I'll try and keep this short as I can but this is how it is... My sister am myself have always had a love hate relationship ever since we were kids and this august we had a big fall out, she also deleted myself and my brother (who I have always been close to) of the book of face (so it was serious!! Lol) anyway I thought I'd still do the right thing and invite her to the wedding but she has told my mum that she will not be coming. So me and hubby2b decided as that is her attitude then we'll expect her not coming! Her 2 older children that I raised from teens and that are now in there 20's are coming but her other 4 children will miss out because of her ignorance. She has always singled herself out in the family and is so different in how she lives, sometimes I think she does it for attention! The trouble is that at our venue were limited to the number of people were allowed to invite and if she was to change her mind and wanted to come we no longer have the space to accommodate her and her family, I think then she will turn it round to make me look a bad person to our relatives. So I'm not sure what to do if that happens as there's only until next July, what would you do if you were in that situation?
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
if you don't want her there don't have and if shes already said no take it as that, if she does turn up shell look the fool when theres no space for her and her family to sit and no food for them! TS to her x
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
If you're in doubt then give out a formal RSVP slip with a deadline, and if she doesn't return it then it's her problem.
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CommentAuthorCJGroove
Awh that's a shame; but I agree with Elinor Claire - give her the deadline and if she changes her mind after, she wont have a leg to stand on.
or you could always get a kiddie table outside and make her bring butties!
CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
Agree with the above, send the invite asking for an RSVP, if she doesnt respond id assume she isnt coming.
Having said that, my sister, who I had a bit of a falling out with recently, isnt the type to RSVP to anything, she would just assume as she's my sister I should KNOW she is attending (or not as the case may be). I was very close to declining attending her wedding due to recent events, but I thought id be the bigger person, bury the hatchet and go. She only then assumes I'm going to be her bridesmaid! I had to politely decline. Just know your not alone with the family issues!!!!
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It is a big shame and I like the idea of sending a invite with a deadline rsvp trouble is if I do send one there is already no room to accommodate the 6 of them!! It's one day that I'll never have again and it feel more sorry for my young nieces as they would love to be there and I know she wouldn't allow them to come without her!
Lol at her sitting outside with butties, can just picture it in my mind! Lol :)
CommentAuthorMelissaLarner2b
Awww sorry to hear that Charlie, it's horrid and I thought I was being the bigger person by asking her to come, it's the fact that she's older than me too! It's nice to know I'm not alone though!! Xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Tbh I would do nothing for now anything can happen before you send the invites out ... When you do ,do them in waves with a staggered reply date .. This way you are showing that you are the bigger person and inviting her but if they say they are not coming you can invite someone else with out them knowing the are being " bumped up"
Trouble I have that with the amount of people we are allowed at the venue there is not enough space for her and her family to come now anyway! We're allowed 50 for the ceremony including ourselves and already have that many, and thats both our immediate family who I know will attend, I've already had to tell my cousin and his family that they can only come to reception due to amount of people were allowed! I can't even fit in any close friends, so if things do change and she wants to come I'm pretty stuck!
CommentAuthorCJGroove
Well, in that case, she's made her bed, she'll have to lie in it! There's literally nothing you can do even if she does change her mind. She can't blame you - you've done all you can/should do, ultimately it was her choice and if its the wrong one, she's only herself to blame.
CommentAuthorMelissaLarner2b
That's what I kind of think too but 'if' things get resolved between us by next July I'm going to feel really bad!
CommentAuthorCJGroove
In my opinion, she should have had the forethought to think of that as well when she said she wasn't coming :/
CommentAuthorStephanieM71
You shouldn't feel bad if things do get resolved, you can't save 6 spaces for someone who 'might' come. She can still come to the reception after when there is space. After all she refused the invite, you didn't say she couldn't come. It is a shame about your nieces though, but there's not a lot you can do about that x
CommentAuthorclairenina
I agree with CJGroove. If she wants to be nasty and not have the decency to say to your face she isn't coming, rather than telling your Mum, I would fill her place with someone else, and not feel bad about it. You have been the adult by the sounds of if by graciously inviting her. If she is snubbing your olive branch, balls to her. x
CommentAuthorMelissaLarner2b
Awwww thanks ladies, you really have made me feel better about it :) and yes your right, I didn't think about an invite to reception should things get resolved! She will just have to understand like you have said that things were arranged with the belief she wouldn't be coming, at least the girls will get to have a dance should it get sorted :) a lot of people have said she will regret this in years to come and it won't be right her not being in any of the wedding photos! Xx
