What do you do when your fiances sister in law and his mother start taking control of your wedding! ... I just had everything planned then all of a sudden even my colours ive picked are "not traditional enough" and I'm getting sarcastic comments about my bridesmaids dresses and who my pageboy should be etc... then going to my fiancé I'm not letting them get involved! I'm determined to make my wedding perfect for me!

sit them down and tell them. my mum started up sending me stuff and i just said well it is me getting married not you so. and she was like well yeh true xxx

if they dont just tell them out right :) xxx

smile sweetly and say 'thank you for your suggestions, it's much appreciated' and then promptly ignore them ;)

Both his mum and sister in law didn't have all the excitement for their weddings, his sister in law ran off and had hers secretly so h2b thinks she's trying to have her wedding through ours, thankgod he is on my side! xoxo

You ladies are fabulous with advice! I love the promptly ignoring idea and I will now stop telling his lot about my choices, and continue planning stress free :) xoxo

You have to do what's right for you two, everyone else's opinions are just that, opinions!

I'd just smile and nod my head, and do what i wanted anyway. Afew people have said to me, oh you cant do this or you cant do that, or you should do this and....blah blah blah, but I just do what i want. I always have. And Im not about to let people to tell me what to do on the biggest day of my life, i welcome all opionions and ive used alot of them, but i wont welcome people telling me what i should or shouldnt do, theres a differnece. i dont care if its my mum or whoever, i know my own mind and ive always done what i wanted, its one thing to try to keep the peace, but another to compromise to keep other people happy and doing something youre not overly happy about. I think there are certain things you may need to bite the bullet on, but even then its only if H2B wants it. As I have had to do with our collossal guest list. But if you have an outsider (which is anyone outside you and H2B) telling you your colour theme etc is wrong, then you need to be politely telling them to feck off

I like lyn's idea. Good one.

It's your day, like the others have said so you do what you want to do, not what they want you to do. I was very lucky that I never had this. I did have a friend though who would make negative comments on things. I showed her my jewellery for the day and she said why not wear mine, errrmmmm coz I have my own! I just ignored her and got on with things in my own way.

My mum was like this...sometimes you just have to tell them to butt out. My mum knows how much I value her opinion but after we had a chat and I said that it is our wedding she backed off a bit! x

My fiance is her last child... He is the last of five boys and just lately the days we plan to do things like organise a date to sort our flowers out, she tells him he has to be with her, then tells me what flowers I should be having and that, after being on here last night I spoke to her this morning and told her to back off ... She looked absolutely gobsmacked :) it felt good to take control! Xoxo

glad you took control hun!

All this reminds me of the time one of my cousins was getting married and she had marked out in a catalogue which bridesmaids dresses she wanted (this was before Internet). She had to go into work and she told her mother to go to the post office and post the form off with a postal order.
The dresses that came were not the dresses she had marked out on the form and it was too late to send them back. Her mum swore that she had done exactly as she was asked to do but my cousin kept saying you did it! At the time I couldn't believe my auntie could do such a thing but looking back I'm not so sure! I now believe she had bought a bottle of tip ex at the post office and changed the info on the form.

My sister is being a pain with it all, from the wedding fairs I've planned to go to and invited her to to when we went wedding dress shopping and was rude and kept her head in a magazine the whole time. I didn't force or guilt trip her to go. I am tending to ignore her behaviours, I'm still going to have a fantastic day and make those choices with or without her. When it comes to her day, she can make her own choices. And why does your wedding HAVE to be traditional, as you say its YOUR wedding...ignore the bad and rude behaviour and crack on! It'llbe fab still!!!

i think I'm very lucky after reading all these post me and h2b have made all our decisions together and everyone seems to like everything. my family know better to stick there noses in to each others personal lives with out being asked and h2bs just lets him get on with it in a supportive way they are there if we need them but not in your face about anything. His sister have been today as its my daughter 8th birthday and they loved the bits I've showed them, I think they all have a lot going on in their own family's so don't really have the time to be pushing there thoughts about the wedding on to us they are all really happy we are getting married and they are all lovely so i guess i have finally got nice in laws x

Lol much like my MOH she has told me I better not put her in a red dress as it would clash with her hair, think I've decided on burgundy, so she can like it or lump it. At the end of the day it's what you decide. :)

unfortunately i think you need to throw a bridezilla fit and tell them its your wedding and your way then they might get the message and leave you alone to get on with what you want.

worked for me!

Well that's a step in the right direction if MIL has agreed to keep her beak out! Your SIL will soon get the picture too!! Glad to see things are getting better! & you're right, all the girlies here are fab & very helpful :) xx