My dad passed away suddenly six years ago so will not be here to give me away on my big day, when my sister got married two years ago she chose my brother to give her away and he took no pride in what a big deal giving her away was, he did not prepare a speech and talked about my dad at unappropriate times and this just ended up with my family in tears for most of the day. So now its my turn to walk down the aisle and I chose my uncle to give me away, despite the fact he is no blood relation to my dad (he is his brother in law) they were best friends when they were younger and wierdly enough they look so alike its scary. I chose my uncle because he has always been there for me since I was a child and I know he will take great pride in giving me away and will do a beautiful speech, including my dad in an appropriate and light hearted way. My brother is now refusing to come to my wedding and told me that if he was not giving me away then I can go f*** myself and never talk to him again. I decidied this was not gonna push me into choosing him over my uncle but I really want my brother therte on my big day and do not know how to go about changing his mind or if his reaction is not worth me asking him??
HELP PLEASE!!!!!!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
CommentAuthorSuzi
I was going to say give him time hun but I just realised your getting married in 7 weeks so I don't think time is on your side! Unfortunately if he has made up his mind not to be there then I don't think there is anything you can do apart from accept his decision and don't let it ruin your day! Think about it, if he was there, would he ruin things for you because he felt put out?? I know it must be hard hun but I think you have made the right decision! x x
Do not disturb... Already disturbed enough!
CommentAuthorclarkweddingseptembe
Yeah I am sure your right ------ thanks xxxxx
CommentAuthorGoff
If he cannot accept that you have chosen someone YOU want then is he really worthy of an invite anyway?
He's acting like a spoilt kid - it is NOT his right to give you away, it is an honour and a priveledge, and if you want your uncle to do it - and it sonds like he would make a lovely stand-in for your dad - then you stick to your guns. Do not be bullied by your brother who clearly needs to grow up x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
CommentAuthornora
Could you not explain why u chose ur uncle and perhaps think of a role that he can have at the wedding?? Maybe making sure everyone is getting seated and confirm things with the venue that things are running smoothly...just a thought x
honestly I know you wont him there because he is your brother but he sounds like his throwing a dummy and tbh if he is not there to see you get married it is him who will miss out the most not you. after all its your day there will be loads of family and friends for you and he will be alown.
I would give noras idea a try though if he has a job then he might feel better about it. but don't let him push you around particularly if he was so wildly inappropriate at your sisters wedding. maybe you should also tell him that's one of the reason for not asking him in the first place.
Dyslexic
its spelt wrong
I No! I Now! I Know!!!!!
I am NOW MRS LONSDALE!!
CommentAuthorclarkweddingseptembe
Well we wanted him to be an usher and he refused, he says the only thing that will make him come to the wedding is if he gives me away
xxxx
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
why not have both of them give u away..one on each side of you..that way they can both be part of the giving away and he might not feel left out..just explain thats the only way he can get to give u away xx
17.09.2010 ---I am officially Mrs Rebecca Mollins
Twilight - its' like my own personal brand of Heroin...
Edward Cullen - The Hottest Vampire since 1901 !!
I have OTD - Obsessive Twilight Disorder :D
CommentAuthorlinzi
i am prety sure he will be changing his mind. It might not be till the day before, but he will be there!! Just let him strop in the meantime
I don’t repeat gossip so listen very carefully!!
Started Slimming World - 23/03/2011 - 2 Stone to lose!
Total Loss = 1 stone 7 lbs.
As at 23/11 - 3 days before the wedding.
CommentAuthorclarkweddingseptembe
this argument has been going on for over a year now though and as our food at the venue is so expensive and limited to only 60 people I cannot afford to keep a place open for him just in case he decides to come. Also you would never fit three of us in the aisle lol and hif he had agreed to be an usher then he would have been walking down the aisle with my son
xxxxx
CommentAuthorlinzi
I think you have to keep a place open for him in case he decides to come. He is your brother, and if he decides the day before he is coming, and apologies, how are you going to explain to him that he cant because you never kept a place open for him? He'll never speak to you again and will be very very hurt. (he still deserves a kick up the bum, but he would be hurt)
I don’t repeat gossip so listen very carefully!!
Started Slimming World - 23/03/2011 - 2 Stone to lose!
Total Loss = 1 stone 7 lbs.
As at 23/11 - 3 days before the wedding.
