to cut a long story short. i braught up my younger brother(16) and 2 sisters (12 and 6) because my mother was more interested in bingo and going out. my mother left my dad 11 year ago and she remarried 6-7 year ago and then seperated from him 3 year ago. i moved out of my mums house and into my fiance's parents when i was 4 month pregnant with my daughter. i was 17 at the time. i moved out because my mother was trying to take over.2 years ago my sister katie (12)was taken from my mum for neglect and abuse. she got put with my aunt but 4 month ago she was put into care because my mother wouldnt leave her alone (she was suppose to have 1 hr a week phone contact but she was meeting up with my sister on her way to school. she was telling my sister to be naughty. my sister started acting out and soiling herself). my mother phoned social services on me saying that i was a bad mum and she got me done for benefit fraud (i wasnt doing benefit fraud). my mother has turned my dad,brother, older sister and youngest sister against me. i want my dad to give me away at my wedding but i am worried that he will tell my mother where i am having it and she will turn up. my mother owes my fiance money and she has reported him to the police saying that he is a pedo just because he is older than me. my mother has only seen my daughter 5 times in 2 years because she wont go to a contact center. i want my dad,brother and sisters at the wedding but i dont want all the hasstle that comes with them. WHAT DO I DO?? do i invite them and risk my mother finding out or do i not tell them?





PLEASE HELP!

Could u ask ur dad 2 give u away and c wot he says 1st before u tell him where it is? Then ask if he cud possibly keep it under wraps so she doesnt find out?

Does he need to know? If he is giving you away then he would be leaving with you to go to the venue anyway. Or if you are staying at the venue the night before could you arrange for someone to pick him up from somewhere and take him? xxx

Wow I feel for you you have had so much to put up with my advice is remember what this wedding is for it is for you and your husband to start a new life together do you really want your day to turn into a drama which it will if she gets to hear about it she has tried to ruin you in every way so far what will stop her on the biggest day of your life and if you can't trust ur dad then you have to ask yourself what is more important to you if you couldn't possibly consider not being given away by him then dont tell him until last minute to avoid as much as poss your mother finding out make it a condition that nobody tells her and have someone outside the church so that she doesnt get the chance to spoil what should be the best day of your life. If they can't do this for you then family or not they shouldn't be there friends only don't feel bad remember its your day don't let it be spoilt take charge of this situation and all the best x

Aw hun, sending big hugs, alot going on there, alot you dont deserve at all.
as the others have said, you have plenty of time before having to send invites out and doing the finer details, so maybe give them all some space for a while, think you need it more to clear your head and get into a good headspace for you and your OH and daughter. This day is about you and your OH and the life you will be living together, so focus on that for the moment, and maybe in time speak to your dad about giving you away and like the others have said, if needs be, he doesn't need to know where it is you are going to get married until the morning of, when either your in car with him or he has a lift over!

Dont let anything spoil your big day, they are your family but they aren't worth the hassle hun, hope all improves for you xx

I no it may sound excessive but if she is being so vindictive and abusive to wards you an/or your family can you not discuss some sort of restraining order? I dont know how they work tho. As for your dad i agree with the girls dont tell him where it is just tell him on the morning. Or if not you can hire 'bouncers' for the door and basically give them a strict guest list that way even if she does turn up she wont be able to come in. xx