please help :(

My younger brother (hes 18 im 23) is down atm and i just want to help him!

His girlfriend is younger than him and he does everything for her! Its my parents' 50th birthdays this year and in 2 weeks theyre taking me and my h2b, my bro and his girl to Egypt all inclusive for 2 weeks - their treat. This was entirely their decision and we're so grateful!
But apparently shes not... she left her passport till yesterday to get renewed so she had to pay an extra £70 to get it back quicker.... that was his fault apparently.
The fact that shes (only recently) working full time hours to get money is his fault
He does nothing for her, he treats her horribly, he puts his dog over her, he makes her do things she doesnt wanna do etc etc etc - she keeps saying all these things to him and hes gettin so upset.

He literally does absolutely anything for her, we all do! I took a day off work (unpaid) to get her passport sorted - but apparently i shudnt have got involved (according to her now), my parents have paid for a hol for her.... her parents are taking my brother and her away on hol but are making him get a flight to paris by himself (theyre all going in car and no room for him) and then once in paris get to the train station and get a 2 hour train to meet them.... hes scared as hell to go cos he doesnt like asking for help and hes worried hes going to get stuck somewhere - but apparently acording to her this is just him causing problems for her!

Ive told him numerous times that only he can decide whether all this is worth going through to be with him

But last night at midnight she actually made him cry!!!! He walked out of my parents house at midnight and didnt get back in till 1am - my dad was so worried about him!

We all are!

I just dont know what to do! But im so worried

We found out only recently that my Grandad has advanced mouth cancer and thats a lot to deal with as we're really close to him - but for her to put this added stress onto my brother isnt right at all!

I dont know what to do - any advice? xxx

get him to ditch her!!! she sounds like a grade A b*tch the only thing you can do hun is be there for him xxx

My mums tried the whole "just dump her" speech and now he doesnt talk to her about it so ive gotta tread carefully xxx

that would be the worst thing you could do you haveto get him to make the dissision x x x

Thats what i thort mrsstockwin2b! xx

Thanks Ashlie!

Yeah he knows he can talk to me about anything, he also talks a lot to my h2b!

Its just hard seeing him go thru all this then when i see the girl shes all happy happy in my face and i find it hard not to deck her lol

xx

maybe get h2b to take him to the pub for some bonding time & get him to talk to him xx

It wont take him long to realise i hope! i would find it really hard to not deck her too! but saying that she its not really her fault she just sounds imature and unable to deal with this when they split up she will look back and realise what she had with him. She just sounds like a spoilt brat x x x x

YAY! lol x x x

Maybe I can pay her a visit??? Show her a few photo's taken of me a couple of years ago after the man I was with showed how appreciative he was to have me in his life.... That might make her sit up and realise what a gem of a guy she has in your brother!! Some women don't deserve the good guys!!!!!!

OK now ive calmed down a bit and got that off my chest I agree with the other's hun! There is nothing you can do, my best friends boyfriend was cheating on her for 2 years, I could never prove it so chose not to say anything, eventually I got what I needed and told her, she ended up not speaking to me and married the guy and continued to employ the woman he had cheated on her with! We had been friends, best friends for 24 years when that happened! We didn't speak for 4 years, I missed her wedding (not that I am bothered now as it was to him and they are since divorced as he cheated on her AGAIN) but we lost 4 years of our relationship.. we are the best of friends again now and she is once again being my bridesmaid! The moral of the story... keep quiet, let them come to you when they need to, as long as they know they have you to turn to that is all you can do!!

It breaks my heart to read what sort of relationship she is creating... He has to get out for his own sanity but only he can do it and in his own time.

BIG HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR BROTHER HUN x x x x

f*ck her up!

:D

I would maybe get her on her own Nicola and speak to her one on one (adult to adult) and just tell her how she is making your brother feel and that he absolutely worships the ground she walks on but she is zapping all the life from him by treating him like this. I think somone even if it's not you has to sit this girl down and have a serious talk with her she can't treat people like that how she like it if the shoe was on the other foot I bet her family would be the first in their shouting their mouths off at your brother if that was the case. It's just not on!!xx

to be honest, i think he needs to learn from his own mistakes. when i was 15 i started a relationship with a horrible guy but was so obssesed by him, no matter what people said i didnt listen. if anything, it pushed me further to him. 2years later it all ended horribly and i knew id made a big mistake not listening to my friends and family. i have learnt from this though and i think thats what your brother needs to do. you can talk to him about it 'til you're blue in the face but he wont listen. i know you want to protect him but sometimes you just cant x

i dont think other people like your parents are helping her bratty behaviour by forking out £80 on holiday clothes. she sounds spoilt, and to be honest if shes getting away with it she has no reason to stop does she? you might find that if things do change, she might breakup with your brother herself (you can only hope).
if i was in your position, i would be honest and tell him exactly how you feel, tell him that you love him and can see things arent right. but make sure he knows that no matter what he does, you will always be there for him to help pick up the pieces. the last thing you want to do is have him fall out with you x

Well it wasnt so much of givin it to her as they treat us all (my h2b me my bro and her) to £80 each cos theyd won sum money at the casino!
But i can see what u mean!
Ive just sed that only him can decide what to do and im not going to force him to do anything but just to let him know that no1 will be annoyed at him if she doesnt end up coming on holiday with us - we just want him to be happy!
x

Oh hun I do feel for you and your brother. You are in an awful position when you can quite clearly see he is being used but if he doesn't want to see it right now then it may be best not to push it. You don't want to fall out with your brother over it as you both seem very close. xxx