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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 11th 2014
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    sorry if this drags on a bit.......

    before myself and the OH got engaged we always knew what kind of wedding we wanted and that included no children at the wedding unless they had to be (like his dad has 3 daughters 3, 7 and 9 and i always knew i wanted them as flower girls)
    and we weren't going to have a page boy either as we wanted minimal amount of children up the front and lower the risk of any noise as we are having it filmed.

    so we knew that if anybody had to bring younger children then they would sit out the ceremony and come to the reception or we would have a close family friend of mine outside the church 'babysitting as such' playing with the kids until its over so no family members had to miss out on the vows as such.

    and my future Sister in-law has a son who is nearly 2 she's a single mum and iv gotta say she has no control over him one bit and doesn't seem to care when he's running around and being naughty and if anything is said she throws a hissy fit saying she's not a bad mum etc but she lives 7 hrs away so has to bring him!

    so when me and the OH got engaged in spain we started ringing my family and his family etc to tell them the good news and when it came to us ringing his sister (who's 25 by the way) we told her the good news and she immediately said 'oh matty will look so cute in his page boy outfit' which annoyed me that she just assumed he was the page boy! so my OH stopped her in her tracks and politely said that we weren't having a page boy so she said "well whats he then in the wedding" which started annoying me because it was our special moment that she was throwing demands on when we had only just got engaged!!

    so after we got back my OH went home to visit his mum and sister and she probed him again and he explained to her that we didn't want any noise during the service so she could wait outside with matty or my bothers wifes sister can look after matty outside the church along with my niece (bearing in mind she's a very popular solicitor so she's not rif raf looking after the children!) she didn't say anything to my OH.

    so anyway a couple of weeks ago she sent me a private message saying she wasn't happy about the decisions that have been made and that weddings are about kids making noise and having fun and we are being too strict and she's pissed off that her step sisters are flower girls and she's not even a bridesmaid blah blah blah and the vows are the only important part of the wedding and we are making her miss them.
    I explained about my brothers wifes sister can look after him outside and she immediately said she wasn't having a stranger with her son and if he's not with her he will scream (so if he was a page boy up the front on his own he would be surely screaming because she wouldn't up the front with him) so i compromised with her and said she can be in the church with him but she has to sit at the back so if he makes a peep of a sound she can leave with him quickly......well she still isn't happy about this one bit and is now saying why should she have to sit at the back and thats degrading! etc etc

    even my best friend of 10 years is leaving her son at home on the big day and he's my godson because she's respecting our wishes with no moaning at all.

    so now iv sent her a few messages over the past few weeks about xmas stuff etc and she is just ignoring me...my OH said if she carrys on disrespecting me then she's not invited-which is extreme and would be the worst case scenario!

    but i don't think I'm being unfair iv said he's fine at the reception we just don't want noise during the service!

    any thought on how i tackle this guys?? am i being unreasonable?

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    • NikkiE58
      CommentAuthorNikkiE58
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    I personally think that so far you have backed down a lot to this crazy SIL's demands, and she is seriously disrespecting your wishes! Even your best friend is leaving her son at home, so it's unfair for her to have her bratty child ruining your special moment as he 'has' to witness the vows! What two year old will remember that? It's boring for children! I was a BM for my Auntie and Uncle when I was about 5.. Don't remember any of it.

    Maybe point out that you are already treating her and her son very differently as they are so important to you, but the fact that you're paying probably upwards of £400 to have it filmed, and you originally asked for NO children, that she should really think about the way that she has treated you at this most stressful time.
    If I was told I couldn't bring my DD to a wedding, no matter how close we were to them, I would get a friend to baby sit them, and that would be that. In fact, I went to my friends wedding last year when DD was 3 months old, and I REALLY appreciated the time away!

    Don't let her spoil what should be a happy time for you both, and if worse comes to worst, get your OH to deal with her, it is his sister after all, and if anyone can put someone in their place, it's Siblings or parents.
    Good luck x
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    • kittyh
      CommentAuthorkittyh
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    We aren't having any children at all at our wedding so I do see your point but to be honest with the wedding almost a year away I would just drop it for now. Its quite early to be thinking about all these things. I can see why she is upset because she is a parent and she obviously feels like her son is being singled out and she isn't going to be sitting with her family, I think most people would feel like that. She knows the score now so if she mentions it just say that you have made your decision and you don't want to discuss it any more. Just let her calm down and if she wants to ignore you then just let her get on with it. In my opinion uninviting close family members should only be used in extreme cases as a last resort.
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    dont mention it for now ..... you have made what YOU want at YOUR wedding clear ... so now its up to her

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    • AshleighG14
      CommentAuthorAshleighG14
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    I have three children under three and I recently sat at the back of my best friend's wedding just incase any of the children misbehaved. They didn't have the ceremony videoed and she never asked me to sit at the back but the vows are the most important part and I didn't want any of my children making a noise and stealing the moment from the bride and groom. It's just common courtesy really. You've already backed down to her enough I think. She should be pleased that you've made an exception for her, politely remind her of that and if she keeps ignoring you or being a nuisance then let your h2b un-invite her. You should enjoy your day not worry about your sil's child making a noise. x
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    • AshleighG14
      CommentAuthorAshleighG14
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    Also, I see her point about not wanting to leave her son with the lady outside. You might know her but your sil doesn't so it would be leaving her child with a stranger, I wouldn't do that with my boys. Maybe organise for the two to meet so she feels a little easier about leaving her son with her? It might ease things a little. Also if the little man sees other children playing outside he might want to join in. x
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
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    She was certainly being a bit presumptuous assuming that he would have a role to play, although given that you have no page boy at all it's fair enough. It would be more understandable if there was a page boy. I can see her being disappointed that her younger step-sisters are involved and she isn't; I made my mum's 18 year old goddaughter bridesmaid for that very reason, I wanted her little sister as flower girl and I knew if I was in her shoes I'd be miffed if little sister was picked and I wasn't. However she has no right to assume that she would be a bridesmaid, it's obvious you're only having the young ones. Maybe you can appease her with another role, like female usher or signing the register. I can understand her reluctance to leave her son with someone she doesn't know, but it's not unreasonable to ask her to take the boy out if he is noisy. We did have children at our wedding as we both love kids, and there was a toy corner to keep them occupied, but we knew the parents would keep them quiet and under control. It's certainly not about children running around. Plus at less than two he won't have a clue what is going on, and is probably too young to be reliable in any role. My husband's nephew was almost two at our wedding, and was mostly fine but threw a paddy during the photos. It was all just too overwhelming for him, and it was a very long day, and very confusing for a child that is too young to have any concept of what is happening. My matron of honour didn't bring her two year old son or baby daughter, and the best man left his son with a grandparent as he felt he was too young. If she wants to sit in and watch the vows she could leave her son with a friend, and collect him later for the reception. He wouldn't know he was missing anything, and he'd be really bored in church.

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    i was temped to give her some type of role but then a lot people reminded me that would be only because she's throwing a fit she would be getting something so why should i, its not like we've asked her to leave her son up the line for 2-3 days.- and she can't leave him with anybody else during the service as she's travelling down 7hrs for the wedding so won't know anyone.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    as she is traveling so far to come she will obv be staying some where overnight , could she bring a friend to watch the little boy while she is at the ceremony etc and also they are there to take him if he gets tired ( he will )

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
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    We had no children at all at our wedding, and it was fab. We were quite firm with the odd person that thought they had the right to a say-so in our wedding. OUR wedding, OUR choices. My best friend from my teens who I hadn't seen for many years assumed her daughters (who I had never even met) would be bridesmaids. In the end we didn't even invite her, not to be mean, just we were very very limited on numbers.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    We had the same rule with exception of family (very few children). Everyone respected that. The ones who did bring babies ensured they could leave the church easily if they started crying. One did as at the end of the ceremony we found one of hubby's friends outside with his 3 month old baby. Very respectful.

    Sounds like his sister needs to grow up and recognise this wedding is not about her. Maybe a touch jealous?

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
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    I think she's disrespecting you tbh! It is your wedding after all. Don't back down anymore,you've done enough with this and it's great that h2b is on your side with it as I've read so many stories on here where the bride has felt alone dealing with it. Maybe let him take over with her as sounds like he knows he can stick up for himself with her x

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
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    Oh and we only had my 3 girls at my wedding and everyone respected that, in fact we didn't have any grumbles so maybe that says something about her too?x

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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
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    I think what's making it sound 'worse' so to speak is where you're trying to compromise in saying children can come but will wait outside during the ceremony. I think if you had said we cannot accommodate children then people are a bit more accepting that that's your choice, for whatever reason. But having them wait outside is showing why you definitely don't want children there. Obviously it's your choice to have whoever you want but if I was invited but had to leave my children outside then I either wouldn't bring them or wouldn't come. Is there a back up for if its raining?

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
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    I wouldn't leave my children with a stranger either, nor would I travel all that way without them. I think I would also be a bit miffed if my sister had my other sister as bridesmaid, but not me. I would find that quite upsetting, particularly if she asked me to sit at the back or stay outside if I'm honest.

    I am not saying what you have decided is wrong, it's yours and your h2b's wedding and you should do what suits the two of you, not everyone else, but I do think you will have to accept that it's a possibility that those not included in the same way are going to feel hurt. Just trying to give you another angle to look at it from. I do understand where she is coming from.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    The exact wording we used was we were unable to accommodate children unless they are family.

    Could you leave it for a while, maybe allow her to bring her little one but brief the ushers to politely seat her where she can easily remove her son if he becomes disruptive.?

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    hi carrieD26... because his stepsisters are just little girls we thought it would be lovely to have them just throw some petals on the way up to the aisle and his sister is 25 so she is an adult and we both presumed she would just kinda understand why they were flower girls, iv only met his sister twice in the 3 years iv been with my OH and thats always us driving the 7hrs to see her she's never once bothered her arse to come to us whereas my OHs dad and wife with the 3 daughters live over 11 hours away and have been down 4 times to see us, the 3 little girls draw me pictures and make me loom bands etc and his sister who is meant to be a 25yr old adult has never once bothered with her half sisters once she hasn't seen them in years infact she hasn't even met her younger sister who is now nearly 3 years old and thats not the want of trying from her dad and step mum- just a little insight to what she's like lol
    and if it rains our venue is across the road from the church like a stone throw away so they can go straight to the reception and start on the canapés lol
    and iv never once hinted that she should leave her son back at home that would be appalling all we asked for was no children during the service and the ones who have to come are more then welcome at the reception.

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
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    Maybe as a single mum it's been difficult for her to travel to visit people. Before he was born she was pregnant for 9 months and that can make travelling difficult too. It seems like she is very excited to see her brother get married to travel all that way with a toddler!

    Maybe she would have been less bothered about bring a bridesmaid if you had involved her son instead to keep it to just the kids, again, I am not saying your decisions are wrong at all, it's just how I think I would feel in the same situation.

    What makes you think she would be disrespectful and allow her child to run around in the church? I think for most, it's just natural to remove a child in that situation, I can't imagine anybody not doing so. Perhaps she is also a Lil offended that you felt the need to point that out?

    It's a tough old business trying to keep everyone happy. I'm trying to find the cut off line with ny guest list of huge family, it's not easy and seems someone is gonna be upset no matter what!
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    • AmyK
      CommentAuthorAmyK
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    On the video for our wedding, all you can hear at one point is Hubby's niece making a din - she was just short of turning three and his sister had no intention of controlling her and asking her to sit quietly. At one point they took her to the back of the (small) ceremony room as she was demanding to look around (which is exactly why I asked his sister to take the tot in there before the ceremony so she could see it all - perhaps they could've done if they hasn't have turned up late!) and made even more noise! A non-family member had a small baby making a din but never bothered to take him out either. It was the exact same for the speeches later on.
    People not removing noisy children from a wedding is rude and disrespectful in my view and shouldn't even have to be told! I always thought it was common courtesy.

    Bit as for not asking an adult to be BM I think you're not unreasonable - asking a 7 yr old but not a 9 yr old for example is one thing, but surely an adult should know better than to just "expect"!

    But then again, it was his sister that said, as we announced the date, "oh, me and (little girl) will be your bridesmaids!" - not even considering that I only had the budget for one adult bridesmaid: I was going to ask my best friend. Cut back on costs elsewhere to be able to afford to have them both as bridesmaids because she insisted and boy, was she a pain!




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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    amyK this is why i don't want kids I'm sorry your day turned out like that because of selfish people!

    CarrieD26- the reason i know she would be disrespectful and let him run around was because at his christening which was start of this year he was getting his walking legs and she didn't give a shit with him running around screaming, pulling at the people etc to the point where the priest actually said can you hold him in your arms please and she said 'he's my son not yours' this is the type of person I'm dealing with lol!!
    and if she didn't have the means to be able to visit etc then i wouldn't mind but when she leaves her son with her mum and travels to bristol for weekends away and butlin adult weekends i think she can come and see us just the once!

    tbh after putting all this down in writing its actually annoyed me more lol i think I'm going to go back to my original request and if she doesn't like it then she isn't invited!! ha

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
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    I hope I haven't upset you, I obviously don't know the woman, I was just trying to give you a different perspective on the whole situation.
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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
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    my sil is a nightmare as well, i found out that his nephew was being page boy the day we went to go try hubbys suit on a few weeks before the wedding and his mum sister and sister in law had added a childs suit to the suit hire!!! i was outraged, but h2b said to just leave it it isnt worth it lol. He didnt walk down the ailse with us or anything, it just annoyed me that the witches of eastwick took it upon themselves to just order an extra suit and decide he was a pageboy! Some people are just so rude and ignorant and they just can't see it. His family were a nightmare over our wedding and they think we are in the wrong. *rollseyes*

    the only way i could see it being a bit harsh is by making her wait outside and missing the ceremony, even with his sister being a nightmare even i wouldn't have done that lol and she is a massive B. I would however tell her to make sure she has an aisle seat and to make a sharp exit if the kid starts to make a fuss, I would also tell the person doing the ceremony to tell people to keep their children seated and if they make a fuss to please take them outside

    i really feel for you though, been married a month today (pretty much to the hour actually!) and i havent spoken to them since and it has been BLISS.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    I go back to my suggestion above

    other than that ...SLAP HER

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    carrieD26- no not at all hun i appreciate your comments, sorry if i came across like you had, i think maybe when i passionate about something i type my little hands off lol

    velcro- wow i would have flipped my lid if that had happened to me, gees you kept your cool with that one!

    well lets just say I'm glad she lives 7hrs away so having to visit etc is far in between!!!

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    • AmyP645
      CommentAuthorAmyP645
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    I have the biggest B of a SIL to be - she has tried splitting me and h2b up, she tried having our son taken off us just to spite me and tried getting me sacked. Just to name a few. I've just had to ask her to be a BM with h2b's middle sister and my MOH. Was originally supposed to just be me, h2b, MOH and Best Man and no one else at the top.

    She assumed her daughter was going to be a flower girl because she had decided when she got engaged (no sign of plans or a date yet mind) that our son was going to be page boy without asking us or mentioning anything about it! Soon after that long story short those 2 are at the front to "proove" there are no hard feelings between me and the 2 faced ......

    We personally want children at the wedding, on the day our two kids are going to be 3 yrs old and 16 months old and we are really family orrientated when it comes to the kids so the thought of not having them is unbearable to us BUT I know where you're coming from, we've allowed ipads etc on the proviso they are either used with headsets or muted to overcome the kids kicking off in the ceremony and through the speeches bit which IMO we shouldn't have to do but on the flip side we also know that the type of people on both sides will say "well your son kicked off, you stopped the wedding, calmed him down then resumed so what's the big deal with my 9 year old kicking off and staying in the room".

    You haven't got anything people can use as "precident" against you so yeah if I was in your position I'd be sticking to my guns and saying "look there is someone willing to look after them, the reception is across the road if you want your own friend to look after them, or I have already backed down and said fine he can come in but if he starts to make a fuss I want you to take him straight out" your day, not hers, if she doesn't like it she can do it differently on her wedding day.

    I'll be honest though. Even if my SIL2b was back to her old tricks I wouldn't uninvite her for the sole reason - bride will get blamed no matter what h2b says/does and no matter if the bride knew or not and trust me that is a nasty side of the fence you do not want to be on. I was blamed for h2b not talking to his sister for ages and when he did apparently ripping her apart for what she'd said/done to me, despite as far as I was aware they were talking and h2b had taken his sister's side?!

    Good luck xxx
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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
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    Amy p645 are you me?! Lol your sil sounds precisely like mine! Although tried getting her own brother sacked not me and spread all kinds of stories about me! Thus why oh doesn't speak to any of his family and only 4 are invited to the wedding and they are the 4 that don't speak to his sister! It's been 2 years of bliss since he decided to cut them out! Which was obvs my fault...
    Can't wait for the drama when they who has and hasn't been invited! :notreally:

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
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    Bride2b, you didn't at all, but reading my comments back I just thought it could be taken that I was totally siding with your SIL and I really wasn't.

    All these horror stories are really frightening!

    The only people I can see causing any issues at our wedding are Marc's mums side of the family, but they literally do not talk anymore, because she is so full of her own importance and uses her money to manipulate people. They had only been talking again for 6 months after years of not talking and she barged into my home and started shouting at me, infront of my children about how she didn't like how her son spoke to her (because she had demanded something to be done that day and we were busy) I stood face to face with her and explained that I was absolutely no responsible for her relationship with her son, nor did I control his behaviour and that there was absolutely no need for us to fall out until she had bounded uninvited into my house, upsetting my children and told her to leave.

    Only other thing is his brother has always sided with his mum and doesn't speak to their dad! But hopefully just keeping them apart as much as poss, they will be civil for Marc's sake!

    The drama of families!!
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    • AmyP645
      CommentAuthorAmyP645
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    Sprucey - lol, I wish we could but to be fair I love my MIL2B to bits, more than my own mum so wouldn't want to loose my relationship with her for anything.

    I think there's a unwritten law that we don't know about that says groom's family legally have to be evil to bride to be and cause mayhem lmao xxx
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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
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    Ha I think after the piccys are done I'm just going to merrily jump about about on my bouncy castle eat loads of cake and drink too much! Ha no drama for me..

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
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    Haha! I am right with you on that one sprucey!
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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
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    I've allowed for a whole layer to myself after depriving myself of cake until the wedding day!

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
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    I'm with you on that one sprucey I'm dieting my arse off for my wedding day i will defo be indulging on the wedding day!! ha
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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
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      Posted: Oct 14th 2014
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    I had to walk past patisserie Valerie today without getting my usual Black Forest gateaux :cry:

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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 14th 2014
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    We decided not to have children at our wedding because OH's cousins have loads of kids between them and the last couple of weddings I've been to kids have caused chaos! We're having a note put in the invites to say that due to the small size of the venue we can only accommodate children of immediate family, which will be my Niece who will be 2 and my half sister who will be 13 (perhaps not technically a child). My Sister is also expecting her 2nd child at the end of December so we will have a 4 month old baby there aswell. I did say to my Mum that I was a bit worried about how people would react to the news that children aren't invited, but she said that they don't have to come if it's a problem. My Sister certainly won't allow my Niece to be naughty either! They brought her to my Auntie's funeral a couple of months ago because they couldn't get a babysitter and she was fine. My brother in law took her outside when she got fidgety.

    Is there any way she can try and keep him occupied during the ceremony? books, stickers, colouring pens etc? I hope you manage to sort something out x
 
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