Ok so my cousin announced yesterday that she is expecting a baby; thrilled for them both though a bit annoyed that we had to find out via book of the face rather then being told before she told everyone else... but anyway this means that when our wedding comes around the baby will be around 5 months old.
We weren't expecting to have a any children younger then 4/5 years old at the wedding so not sure how to accommodate a young baby.
We're still inviting them (obviously) so would like some idea on how to go about it. I don't have any young nieces or nephews so forgive me for being a bit naïve but I have no idea how they are at that age? When do they need feeding? Would we need to provide a high chair at the wedding breakfast or would the baby be too young at that age?
Help! I don't want them to feel as if they have to get someone to babysit; I'm happy to accommodate; just need to know how to go about it?
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CommentAuthorRachelE118
At that age the baby wouldn't need anything they'll be too young for a high chair and will prob be happy for hours in his/her car seat or being passed around loving relatives!! I took my then 3 month old to a wedding but wouldn't do it again as they can be quite hard work. You might find that your cousin will welcome a day without baba xx
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Thanks Rachel; like I said I don't mind if she brings him/her or not but don't want her to feel that she can't if she wants to. What did you do at the wedding breakfast? Was there an extra seat which the car seat sat on?
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
We had a 2 week old, a 3 month old, a 8 month old, 2 year, 3 year, two 4 year, two 6 years and a nine year old! Our family has a lot of kids! --the 2 week old stayed in the bar with his father for the wedding breakfast (we dont know the dad but didnt say he had to leave coz ---the mam needed help with her baby). --the 3 month old stayed in her pram at the table playing with some toys her mam brought, and had the odd chew of a carrott as well as her milk etc. --the 8 month old had a high chair, and the odd pieces of veg to munch on whilst everyone was eating - --the others all had kids meals. the main thing you remember is to check that the reception are ok with milk warming facilities, as some people are shy with feeding in public :) xxx
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
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It really depends on his parents and his own development. My youngest nephew is now just turned 6 months and he is a very chilled out baby who has just begun the process of coming off of the boob but has been on baby food and the odd solid-ish a little while now. It is likely your cousin will be worrying about this very thing themselves so it would probably be ideal speaking to them about where they can sit if the baby should need changing/feeding etc during the ceremony so she can discreetly move away without disturbing anyone but still be able to be present.
Depending on his developement he might/might no be able to hold himself up so he may need holding during feeding when getting solids. If he's moving along quickly he may need a high chair again this is something just to chat about with your cousin
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I really wouldn't worry too much at that age. They'll tell you if they need anything but I wouldn't have thought they'd need much. Not to worry you but .....the wedding we took my 3 month old to was in St. Paul's cathedral. They were both army friends. Just as the bride was about to walk in my adorable little princess made those very distinctive noises followed by that even more distinctive smell! So I had to take her out to find somewhere to change her, walked miles to find a loo then got back as the bride and groom were walking back down the aisle!!! Said princess is now nearly 18 and a bit more trustworthy these days!!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
We had a 3 month old, an 8 month old and a 1 year old at our wedding. The 1 year old and 8 month old had high chairs but the 3 month old just sat in his buggy or was held by his parents. You don't really need to provide much for a 5 month old and it's parents will know when to sort out feeds etc. Just ask the venue to leave space for a buggy by the table they'll be sat at. Alternatively a month before the wedding ask your cousin whether she needs a high chair. My niece was in a high chair from 5 months old and eating solids from about 6 months old.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
as for being annoyed about not being told before everyone on fb? are you particuarly close. the only people we told in person about expecting was our parents, siblings and best friends, cousins, auntys etc found out on fb. easiest was rather than calling the 15+ cousins and 12+ aunts uncles etc
as for the 5 month old, he or she won't require anything, like people said above will not need a high chair as upper body strength will not be there, and if hes eating any solids with be baby food which if they are mum will have with them and milk either via boobs or bottle. and like said above leave a spot for a buggy for them to sleep.
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
We've just had a similar predicament with my cousin, we'd invited him evening only as him and wife were due twins which are now 5wks old, anyway two ppl said they couldn't do all day so I rang cousin to see what they thought about coming all day...bearing in mind we're only having bridal party children and the twins will be 3months old ... I told them we wanted to upgrade them but asked if they wanted to discuss it first as we still weren't having any other children, they decided yes they would come and my cousins wife's mum is going to have the twins x
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
One of my MOH's recently had her second baby, she'll be about four months old. I'm anticipating that she will be in her carry cot and will either be breast fed, bottle fed or on baby food. The MOH will be on top table, but the dad will be on the next table with their son, so the little girl can go to either of them. Their son was on bottle feeding quite early as my friend got mastitis and had trouble feeding, I don't know if she'll have problems this time.
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Thank you everyone. Lana; I only have two cousins; we've a small family so would have been nice to be told but it was more my dad as its his niece. Oh well everyone knows now so all is fine :)
I know feeding is down to the parents; just wanted to make sure I accommodated it; I'll talk to my cousin about it nearer the time anyway. I didn't think about the milk warming station but the venue has one anyway so that's not an issue.
I'm sure there will be high hairs available at the venue if they need one. I'll make sure I let the venue know so they can leave a space for the buggy if they bring one :)
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CommentAuthorStephanieK77
At that age my lo would have been better off in a highchair than juggling him on my knee but every baby is different. You wont need to accomodate them in any other way unless you want to consider an escape route in case the baby needs taking outside. I wouldnt worry about it now. Just ask her nearer the time.
CommentAuthorGemmaR81
I took my (then) three month old baby boy to 2 of my cousins weddings. The first one made sure that we were by a door so that I could escape to change him, they made sure there were heating facilities for a bottle (jug of hot water). We just had him in the car seat by us. Then during the evening my cousin stole him and looked after him but he was as good as gold. He was great during the ceremony as well. The second wedding he was not invited to, however the reception was being held in my mums garden!!!! I did not take him to the ceremony or wedding breakfast, after the speeches my cousin said that I could go get him. Again he was passed around lol xxx
