Hi,

I put a post on earlier on in the None-wedding discussion. And its gone now. Where has it gone and why?!?

It was regarding me moving house and saying hi coz i had been away.

I cant seem to find it now.

Please explain. I knew it would be sunk after 24 hours but i cant even see it now some 4 hours later!

I saw your post and replied Luce, welcome back and hope all went well during the move xx

Thanks Sophie. xx

I still dont think that it should disappeared after a few hours. Ive seen wedding related threads been posted and they still have been sunk as well

I agree, it's sad to see that the book of face group of girls from here is doing great and it's because they are fed up things like this!! Am I wrong in thinking I joined this site and paid £20 for the privelage so I could chat to other Brides 2 be for ideas and advice and to meet new people and have a chat like this thread was about?

Rant over xx

Lol you're off the hook then xx

I know hun it must be a pain as you can never please everyone, speaking as someone who organieses events for Boffins I know lol. I am new to a forum World so guess I find it a little frustrating seeing the 'policing' of girls having a chin wag. However I also sometimes see posts and wonder why people don't post that on their FB etc. You lasses do a cracking job and it's appreciated x

Nahh never hun, wheres the fun in that? - But I have to say I admire those of you that a just B2B like us lot and do this moderating thing. The time you put in and the effort and then grief you get on top - you need a medal, especially when the 'big boys' don't seem to do much at all xx

Forum redesign would solve this.... If front page was a list of categories (with an indicator to show which ones contained new posts) instead of a list of the most recent messages, then it wouldn't bug people if there are lots of new posts that were not wedding related, because they wouldn't fill up the first page. Nearly every other forum I use works this way, and it means I can avoid the categories I am not interested in, but still see when there are new posts in the categories I want to read.

How about if we got rid of the NON WEDDING catergory????

At the moment we are getting moaned at because there is too much non wedding related threads about and we seem to be becoming more and more like facebook.
Then we are also getting moaned at because ppl are getting told they cant post threads about anything thats not to do with weddings unless its in chinwag (the reason we have it in the first place).
With 250,000 members and growing we are not going to please everyone but we do try :-(

The reason this facebook group was started was because a member wanted to show her friends things about her wedding without her family seeing it. And as we dont allow links on the forum because of advertising etc this was her solution....the name was because a friend of her h2b called her a wedding nerd lol.
It wasnt started as a forum or a compition for here it was just a way to share with her friends that she has made because of HERE!
Yes they are successful as you say but as far as i'm aware they are ALL still members on here I see, even if one or two dont come on here as MUCH as they used to.
Not one of them have deleted their account here so we can't be that bad nor can our rules be lol............and yes I am member on there too as i have become quite friendly with the person who started it as well as quite a few others of them!!

But as we do have so many brides to be on here and advertisers and investers that do pay quite a bit of money towards this site we do have to have rules.........most forums ive been on do!


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this happened to me a few weeks back and i thought i was going crazy cos i couldn't find it anywhere. i didn't realise discussions could be outright deleted - i just thought they'd either be closed or sunk xx

a catagory at the top of the forum that just includes one related wedding chat would be good cos sometimes i like to hear just general life things and some times i want to get honest opions of people i dont know where i could do that on fb. other days no related weddin chat annoys me if im in hyper wedding mood.

I agree Luce. I am sure you life -related post would have been of interest to some of us - and anyone who wasn't interested could just choose not to read it - that should be what the non-wedding related chat category is for. I think moving house is an important topic for nearly-weds and as a nearly-wed who is moving house next year a month or so before the wedding i would like to know how it went, any problems you had and that you are settled in now.

Congratulations on your move and hope you are settling in well, good luck for the wedding and your future together in your new home :D xxxx

im sorry if this sounds harsh but i have to say it as it is,i used to be a moderator on here and resigned because i got fed up of moaning and winging and it was constant,,,no matter what this site does its not going to please everyone,so why try to change it!!,luce hun while i can see your frustration at not being told about your post being deleted (the mod did apologise on this thread however) i do think you are slightly over reacting,moderators have a hard job here,keeping the site free from spam answering questions and keeping the forum tidy,and i do agree that your post could of been put in to the general chinwag thread,yes granted not everyone would of seen it,but it would of saved all this.we can all sit here and moan about the site as much as we like but the truth is if people read the rules before posting it would safe alot of hassle.this is not intended to offend anyone its just my opinion,iv been on this site frim the beginning,in the days were boss man used to come on and have a joke with us,i still love it here,but get so annoyed when people say do this or do that,if it aint broke dont fix it!!

i agree Karen..

too many people just dont bother reading the rules and come on willy nilly and get upset when they get a telling off for breaking one of the rules!! .and the fact is a lot of people dont realise or forget that the moderators do this job for FREE..they dont get paid to sit and listen to whinging.moaning.tattle tailing .they dont get paid for strolling through many posts a day to make sure they are obiding by the rules...they dont get paid for answering any questions...its a very tediious job and in my opinion they sh ould get rewarded for it..ive seen in the past far too much crap gets put to them and accusations that they are treating people more favourably than others cause they are more friendly with some and thats not fair

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I wouldn't have seen ur post Luce if it had gone in the general chinwag thread as I don't use it. It is not through lack of trying. There have been a few occasions where i've dropped in to say hi but the conversation(s) are flowing that freely that nobody has ever responded or noticed. Too much going on it it. BUT I have never complained about any of the goings on throughout this site. Whole-heartedly understand the jobs the mods do. Keep my head down and get on with it. However have spoken up about one thing this week and as it goes other brides felt the same way.

:-( PERHAPS LADIES YOU SHOULD START USING GC............ITS BEEN VERY QUITE THE PAST TWO WEEKS! :-(

We have a non-wedding category purely cause if we didnt have that people would just put the topic in any other random category...

Hi,

Firstly, i do appreciate the apology off the mod who removed it and i thank you for that.

I do think being a mod is an awful hard job and i think keeping everyone happy is hard too.

BUT

I think if you have one rule-like no none-wedding chat- Then stick to it! Remove everything none related, not just random ones that 'you' feel would be of dis-interest.

Forget about the general chit chat. My topic wasnt general chit chat. General chit chat to me is- How is everyone this fine day- Oh did anyone see corrie last night- That is general chit chat. I never read the general chit chat coz its abit too chit chat for me.

Consider this my last post on here. Which is such a shame coz I think everyone has such fab advise and views. But I dont feel I would be able to talk about anything in fear that I break the rules!! Sorry but you have so many cat's, but you dont realllllly want them to be used. Well get rid of them and people wont post about none wedding stuff.

I was enjoying the thought of sharing my wedding build up with the lovely ladies on here. But never mind.

GoodBye.

please dont leave over it, i can understand why your upset but just think of all the positives this site has and all the ladies and their brilliant help and how useful it is i've had posts deleted and i dont always get it but it must be sooooo hard for the mods to keep everyone happy xxxxx

it was alot more fun when i first started cumin on here i used to be on here hours. most things i post now are deleted or asked to post somewhere so i usually dont bother posting much now. there was a post closed not long ago someone exited about there h2b showing interest in their wedding it was really cute and nice to read put a smile on my face and it was deleted i wouldnt of seen it if it was n general chit chat.

I agree Joey - it's not as fun anymore. I know this site is first and foremost wedding related - but there are other things happening in everyone's lives. You can't have a proper conversation in general chinwag because it's like walking in a room where everyone is talking about something different all at the same time.

Personally, if the site was to be just wedding only and we couldn't talk about anything else, then I wouldn't come on here as much (and I'm usually on here every day). This forum is a place where we can talk about things happening in our lives, something you can't always do on FB etc as that's a bit more public. Why make friends with others on here if we can't ask advice or share good/bad life experiences (wedding or not).

Well I DID take it personally because nobody elses that were posted around the same time got taken away or sunk......and some were non wedding related when mine was wedding related so that goes against all whats been said.

I loved talking to everyone and like Mym used to come on here everyday. Now I feel like I cant post without it having a few comments and then getting sunk. Now all I do is search for existing old threads to find advice instead of starting my own because I cant be bothered with the upset.

Same joey. and if were been reallllly picky the mothers and trying to concieve catagory isnt wedding related but its married life related so its ok but then so is things like moving house ect so technically if its life related its marriage related if its married related its wedding related. sorted haha.