Hello Brides,

I recently got engaged 4 weeks ago, in Disneyland, was so romantic. Me and my Fiancé have been together for four years and I was so pleased when he popped the question. I was on cloud 9 for about 24 hours until my Mother had something to say.

She was never keen on him but asked him around for Christmas, birthdays, etc and accepted him.

My Fiancé spoke to her himself to see what the problems were etc and tried to answer questions she had about him.

My Dad is happy for me but is being brought down by my mum.

She doesn't like the age gap, (13 years) im 24 he is 37, both in the same job, he has little' uns (2) from a previous relationship. I know what im getting into, I sought legal advice to appease her etc. She has said she doesn't like him.

I found the dress I want. Its amazing! I absolutely have fallen in love with it and she doesn't like it. (Dianne Harbridge)

She initially said she didn't want to be involved. Now she is saying she wants to be, my Fiancé on the other hand initially wanted her involved but because of her behaviour he now doesn't!

Im soooooo stuck! and im not enjoying being engaged, ive probably been crying everyday since on my way to work and trying to be there for my Fiance. She has calmed down a lot since but I am feeling begrudged to let her help now.

She wants invite people I don't like or speak to!

Im having a HUGE DILEMMA...and its not even till friggin' Dec 2015!

I don't know what to do, who to please, how to regain my engagement 'happiness', I want to buy my dress she is saying it will yellow etc. NOTHING HELPFUL or positive!

HELP!

I shouldn't think ur dress will age if its stored properly and responsibly...and since it takes a while to come in anyway,it won't be stored for as long as she thinks,there's lots of brides on here that have bought their dress years in advance and nothing wrong with it when it came to the big day! I don't think ur mum should be inviting ppl u don't know of don't want there especially with the reaction she had to your engagement in the first place...I really think that's underhand of her to even ask! I think if she wants to help now then let her and give her a second chance as she may have just been a little in shock to begin with with but definitely only invite ppl that u and ur fiancé want there x

That's old hat the parents inviting people. My mum tried the whole wedding etiquette thing with me and I told her its my wedding so I can do what I want and if she wants an invite she will be have and support my decisions. Ah had her nose out of joint for a while but soon came round and supported me

Sometime u have to go bride zilla on everyone to get them to understand

If they were paying for the wedding it would only be fair that they get to select some guests. If they aren't paying then it is up to you if they get to select guests or not. Perhaps to appease her you could create a B list (more likely Z list) for her guests and they will only be added if your preferred guests are unable to make it.

first off - 13 years is nowt - there's that between myself & H2B - well, fellas sometimes need a bit longer than us girls to grow up.

If your parents were paying for everything, then yeah, maybe they would have some say in the guest list, but generally that is really old fashioned for them to demand that, the same way that them marrying you off to the son of your dads business partner is old fashioned.

You'll have to learn the nodding, smiling and saying "thank you for your idea, I'll consider that" and promptly ignoring it, or "oooh, its ages off - too soon to think about that yet".
Tell you mum less, that way, what she doesn't know, she can't disagree with.

But sure, get your dress if you're sure its the one you want :-)

13 years is nothing, there's 20 years between my sister and her fiancée! don't get me wrong my dad wasn't impressed to find he was only 4 years older than him but he didn't let that get in the way of getting to know the guy, and as for inviting people you don't know or like I agree with some of the other's if she was paying fair enough but as she's not then it's your choice, my partners mum is hoping to put some money towards our wedding and we are looking at letting her invite a few of her friends, but it would be to the reception only and the same goes for my parents, at then end of the day hun it's your wedding your choice xx