My mum says she isnt coming to my wedding an when she says it she really means it. i asked why an she said she would come to the DIVORCE party instead. this really hurt me as i have done nothing to her an she should be there on my big day. we were close when i lived with her but since she got a new boyfriend she doesnt spend anytime with me. an now i have moved out an changed job( i used to work with her) we dont speak at all really, unless im going round to see my sisters an brothers. i havent give her any reason not to come we havent had a big row or anything. she is the sort of person that if its not about her then she isnt interested. so she has to make a drama by saying she isnt coming, so then people will be asking all day why isnt my mum here.
CommentAuthorKirstyM3690
aww hun! :'( My dad is coming to my wedding altho him and my mum broke up at 12 weve always been close he got a new girlfriend and got controlled and make the choice not to come But inside i have the most amazing step dad Ask youre mum for reason why she doesnt wanna come and if she doesnt focus on the wedding only she will be missing out babe chin up xxxxx
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CommentAuthorTeganandRob
Sounds like she doesn't approve of the marriage if she's already looking forward to and planning a divorce party. Is there any reason why she wouldn't approve. Personally if it was me and that was her attitude I would just say fine do whatever you want. I wouldn't want someone like that anywhere near my wedding and when people ask just tell them she didn't want to come, people will think she's a right heartless bitch then which would serve her right!
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
i agree with other post.u need a reason y. end of day its her missing out n 2bh. with an attitude like that ur better off wi out.sayin that uv got time u mite sort it out hun x
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CommentAuthorSarahB814
Awww hun, I wish I could give you a hug just now.
I would tell her to naff off, however I can feel your pain (long story but hey!)
Have you tried to talk to her about why she want come, i mean besides a divorce party?
Does she not like your OH? tho regardless she should be there. Maybe leave if a little and talk to her again, or maybe get your sister to talk to her? (tho i can understand if your sister doesnt want to get involved)
Awww, thats rubbishy. Maybe she is feeling left out as she dosn't see you much anymore and is lashing out? Either that or she is just being plain nasty! x
CommentAuthorHayley080912
Thats horrible what a thing to say. Can you not ask her outright why a DIVORCE party would be needed. To be honest you just enjoy your day honey xxxx
CommentAuthorShazk
This is a horrid thing to hear.
Like others i would ask for reasons but i also agree that if thats her attitude then again like others i would say well if thats how u feel dont bother and like teganandrob says tell people straight if they ask and let them make their own opinion if you told me that and i was one of ur guests my 1st thought would be what an awful women to not be there for her daughter on her big day.
BIG hugs hope u can sort it xx
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CommentAuthormillz090
I think there is 2 ways here, either tell her fine she isn't coming and have a nice life or ask her why.... Go out the 2 of you so neutral ground and spend some time together. Hopefully you can rebuild this relationship and she will change her mind, I think life is too short to cut people out and yes you shouldn't have to make the effort as her doing but just a coffee or dinner together is something xxx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
what an awful woman!!!!
If thats her attitude then she isn't worth bothering with
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
That's awful, well I'd tell her if that's how she felt I wouldn't want her there x x
CommentAuthornatalie2614
Aww that's a horrible thing for her to say. There must be a reason for her bad attitude though? Does she hate h2b?
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CommentAuthorTori
Perhaps your mum blames h2b for the fact you two aren't as close anymore and that resentment is what's preventing her from being able to be happy for you? If this is the case it's not right. Maybe you need to dig a little deeper and find out what her problem is. Try telling her how it has made you feel the fact that she doesn't want to be there for you on your wedding day?
CommentAuthorBrideToBe
she didnt even come to help me choose my wedding dress she said she had better things to do how naugsty. no she likes h2h never said a bad word about him. im just gonna leave it she will be the one missing out. she just cant bare to see anyone happy not even her daughter thats just the way she is an that will never change
CommentAuthorDefinitelymaybe
I could have written the same post hun. I am hurting like hell but keep telling muself that she is the one missing out and I will have my H2B, our children, other family and my best friends in the world there and that is what really matters to me right now.
I can't help but think what people will think though. Sily I know. But from one bride whose mum won't be there to another have a big ((((hug)))) xx
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CommentAuthorShelleyM46
my mum wont b at our wedding coz we dont want her there we fell out a while ago ( long story ).i know its hard coz a mum is ment 2 b a big part in every1s life n more so on ur wedding day i know this sounds harsh but sum women just arnt ment 2 b a mum n its hard 4 people 2 understand that but sometimes ur better off without .i do hope that 1 day ur mum will wake up n cum 2 her senses tho.hav u tried telling her how u feel xx
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CommentAuthorHelenW
aww what a horrible thing to say! I don't really have any further advice for you but didnt want to read and run! definitely find out why she thinks a divorce party (who has a party for a divorce?!) would be needed? Are you the only child or first to marry? maybe theres some subconscious worries about losing her daughter? whatever the reason, dont let her ruin your big day! Big hug xx
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CommentAuthorLinza11
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awww what a horrible thing to say!really is,she shud be helping you plan your wedding!!dont understand why she would say such things!she will regret not coming to your wedding,so i would let her get on with it!she might change her mind nearer the day!!hugs to you!!xx
CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
my mum isnt coming to my wedding as i didnt invite her, or my dad for that matter! long story but basically the same kind of attitudes except she doesnt like my partner, so why would she want to see me marry someone she doesnt like anyway. I was sort of hoping she would come to her senses before the day and sort it out but with only 5 days left i very much doubt it!
A wedding should be about ur friends and family being there for you and supporting you on ur special day, if she wont do that then she shouldnt be there, it will be her missing out at the end of the day x
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CommentAuthorsusan1990
maybe she just wants you to beg her to come? if you havent spoke for a while maybe its her way of getting your attention. if it was my mother i would just say, you are quite welcome to come to my wedding but if you dont come its your loss, you will never get the chance to see your daughter get married again and leave it at that. tbh if my mum had been like that with me i wouldnt want her to come! when my mum and dad got married my dads mum said she wasnt going to go because my dad was catholic and my mum was c of e and they were getting married in a c of e church and she didnt aprove she thaught by saying that she wasnt going they would change there minds but my mum put her foot down and said we are getting married in c of e and if she didnt aprove then she dooesnt have to come. my dads mum was dead set on not comming but she turned up in the end! x
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
Sounds to me like she needs to grow up and stop being such an attention seeker. She doesn't deserve the honour of being a mother. She wants you to beg her and ask for reasons and explanations, don't give her the satisfaction. If she really doesn't come it's her loss and idiot anyone asks why she isn't there just smile sweetly and say "she didn't want to come , we're not sure why but don't want her absence to ruin our day in any way" end of conversation. I feel so bad for you as I would hate to have a mother like that but you have the moral high ground here and she will be the one with egg on her face.x
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