hello, my god my mum is being so difficult and just need to know if I'm being out of order or not from someone who doesn't know either of us!
well basically my mum is a very difficult and opinionated person and split up from my dad when i was 5years old, he has left the past in the past and re married to my step mum and they have been married for about 10years now! Well anyway mum mum wont speak to my dad, step mum or any of my dads family and has also fallen out with my nan and grandad ( her mum and dad), and my 2 uncles (her brothers) and has said that its hard enough having to put on a smile with my dad, his family and my nan and grandad being there but if i invite my uncles and there wife's she wont come..... we haven't spoke for about 9weeks now as she was getting that bad that every time i spoke about my wedding she would burst into tears and make me feel so unhappy about it all that i was actually not looking forward to the day!!! i sent her a mother's day card and she hasn't even sent a txt to say thank you!!! I'm now at the point that I'm going to send her a invite and put a note in saying that I'm inviting my uncles and that the place is big enough that they wont need to be near each other and its up to her if she comes or not but obviously i would be upset that she wasn't there if she didn't. I also am thinking of putting in there that i really don't want any scenes as its mine and Russell's day and hope she understands or something like that as she made a big seen at my uncles wedding and went off and people felt they had to go after her off. Do you think I'm being out of order for inviting my uncles?? sorry for the rant I'm just getting so stressed by it all.
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
and breathe................... your mum does sound like shes being unreasonable, its your day u have hu u want there...can your mum not be trusted to behave for one day??? Write her a letter explaining everything your feeling then at least u know youve told her everything xxxxxxxxx
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
oh rachel its not nice when you have a family like that i think its your mum being unreasonably and it think your doing the right thing its not fair of her to make you feel bad for inviting the rest of your family when its her thats got the problem with them with the amount of people she as fell out with it sounds like she is a difficult person anyway so what ever you do wont be right in her eyes. At the end of the day its your and h2bs day and you should celebrate with who you want and she will have to either ignore the people she doesn't like or not bother going.
I know not having your mum at your wedding will be very upsetting for you but with the way she sounds it might be easier if she didn't go because it sounds like you will be on tender hooks all day waiting for her to kick of i don't think you would be able to be relaxed and enjoy your self if it was like that xx
CommentAuthorBex89
I agree with lilmischuckles - write her a letter explaining exactly how you feel.. Tell her that you hope she can be mature enough to just put on a smile and a brave face for one day - you are her daughter after all and its your big day. I don't think you are out of order for inviting your uncles - it's her that has fallen out with them not you.
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CommentAuthorRachaelM78
thanks for all your replies!! Feel a little better now that im not being horrible to her.
lilmischuckles- she is a very explosive person, we could be talking and laughing one min then the next i might say something and that we were talking about and she will be shouting and screaming at me about how horrid i am and selfish and only think of myself.
think i will put the letter in with the invite. its just so hard as i have 2 younger brothers that live with her one is 21 so i know he will be able to come but the other is 12 and am worried if she doesn't come she will stop him from coming.
my h2b has had enough and doesn't want her to come as he has seen how upset she has been making me..... oh the joys of wedding drama. Xx
*hugs* hope you get it all sorted - I seem quite lucky that no-one in either of our families is going to cause problems... h2b's parents are divorced and both re-married but they still get on ok - his dad even buys b'day cards for h2b's 2 half brothers!
Been with my gorgeous 5years :)
Can't wait to become Mrs Ellery
CommentAuthorMrsDanks
Gosh hun sounds like a nightmare situation, I don't think your wrong at all for wanting the rest of your family there and think it would be a good idea to out a letter in with her invite explaining how you feel. Hope you get it all sorted hun because you really don't need the stress and worry like that. xx
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
good luck hun n let us know whats happens xxxxxxxxxxx
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthormcquire81
I think your doing the right thing so dont worry, your not being selfish. its your day and your entitled to invite who you want. My mum was acting in a similar manner regarding my dad and she would come out with some spiteful comments every time his name was mentioned. In the end i just told her straight how much it upset me and at the end of the day its not my fault she doesnt like him, he's my dad because she picked him so she would just have to suck it up and deal with it for one weekend!! Might seem harsh but she couldnt argue it and hasnt said anything bad since! Good luck, im sure it will turn out ok in the end xx
