My husband to be said not to put names on evening invites, as there might be people we forget when doing the guest list....
And then he can just take a stack and hand them out to people as and when he sees them.
I think this is a bad idea as he'll go out with a stack and probably have a few drinks and invite loads of random people :-/
Has anyone else done this? Did it work? Xx
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30 August 2013
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CommentAuthorElliekitty
I would see your point! Plus the last thing you need is to give to someone who you think your inviting two people and they fetch 5 of them! You numbers could double, i personally would put names on x
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CommentAuthorShazk
I personally would put names on them for the reason you said and alos if he "just handing the out" people may feel that you fell obliged to invite them etc as well if no name on xx
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
I think you are right to disagree with your H2B on this one. On one hand I see why it is an easy way of doing it but on the other I can see how it could quite easily get confusing with who you have and haven't invited, could easily get out of control like you have suggested. I'd just stick to a list and name them , that way you know eactly who you have invited. Perhaps don't have a space for names on the invite just name the envelopes if that's a compromise enough for him? That way you keep some control and then you still have a few spare if you suddenly do remember there is an extra guest. x
Put names on them definitely, you can always ask more people latter. It's harder to rescind invites than to invite extras.
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
no i think put names on them it means you can keep track of the people you have invited plus it makes the people your inviting feel a little more special as you obviously made a list n they made the cut for your wedding (well thats how i felt when invited to some friends weddings) you know what i mean
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Thanks guys, I'm with you on this one!
I will show him this thread, and then put my foot down hehe!
Plus, I think people will be less likely to RSVP if it isn't named...
Cheers for all your feedback, it's really useful xx I do love this forum! Xx
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30 August 2013
The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
No Problem LauraJo87 its nice to see he is taking a interest in the wedding thou my H2B only takes interest in the food and the cars everything elce is left to me :/
CommentAuthorTori
Also what if you miss someone out that you intended to give an invite to. Could cause unnecessary agro!!
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
good point Tori xxxx
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Yep, he's been told!
Button-bell, I love the fact that he sees it as his day too...although he has a nasty habit of leaving all the actual leg work to me then coming in with a yay or nay at the last minute.... Xxx
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30 August 2013
The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorLulu1388
Men for you!
But defo names on! xx
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
I would defo put names on, more personal as well x x
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
LauraJo87 aww im glad i have a feelin my H2B will be the same closer to the time i think he still feels disconnected the now coz its so far away
CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
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We had this discussion....alot of the invites we were looking at were worded without any names...so you could just give them out...but this was a problem when we were only inviting the adults of certain families etc..so to get rid of any confusion..we are getting them printed with a space to write who we are inviting... it makes it clear for the people receiving them.. xxx
CommentAuthornatalie2614
We compromised on his invites for the navy, originally he wanted to put up a poster in the bar/mess area - i said no. We agreed they would get invites with names on envelopes.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
That's a good point....a lot of our friends have teenaged kids who we don't know if we're inviting yet, but people may think its just an open invite and they can bring whoever they want!
I am making them myself, so think I will just do a few that our blank for any last minute additions!
Natalie, my oh wanted to just 'tell' his pool team etc about the wedding...
However a friend of ours did this and a lot of people thought the reception was on the Saturday, rather than the Friday so a fair few didn't turn up. We only remembered after a series of frantic texts, as I hadn't in my head it was the Saturday and with no invite to refer back to, we just couldn't easily check xx
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The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorSam
OMG, that's terrible. I'd be gutted if people didn't show because they got the date wrong.
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
I would make sure that you put names on as they could bring anyone to the wedding and then all your food would run out as you wouldnt of catered for everyone.
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CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Must be a man thing!!
When we had our engagement party my h2b didnt want to put names on invites but im glad we did as we had people trying to tag along with people who had invites! Plus luckily we had a guest list on the door!!
