I need some help please my dad has just passed away after loosing his fight with cancer, as my weeding is so close i don't know what to do about the seating plan and my dance that I was going to have with my dad. my mum doesn't want to dance as it will be only 8 weeks since he has died to our wedding. I still have a bit to pay off for the wedding but being signed off as I can't concerted at work and being a bus driver i need 100% concentration. My hair and make up lady is great and told me I can pay after the wedding but a few other bits we have paid over half just struggling with the rest. My partner can't give anymore money as he is doing all the bills now. ahhh so stressed.
CommentAuthorFayeJ67
I'm so sorry for your loss. Know that he will be there with you in spirit if not in person
What do you have left to pay? Have you got any access to credit cards or a small loan from the bank? any friends and family who would loan you a small amount or pay for something as thier wedding gift? (e.g my sister is paying for my photographer as her wedding gift to me).
Oh bless you, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can relate to how you must be feeling as my beloved Dad also passed away two weeks ago, although I do have nearly a year to go to my wedding.
Go with your gut instinct for your seating plan, you could place a photo of Dad on the table or maybe change to a sweetheart table for just you and the groom (that's what I'm thinking of doing as my Mum also won't be there as she has Altzheimers)
As for the financial issue, could you maybe ask a family member to help out until you get back on your feet? Perhaps if you explained the circumstances to your suppliers they might give you a little more time to pay?
You'll find a way through this sad time xxx
Met: 2nd September 2012
Engaged: 3rd January 2015
Wedding day: 2nd September 2017
CommentAuthorDaniellaW94
We have max out our credit cards already. What makes it hard is that my mum and dad were paying for the drapes but don't have the heart to ask them for the money. The venue have been great and so is everyone else.
I agree that maybe asking if anyone friends and family are willing to help out? Failing that, is there anything that you could cut back on from the wedding. I know you probably don't want to cut anything back but all that matters at the end of the day is that you and OH get married and show your love to one another. xx
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
So sorry for your loss. x
Met 18/09/03
Engaged 06/09/08
Getting married 05/09/17
CommentAuthorAnikaM60
Sorry for your loss hun xxx
CommentAuthorMaxineP89
Daniella I'm really sorry to hear your news. Not sure what to suggest really, other than to ask other family or friends if they could help you out.
Donna, also sorry to hear of your loss.
With regard to your seating plan, I would go for a table with just the two of you on and your own children if you have any. As for the dad/daughter dance - do you have a brother who would be willing to step in his place or an uncle maybe (if you are close)
Looking forward to becoming the 3rd and last Mrs McLauchlan
CommentAuthorLauraH813
Sorry to hear of your loss. I agree with the other ladies in respect to money issues in seeing if any friends or relatives could help out. Very few people have a dance with their Dad, I'm not. It's more of an American thing so if people aren't expecting it then it's absence won't be noted. Your Dad is irreplaceable so I would just have your first dance with your husband and leave it at that.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.
Try to keep things as planned apart from the dance which would now have to be left. For the table plan, keep it as it is and save him a place with something like his picture and a candle.
Really hope you can get help financially from family and friends.
Sending you lots of love xx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
