Really annoyed right now.. Just called my mum to tell her I'd made the table plan and postbox and that if she went on facebook I'd send her the piccys. She tells me she can't cause dad is on the computer even though she has her own laptop.
Then I tell her that when h2b went to pick up their suits they only took his card details for the bond when they should have taken each individual one and tells me I'm worrying over nothing, well she's one to talk going on at me for weeks about a certain family member and if they're coming or not as it'll cause a fued with another family member!
So she says 'well you've obviously called me in a really happy mood to tell me whatever, you wouldn't think you're getting married next week the way you're going on!'. Thanks for the sarcasm mum.
I bought the gazebo today so we could have a bbq one day next week, what with having 4 days before the wedding i thought maybe one day we could all get together and have a bbq. She firstly tells me she doesn't know whats shes doing any of the days then as soon as i mention a bbq she tells me shes busy!
I always am the one to go visit her, and she lives 60 miles away from me, we chose to live this far away but it'd be nice for her to come visit once. We never get visitors... maybe have have family here... 2 maybe 3 times since we moved in in september. mums excuse is she doesn't have money for fuel.. dispite her and dad both not needing the car for work as they walk there, and me and h2b spending over £200 on fuel on month and we still manage it!
just really annoyed right now :( i just want this whole thing over and done with tbh... can't wait for the day to be over and no more of this stress :(
xx
CommentAuthorLegoWife
My mums quite similar, she lives miles away and has easier accessibility to visit us than we do her but she since I moved away I've seen her once a year. She's not helped with planning at all either which has been frustrating.
You just have to leave her to it and accept she just wants to show up to the wedding like every other guest.
I know it sucks though, I wish my mum would see my wedding as a bit more special rather than just making useless comments and generally seeming not bothered!
Just remember you're getting married to the love of your life and that's all that matters! :D
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CommentAuthorfiona
Try not to let her get to you, in 6 days you will be marrying the man of your dream! Easier said than done I know, but try remember the reason you are going through all this. xx
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
Don't get me wrong, she has helped a hell of a lot with the planning, but it just annoys the hell of me how she is with me sometimes.
She's been at work all day but instead of just saying 'oh im tired' or something she just gets snappy and sarcy. Its her fault I've got my sisters boyfriend coming when I don't want him there, just because my mum went on at me in *that* voice she does when she pretends she doesnt care but she blatently does, and me not wanting to cause friction just trying to do everything to please everyone :(
I can't wait to be married, and maybe it'll all be worth it on the day, but it just doesnt seem fair when im trying to make time for everyone else and they can't be bothered with me :(
All the plans I have for next week are:
Monday: street party Tuesday: take my dress in to get pressed Wednesday: nothing Thursday: pick engagement ring up and dress, dentist, and get nails done friday: get married.
So got plenty of time tuesday and wednesday to do something :( monday my mums off to the same party so will see her there but doubt she'll even stay long as my sisters arent there and she doesnt really see the people who are hosting it that much...
xx
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
thanks fiona, im trying to think like that, really am. mums got a point when she says we've got weeks to have a bbq later, but family is everything to me at the moment, even more so cause of the wedding, and i know fully well no one will bother later on... the kids will be back at school and after all this i'll be back at work 5 days a week, and mum works every other weekend so shes *always* busy on her weekends off.
oh well, was lovely me and h2b having our own bbq on our own...
oh and h2b still hasnt bought his best man a gift. i'm not doing it as its not my responcibilty! ive done everything else, all hes done is gone to get his suit and helped out when asked with diy things...
im gonna look right tight as well if he doesnt get him a gift cause ive bought everyone elses gifts, but he hasnt even thought about it... brilliant with less than 6 days to go ey!
xx
CommentAuthorKellyD
try not to let it get to you, youve got the best day of ya life soon !
my mam lives a 10 minute walk away and she has only ever came to my house once since i moved in in september last year lol and that was just so she could see where it was lol xx
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
we sorted things out :) blahh i always just need a rant when something happens with her that annoys me. my family are really close but we really annoy each other at times.. but i dont think we could ever not talk to each other again
xx
CommentAuthorfiona
Glad things are better.x we are always here for a rant when needed, and will probably need you to listen when it the other way! xx
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
haha i cant believe i put i am doing nothing tomorrow... i have our rehersal!
h2b finally bought best man and usher some cufflinks as a prezzie!
and me and h2b have settles on the campers as wedding cars!
