I'm not sure this is really a rant, at least I don't want it to become one.
We're planning our wedding for in a few years time and I couldn't be more excited about it but there's one little bit that I'm getting a teensy bit upset over but don't know how to address it or get over it or whether I'm just being silly.
My fiance has a very expensive suit that he said his dad bought for him and he brought it up during one of our wedding talks and said his suit is already sorted. Now I have a strong feeling that this suit is the one that was bought for him and that he wore for his first wedding and I feel really.....funny about him wearing it for ours too.
Don't get me wrong I'm all for saving money etc and it would be a shame if it just sat in its protective case for the forseable future but I'd really rather he have a different suit for our special day.
I feel I can talk to him about anything so it's isn't that I don't know what to say or how to say it etc more that I want to check I'm not being silly before mentioning it.
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I don't think you're being silly. I think I'd feel funny about that too. I'd rather my H2B hired a suit if I was in your shoes. This needs to be a completely fresh start for him, and wearing the same suit doesn't really symbolise that. The only thing to be wary of is if the suit holds strong sentiments for him, and whether he might feel strongly about wearing it for his special day. Is he divorced or widowed? If he's a widower I can imagine the suit holding strong significance for him. Otherwise I'd be inclined to suggest that he hire a suit for the day, and either sell the other one or keep it for other special occasions.
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I don't think you are being silly at all IF he wore that same suit to a previous marriage id be saying no way in hell is he wearing it to our wedding.
Granted it is a very expensive suit but its a symbol of his previous marriage.
My H2b has his own kilt and has wore it numerous times to different event with work and to other peoples wedding had he been married before and wore that kilt I would not be marrying him in it.
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CommentAuthorDanielleMystic
He will be divorced (as soon as she grows up and moves on!) I imagine he will probably wish to keep it because his dad bought it for him but thats hopefully the only sentiment attached to it.
I just didn't want to try and make excuses without being justified x
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CommentAuthorRachelE118
Lord no he can't wear it again!!! Tell him you aren't having her cast off's and he gets a new suit along with the new bride but take him somewhere he can wear the suit when it won't mean anything to you. Good luck xx
No i can completely see why you don't want him to wear the same suit as his first wedding, as daft as this might sound, if I was looking at wedding photos of me and hubby i would be compairing them to the first photos it would be an odd experience x
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
id be fuming if he wore that! talk to him (or secretly find pics lol)
no seriously talk to him and tell him how you feel aaaaaand if he wont listen, pawn it lol!!!
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CommentAuthorAH86
I don't think you're being silly at all Hun, have e chat x
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Omg! No way, I wouldn't want my fiancé in it either, a new start should start with new things...that's like him giving you her engagement or wedding ring as well...no no no!!
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CommentAuthorAprilS61
I definitely would feel the same, I wouldn't feel comfortable in OH wearing a suit he got married in to someone else
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
I would feel the same too and I dont think you are being silly at all.
CommentAuthorAshleighW951
Have to agree with everyone else, I wouldn't be comfortable with that either. Xx
CommentAuthorJoD96
No way would I allow my oh to wear it, definitely need to get another one
