instand dislike to me even though I have been there for my friend through an abusive relationship, depression and an attempted suiside. One day he started to send me abusive e-mails (only a month or two after they got together) and when I called her in tears I read them out to her and she thought it was funny. Not long after this we went out for my 21st and I was walking tdown an alley with a couple of friends (after said friend had gone off to meet her hubby at the end of the night) and one if my friends saw him following us, friend later admitted that her husband had a knife on him and had I been alone he was going to stop me. Me and this friend stopped talking for quite a while until she lost all her other friends because of him and she fell pregnant. She apologised and said her hubby FORGIVES ME!!!!! Me and this friend now see each other every few months, she now has two children, a 3 yo and 7 week old with hubby (who on various occasions has tried to go off with other women and has now signed up to a dating website). I know I am stupid to be friends with her again but she has lots of problems and I feel bad for her plus we were so close once... so my problem is I want her to come to the reception but I really dont want him there... what do I do? I dont want any more trouble from him, but h2b and my brother and parents know what was in these e-mails (they were really quite disgusting) and they would not want him there, nor do I but I dont want to cause problems for her or myself. I dont know if she would understand if I said you and your kids are welcome but he isn't.
Sorry for the long post but it is a long story that has been going on for a few years!

If it was me I would steer well clear. The last thing you want is for her to be at the reception and for him to just turn up. Sounds like a right nutter. And he has the potential to ruin your day. xx

It's still something to think about reporting. If he's doing it to you, he could be emotionally controlling her and doing it to other people too.
((hugs))
It isn't too late xxx

I think you've answered yourself....

"I know I am stupid to be friends with her again but she has lots of problems and I feel bad for her"

You CANNOT help her unless she helps herself, all you are feeling is pity for her and you need to stay away from this relationship... its destructive and her husband is clearly unstable..... he had a knife???? WTF?????
He needs lockin up if you ask me, and she is stupid for staying with him - more fool her!

Then theres....

"plus we were so close once"

The key word is ONCE.... there is a reason your friendship is no longer what you might call close - she is an ex friend for that reason.

Move on honey.... as quickly as possible x

Its a tough situation babe :-(
If im honest I wouldnt invite her because she might understand but it will cause problems for her and you! and no bride needs that on their wedding day...........perhaps go out for the day just the two of you before or after the wedding instead???

Being her friend is important i think as he doesnt sound like a very nice person and i personally feel at some point shes gonna need to know that SOMEONE is there for her no matter whats happened in the past.

Honey, its not up to you to be her emotional crutch!

Only she can sort herself out, and you cannot keep on picking up the pieces.

Unless she stands up and finds the strength to leave then she will always be the same.

Its emotionally and physically draining for you too trying to stick her back together every time somethign goes wrong.

If she does soemthing silly - thats not YOUR fault!!

You need to stop feeling responsible for her and let her stand on her own two feet where men are concerned.

Thank you for the advice everyone... think I need to sit down and have a proper think about what I want to do... and speak to h2b, see what he thinks. x