We're getting married in 6months and barely anything is sorted because my h2b doesn't care. Whenever i bring up the fact that we've got lots of things to get sorted he just switches off.
He told me that he wants to sort out the caterers- he still hasn't. We've always had separate groups of friends because we've lived in different cities so we split the guest list in half- he still hasn't sorted his side out (arggh!).
He wants to do e-mail invites using some posh html-flash thing but he wants me to make and design it even though i've got no clue how because he doesn't want to spend the money on doing card ones.
I want everything to match (not to a ridiculous standard) but in a way that you can tell it all goes together- the design of the invites, colours of the wedding, reception decorations...that sort of thing. He keeps telling me that he doesn't care what sort of colour scheme we have. I asked him why last night and he just said that he thinks his opinions don't matter in regards to it. It ******* me off- i asked him what sort of theme/colour scheme he wanted ages ago and he told me that he didn't mind, so when I suggested that we do a sea theme he said that's ok. But now it feels like he doesn't want it, and doesn't like any of the ideas i've suggested.

I'm just getting fed up of him not getting involved, not helping with the organisation and not giving me any opinions or ideas of what he'd like. It just feels like the wedding day is a massive inconvenience to him- he seems to think that he can just turn up on the day. When i said that to him he was like "no i'm going to go other stuff like sort the musicians out"- whatever THAT MEANS.
My friends who i've spoke to who are either engaged as well or recently got married are like "does he even want to marry you if he's being like that?" I'm starting to wonder the same thing :-/

I don't know how to get it into his head that he's got to help plan and organise stuff.

all men are the same! they think that everything can be left as late as poss! last year i told my h2b that i wanted everything done by xmas but he didnt do anything! most stuff was done at the end of feb instead but only because he realised we were getting married this year and had nothing done!

I think men think that it is the brides day and know we will do a better job. He does want to marry you but men are just stupid sometimes.

Tell him you want him to help so it doesnt stress you out! Tell him it is his day too and you want to plan it together and have fun!
in the past 2 weeks my h2b has been so good and now he isnt sleeping and is stressed...he knows how i have felt for the past year now!

My h2b is a little obsessed with Africa (he's spent loads of time out there) and wants to have African Dress Robes- it seems to be the only thing he cares about! (ironically i really don't want him to wear them! lol).

In some ways I don't mind if he doesn't help with the decorations and stuff but it's more the fact that key things like organising the caterers and choosing the people coming to the reception that he just hasn't bothered to do. Quite tempted to chain him to a chair until he's done it!

I'm not sure if i should give in on the whole electronic over paper front in regards to the invites. What do you all think?

And thanks- you've all made me feel much better no i realise i'm not alone in this!

You need to spoon feed him. They can be like babbies, give him small stuff to do first, tell him its really important, and prasie him for doing a good job, men are just big children.
Oh yes and tell him no more sweets, beer or sky sports till he gets soemthing done!

i agree with Honest John...just think about when a man 'does something' he will often say 'you've not noticed what I've done for you' they need lots of positive strokes. Apart from the statement implying you should have done it in the first place!!! and if they commented on everything you had 'done for them' you would never get any sleep it would take so long..lol...you have to say 'well done darling..that's brilliant..thank you so much!! And most men don't get subtle..lol..you have to be direct and to the point.

its taken me ages to even get the other half to sort out suits its only cos we have a week off together but i have managed to get him to email his contact in thailand yay!

sould like the convosation i ha with hb2 at lunch i was trying to get him to come with me and my mother in law to see the venue all i got was what ever you want, then when i said about cars he started wittering about a frioen called micheal carr

We had a massive fight on saturday. We'd decided to sit and talk about stuff on Saturday evening, instead he blew me off without telling me so he could go to the pub with his mates! Pissed me off no end. He's tried to tell me that I'm being too stressy about the wedding stuff. Compared to the rest of my friends getting married i'm ridiculously laid back- even the hairdresser said that to me today!
Gah- it's just irritating, he doesn't seem to care about anything to do with the wedding but seems to insist on us doing email invites. I don't want them but he does...maybe i should relent and let him have them?