I think i would react the same but if you hear on the news they are cutting back on drugs out there. To be honest with you i would be a party pooper and not allow it, i would even pay for them all to go somewhere else if i had to. I just think that we all know why and what they are going out there for no matter how much you trust them. xx

Me neither there would be no way on this earth I would be letting my hubby to be go there. It's not that I don't trust him but more that his mates are a little crazy!!! I think mine is going Dog Racing then out for a few beers! Hoefully we will lose that much money on the dogs he won't come home too worse for wear! Also I have told him no stag nights too close to the wedding!!!! xx

My Hubby is on about going on a massive Pub Crawl in Tallin in Estonia i have not heard many rumours about this place so hopefully he will be safe. Yes i agree i think i may have my Stag night at the same time to avoid biting my nails off...he he xx

My other half doesn't even want a stag night. It's their mates you have to worry about. There's always one who doesn't like the whole marriage idea. It's jealousy I reckon - they think they won't see him as much once he's married and you can always tell they're not 100% supportive even if they say so. Mind you, we're in our mid-thirties so I don't think clubbing is really on the scene any more - more like a decent meal and a few drinks! Couldn't agree more. I know my fella would be fine but his mates will definately try and egg him on. If you trust each other then it will be fine - have a mad hen weekend yourself so you and your friends feel better!! xxx

I'd let my hubby go to amsterdasm, he is going to poland Krakow though. I can go where i want for my hen do and he can go wherever for his last weekend of freedom x

I wouldn't mind if Mark wanted to go to Amsterdam. I trust him enough. Even though his mates are assholes when it comes to drink, he is sensible enough to behave...... and if he didn't.... i wouldn't be blaming his mates thats for sure....

They have their own minds and know right from wrong, beer or no beer.....

Edd wanted to do something like this, until I told him in that case I would be doing the same. He didnt seem quite so keen then!

I'd let my h2b go, i say let but i dont have a choice-i do however trust him enough to know i wouldnt need to worry :)

Dean's going to Poland for his.......meant to be even worse than Amsterdam now. On the plus side, he wet to Latvia last month for a stag do and they all behaved themselves!

id let mine go!! :D
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Completely agree goff!!! x

I agree also!! My H2B's ex wouldn't even let him out on a Friday night, my soon to be BIL's wife wouldn't let him go to the Dam so they are going somewhere else! It proper winds me up! If a man or woman for that matter is going to do something they will do it no matter where they are!

I have a hard job trying to get my h2b to go away! Lol I think its important to spend time apart, ive never understood women who dont let their partners out?!

Before I got pregnant again we'd actually talked about a joint hen/stag do in Amsterdam. The plan was to spend the day as one big party, go to a few 'coffee shops' have a stroll around, maybe an art gallery or a windmill or 2. Then in the evening we'd go our separate ways and more than likely bump into each other in the red light district lol

If he's going to do something naughty then he'll do it wherever he goes. Like Goff said - go to any town for pot and strippers.

But think on this ladies..................
"Darling, the girls and I are going to Blackpool for my hen weekend"
"Erm, so you can get pi$$ed, make an exhibition of yourself and act like hussies for the weekend? I don't think so petal. You can go to the WI coffee morning instead" (on the basis that you have friends that he doesn't trust)
(sorry, being very stereotypical of Blackpool there!!)
Now be honest - exactly how effed off would you be if he reacted like that to something that YOU wanted to do? Relationships are a 2 way street ;)

Well...............and I'm just generalising from the umpteen wedding forums I've used.........

A lot of b2bs seem to forget that h2b has feelings and ideas of his own and that he ought to 'tow the line' Consequently these notions cause a lot of posts like this. It's a 'do as I say, not as I do' mentality. Let's face it - we're ALL excellent at telling others how they should behave, but we're not so great when someone does it to us (again, generalisation)

As has been said - if your fella is going to do something hugely daft then he can be in Leeds, London, Newcastle, Amsterdam, Krakow, Rome, Paris and he will STILL do it!! You go to any nightclub anywhere in the world and you can lay your hands on anything from pot to rohypnol, it's just it's slightly more relaxed in the Dam.


My point is this - YOU will have friends that he doesn't like, YOU will probably do things that make him cringe, YOU are probably organising a whole heap of stuff for the wedding that he can't stand - difference is that when he disagrees with you he's the bad guy, if you disagree with him he's STILL the bad guy because you don't think his ideas/thoughts/feelings/desires have any merit. Men are clever (no, really!!) when it comes to things like this - they know which battles to pick. Women on the other hand tend to fight every battle going.
You h2b is a human being, an adult human being who knows right from wrong. He's not a dog, you cannot control him, keep him on a leash, reward him when he's good and scold him when he's bad. And trust me, you treat him like a dog and watch him become a stray

*gets off soapbox* LOL

:D I talk sense occasionally, just don't expect it too often LOL

Seriously, I've learnt this the hard way. You tell your fella what he should and shouldn't be doing and it causes frustration, frustration causes rebellion and that can take on so many forms and unfortunately it tends to be searching for greener pastures if you know what I mean. Without realising it you bring about the thing you were petrified of happening in the first place :(

A 'perfect' relationship is based on mutual respect and understanding :)

If you trust your man enough to marry him then you should trust them enough to go any destination!! Surely they are old enough to know what they are doing!! Your marrying each other, but that doesn't mean your not going to have your own thoughts and feelings, and that you may want to do things sometimes that the other wont like. But that's life. xx

Thanks Kerry. He always tells me what he gets up to as well- which is not always a good thing when he rings me at two in the morning to tell me!

My father in law will probably go- as will at least one of his uncles!

Iz - travel insurance should be bought for ANY trip abroad, and it's not expensive - I agree, it's only the possibility of injury that's a problem, but he's more likely to hurt himself skiing!

And languages? Amsterdam is amazing - there are people begging on the street in English, French, German and Flemish - makes me embarrassed to be British :)

lol Dove - gotta love those 2am phone calls hahaha

But again Iz - I do understand where you're coming from, but if he's like that with his drinking then he can go into the local town, get sloshed and break his legs. Most places in Europe speak English alongside their primary language and if he gets travel insurance healthcare costs nothing. Just make sure he goes in plenty of time, like 2-3 months before

And no b2bnicola - it's got absoutely diddlysquat to do with location, it all boils down to the sort of person your h2b is