Sorry bit of a long and confusing one but bear with me ... Im not getting married until May next year but I am already feeling totally stressed by my immediate family, I think it would make a fab show for Jeremy Kyle or Jerry Springer. My Mum and Dad have not seen each other since my 7th birthday (Im now 30!) my Dad has remarried and his wife, although she regularly speaks before she thinks and can be offensive, always means well, my Dad is very mild mannered and my Mum hates them both. I keep thinking I should get them to meet up before hand if not to be best friends at least to be civil! I dont really know how to ask them though as I know my Mum will get upset and or angry. My Mum has since been remarried twice and divorced twice both of her ex's and their wives will be coming as they were a big part of my life and I have remained in contact with, much to my Mum's dislike. My sister is also a problem in that she owes all of my family money and also my Mum's ex's, one of whom was her landlord until she legged it without paying him a few months rent. She is also not pleased that I dont want her to be MOH or bridesmaid. I don't know what to do to keep the peace or if it is even possible to keep the peace. I want my wedding to be the one of the happiest days of our lives and not ruined by something happening or me worrying that something will happen. Any advice or comments gratefully received Em xxx
CommentAuthorBobsi
sounds like your in a right situation there. If you want them all at the wedding then they all have to respect your wishes, if they cant be civil they shouldnt be there, its not fair it could ruin your day. Tell them all that for the one day they need to put up with each other being in the same room even if they dont speak to each other- just dont sit them at the same table. xx
Got together June 11th 2006
Getting married June 11th 2014
8 years to the day and I'll be Mrs T.
CommentAuthorObsidian_Winter
Tell them all that they will all be civil or they will not be invited. Empathise with them in as much as they have each got valid feelings towards one or more of the others, but inform them that if the even consider using your wedding day as a battleground then they will be removed from the ceremony at the very least, if not more.
Be firm, and if, like me, you can't bring yourself to do it, pass the job to your H2B.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I would tell them all how much you love them and ask them to all be civil and not to do anything to ruin your day, it is only for one day after all and if they all love you and want you to have the best day of your life so far they will behave themselves. If anyone plays up then have them removed hun.
Good luck xx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorEmmaH32
Thanks ladies, will definitely have a talk maybe try separately at first then organise a family engagement/get together to introduce the in laws to the rest of my family ... anyone know a good security company ? lol Thanks for all your advice xxx
