Tbh the "sake" bit is all her fault anyway - she's the one not letting them come! Xx

I have learnt a harsh lesson recently. And the best piece of advice I can give is 'do nothing'. Do not reply to her about the wedding or invites or the Toad. It will either die down because she has no ammunition - or nothing to respond to, or she will get the message that you are sticking to your guns and she has no say in the matter. Let her scream, shout, make threats and send begging texts. Just ignore it all.
On the other hand, if she texts about anything unrelated, reply as you would normally. Show her that your problem is over this mess and not generally and she might see that she's being out of order and unreasonable.
Also, don't talk about her to anyone at all who might be connected to both of you - that way no gossip gets back xx

your h2b should reply 'For my sake just accept this is the way it's going to be!''

:) maybe you should print them off and if someone asks why some of your H2b's family is missing on the day then you can show them exactly what the problem is.

Omg holly, they are no relation why on earth would you want them there even for the evening? Lol

Just tell her no! Lol I'm a fine one to talk though, my nana asked ever so nicely if she could bring 2 of her friends who are old sears that love to see a bride, she even offered to pay for them but I just invited them without charge because she approached the subject properly, not like my mil -_-

Ah now your mil is panicking because you've called her bluff

The rest of the family don't even know about it!

Classic

Let her stew the silly old bat ;-)

yep you girls got it right..leave it be a while put your phone on silent or change the tone so you know when its a call?text from certain people.x

So glad you've stuck to your guns. Your MIL sounds like she is used to emotionally blackmailing people, inorder to get her own way.

Lol just thought I'd update you with the texts on my fiancé's phone this evening. There were a few " hello?'s from mil then she stooped to a new level of pathetic.

Mum is sat here in tears because she says tsuki has taken it TOO far and has been spiteful. I think it was very selfish of you to expect your sister to come to your wedding alone. Your mum cared for you from when you were a baby and you are hurting her this way, is this how so called family should behave? Please just be a man and invite x for your sisters sake, why are you letting that family dictate to you?

This was sent from fil phone and I KNOW he didn't send it, it's not his style, I know fil inside out. He knows I'm a good person and he knows bil tried to pull one over on my bro and doesn't think we should have toad there if we don't want him, but mil just tramples the poor man and now she's trying to turn us against him too? She MUST be ill.

@EcoFreak EXACTLY! She is the one effectively banning them! x

I told my h2b that no matter what my 'blood family' will always come above him and his family.....I said this from the start and said that if he was happy about that then he should find the door quick :)
Luckily he was ok and understands what I mean.
Surely most people would feel the same and therefore your h2b and little one should be paramount in your mil's eyes not her sil who at the end of the day sound like he's only loyal to himself. It's a real shame that this isn't the case :( if this was my mum doing these things I would have to confront her and point that out tbh. I'd say to her ' aren't I more important, being your child and all?'

at the end of the day this whole situation is just really sad and totally unnessisary. She will lose but it will, by the sound of it, be too late by the time she realizes.

Ooooh! She is twisted! What a total nightmare of a woman! Xxxxx

lol bless u! mines august 11th i sent save the dates out ages ago invites to go out end of jan

i understand what you mean by being bullied babe .... my MIL tried that with us .....she wanted us to have Mr lala1s nieces as bm`s ....we said no as i have 2 nieces too so would have to have them ...and as i have my daughters as bm`s i would end up with 7 ...not happening , so Mil then said well i`m not coming to the wedding if you dont have them ...Mr lala said well thats your choice to make , upshot is that the nices are coming to the wedding and Mil isnt ...in fact due to other incident she isnt eeven getting an invite "

What a vile woman. Stick to your guns tsuki, it isn't going to ruin your wedding because these foul people aren't coming, it's going to make it better!

LOL Tsuki!

aww you MIL sounds awful! Aslong as you & H2B stick together then thats all that matters!

lala "mod" bunni- I am also being bullied into this. We both have big familes! We have our little girl too so definately want her & my H2b has 2 sisters- one is 7 & one is 27. I also have 2 sisters & a niece.

But i wanted to have my best friend as MOH (as most girls do) I never mentioned this to anyone as we have only just started planning. So i was going to have them all which would mean 7 (i know its alot but i feel i cant have one sister without having the other)
But my problems occured when sil-27 year old starting making comments about her MOH & i was thinking eyyy?? where did she get that from, we are close & i love her to bits but she knows i have a best friend. shes put me in a really awkward postition saying she wants to be MOH as now i feel pressurized into having her when i dont really want to. I know for a fact that she wont ask me to be MOH when she gets married as she has loads of best friends! Anyway, so i mentioned to my MIL that i might just have sil- 7 year old, niece- only 3 & my daughter- 2 years old. That way i dont have a MOH & i only have 3 bridesmaid but her reply was 'No you cant so that sil-27 year old would be devasted, shes expecting to be your MOH'

I mean OMG what do i do...talk about being stuck!

only just started planning our day...after wanting this for so long with being childhood sweethearts but i feel like i cant do what i want now!

Ok so that posted with out me hitting post..... stupid comp!!!

As my little gran says "they will need you before you need them"

She will realise when its all to late that she has lost great people out her life & she will realise what sil oh is like when he does the exact same to her!!

Good luck though chick ;-) x

MissWatkin you need to tell her straight, either she's not moh/bm or that you've already assked your friend. For MIL to say she's expecting to be moh!!! where does she get that idea from? the only person who can put a stop to this is you. The sooner the better otherwise you'll end up getting stressed about it all x good luck hun x