so we all know planning a wedding is hard, and we trust others opinion when we put our ideas forward.

so basically im having a civil ceremony, and have been thinking of ideas for music while the guests sit down etc, before my entrance.

you may have noticed i asked before about having steel drums playing at my wedding, after viewing the place again ive decided not to go with that idea.

so now i was thinking of having a guy sit on a stool in the corner playing an acoustic guitar just something light for the guests to sit down and set the atmosphere, and then when i walk down the short isle... he could sing a song of my choice.

right so i tell my mother this, her first reaction, pulled a bad face!... then looks at me and says oh is that what people do these days, ive not been to a wedding in years!... now she has been married twice and dont get me wrong she should know how it all works!

then i said i would like him to sing an upbeat song when we leave, i dont see nothing wrong with this, she says.. oh well this wedding is going to well tacky!!

i think she is a bit peeved off because she LOVES the harp, me and my partner dont, and she is trying to bully me into having it!

im so annoyed at my mother!!

Ignore her comments hun and have what you and H2B want x I think it sounds fab!

Take a deep breathe and ignore her. It's your wedding. It will be lovely what ever you choose but remember you can't please everyone! I'd give your mum a job to do so she feels like she is getting a say, but give her something you don't mind not being maybe exactlt what you would have - then you won't get in a row. Failing that, when showing her what you want for different aspects of the wedding, show her really horrendous ones that you know she'd hate first so that when you show her the option you really want she'll be relieved that you're not going for one of the first horrid options!

I think also what happens is we know in our minds what we want and can see how things fit into the big picture, other people can't x

i know how u feel... i feel as if i get that "just smelled poo" look when i suggest or talk about sumthin wedding related!!!!
just remember as nice as it is to think of others and to include ur nearest n dearest in ur special day, its all about u and ur h2b :) xx

STOP TELLING HER THINGS !!

if you dont tell her she cant say anything

my mum played this game too and i just had to tell her ITS MY WEDDING ITS WHAT I WANT LIKE IT OR LUMP IT, IF YOU DON'T BEHAVE YOURSELF AND STOP TELLING ME WHAT I SHOULD AND SHOULDN'T HAVE YOU WILL BE SITTING AT THE BACK!

she soon stopped and still helped me but was more supportive