Hi you all! Here I am again, having doubts about what is the right way to do it. I was searching online, and I saw that, when the parents are married, you traditionally refer to them as 'Mr. and Mrs. (Father's name)'. However, Mum would never be happy with that and I would love to have her name on the invites. So, I thought about "Mr. and Mrs. (Father's name) and (Mother's name)". Would this be right?! Is there any best way to do it?
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Alternatively you could do Dads fullname & Mums full name rather than mr + mrs
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
CommentAuthorCamilaL
Wouldn't it be weird without the Mr and Mrs? I like your idea very much, just need to know if it wouldn't looks weird...
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
It doesn't really make sense to have Mr and Mrs Dads name, mums name.... either go for Mr and Mrs surname, or dads first name and mums full name.
For example Mr and Mrs Curtis.... or Stephen and Angela Curtis.
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I dont think it will look weird at all, I'm very much of the mindset its your wedding have it your way.
Our invites are going from our son. SILs invites came from her mum and dad and it was just their first names used.
After 7 years and 11 months he proposed to me 18.10.13
Our son is 5 years old and our world
Getting married 15.08.15.
Life hasnt been easy but we have each other :)
There is one phrase that comes to mind here and that is 'your wedding, your way'!
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorCamilaL
Hahaha I agree with you on the "your wedding, your way". But I also want to make our parents happy and proud, cause they are really special for us and have helped us since the beginning. I am going for the "Dad's first and Mum's full name" for both our parents. And using just our first names, ignoring the middle ones lol
Thanks girls :*
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
You could put Mr *father's name* and Mrs *mother's name*
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorSydnieH
We have one for Mr and Mrs with my dads initial and surname. Luckily for us my mam and dad actually both have the same initial. I can't wait to become a Mrs and I'd guess if your mum and dad are married then your mum probably wont mind having it that way. All I can suggest is to ask though. I asked my mam if she wanted it traditional and she said it was up o us as it's our day, however she does like the sound of it. So that's what we went for
CommentAuthorFlossie
If you want to have the Mr and Mrs I would probably do 'Mr First Name Last Name' and 'Mrs First Name Last Name' x
Happily married
18th June 2016
xx
CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
edited
I would put Mr Father's Name & Mrs Mother's Name if you want to have the Mr & Mrs :) x
Got together on 14th March 2010
Got engaged on 25th December 2013
Became Mrs P on 14th May 2016 - best day ever!
CommentAuthorCamilaL
My Mum is that kind of person that is very sensible and that is always thinking that we are leaving her behind. So, I know she would need to read her name on the invite to feel good. =/ Hope h2b family don't think it's too weird, but I have to put mum's name somehow on the invitation lol For now, I am not using the Mr or Mrs. Just their names. But i will try all the options you gave to me, to see which one sounds better :D
CommentAuthorFlossie
Why would your OH's family think that was weird? It's completely normal! x
Happily married
18th June 2016
xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
what does it matter what h2bs family think ..... are they going to see your parents invite ?
Lala, this would be for the invite wording. And Mum asked me to write it like both pairs of parents were inviting for the wedding. So I will need a pattern on how to do it. I've wrote their names without the Mr/Mrs. The other thing is that I am not using our mums full names. Like Mum's name is Severina but everyone knows/calls her by Sônia. And I don't see why I should use "Severina". I've talked to her, and at first she was like "But Sônia is not my name"... But come on, no one (not even her parents) call her this way lol
CommentAuthorCatherineR
My fiancee has always had a shortened version of her name but on legal documents and official records she has her proper name therefore we are putting her official name on invitations and wedding 'things' as we personally feel that that is the way to do things. Maybe it's a cultural difference with us compared to you as I think you are from Brazil? :) x
Married my wife on 15.08.15
Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorFlossie
I would be tempted to go more formal for the invitations and use her actual name
Happily married
18th June 2016
xx
CommentAuthorJennK
I'm having this drama as officially I am a Jennifer, and I use Jennifer at work. But everyone else calls me Jenn or Jennie. So which do I use?! Gah.
Our perfect day - 08.08.15 <3
CommentAuthorCamilaL
I agree that it sounds better having their proper name, but I don't know... Actually, if she asked at first for her proper name, I should go for it, right?
CommentAuthorFlossie
I think proper, formal name for invitations. And you can be less formal for the place settings/table plan :-)
Happily married
18th June 2016
xx
CommentAuthorElizabethS30
I agree with formal for the invitations then less so for place settings. Everyone calls me Beth so it's going to be weird to see / hear Elizabeth for all the wedding stuff! xx
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Ours were pretty formal; they came from my parents and it said 'Mr and Mrs John Doe request the honour of your presence..' That was their choice though. Another option is simply 'Mr and Mrs Doe', or, you could go with 'Mr John and Mrs Jane Doe'.
We addressed the invitations with a similar level of formality and used people's full names for the most part, particularly with people my parents don't know well (eg one of their friends is called Elizabeth but they have never called her that, so didn't use it; but for OH's family and friends they used full names as we felt it would be rude to use nicknames/shortened names where my parents didn't know them).
For place cards we went very informal, even using nicknames, and the guests really liked that :-)
CommentAuthorCamilaL
Yeah, I've talked to mum and we agreed to keep if formal for the invitations :) And, so far, no "Mr/Mrs"...
