My mother is doing my head in, bear with me it might take me a while to write this down.
Since I said that she would have to driver her car to the church so that my parents can get to the reception venue which is a good 20 min drive for the church, she has been in a huff. Basically because she's not getting a wedding car as we are trying to do this on a budget she has got really funny. Apparently the usher has to walk her down the aisle to her seat! I've never heard of this in my life and every time I see her she is giving it, well my friend who got married said that any single woman has to be walked to their seat down the aisle by an usher. Personally I think this is a load of rubbish and I tell you something this is not happening, she is only doing it because she wants to be the centre of attention at my wedding cos she's that kind of person! It's doing my head in, she is giving it all well I would do it this way blah blah blah, I don't consider my self a conventional bride, yes I'm having the 'formal' wedding but I'm putting my own spin on it but she just keeps coming up with these superstitions and traditions that I have to follow! I can't win!!
The flower girls car, they are coming with their parents so that they can be kept an eye on and kept clean, they don't know my BMs well enough to listen to them and I want my older BMs to make an entrance in a nice car that I'm borrowing from my brother in law to be, my mum therefore thinks that because the older Ms are having a ribbon n their car that the flower girls should too!!! I've put my foot down! There is a reason though, it's their everyday family car, nothing special just a car wi car seats in, I don't really want to put car seats in my BIL2Bs car and then have to squeeze my BMs in, I want to get to the church in one go, I just can't win, everytime I go round to my mothers there is always something else she wants or expects me to do!!!!
Anyone having these problems..........
*rant over*
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
BREATHE now tell her to sht up as it is your wedding.
Sorry if you want her to drive her car then she drives her car or she pays for her own car to drive her places.
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
XxX
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
She's only driving it to the church then my dad is driving it, they are getting a tax home after the day or staying in the hotel so I don't see the problem, stupid woman, it's caused so many argument with my OH, it's like she's living her dream wedding through us!! Grrrrrrrr!!
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
Well tell her to back off. Sorry but my mum doesnt like some of or chooses but she is happy to have them as it is OUR wedding you mum should do the same
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
XxX
CommentAuthorSheWolf
My mother said to me about 5 days after we got married, some argument we were having over whether or not I should have a DJ and she used the phrase "I'm putting my foot down here." We had a massive screaming match and then agreed that she has no right to use that phrase as it is my wedding. Just tell her "Your suggestions have been taken on board but it is OUR wedding and WE are doing it OUR way, not yours. Thanks for your input, but that's enough of it." And say that she is welcome to have her own car, so long as she is paying for it.
Lol, you need to tell her nicely it's your day and not hers so butt out! My mum was quite chilled out about everything till the other day when she decided she wanted to do my wedding bouquet! She was talking to my friend who is doing the flowers and suggesting ideas that are completely different to what I want and what Charlotte and I agreed on! She also phoned me the other evening to say she has a better idea for the hand fasting table cloth which Mark and I chose and bought :-( I know she is only doing it because she loves me and wants to help but I think I will end up falling out with her if she carries on lol.
CommentAuthorSheWolf
Got engaged, not married! Lol.
CommentAuthorPaula
Tell her to pay for her own car if she doesnt want to drive, alternatively she can get a taxi.
I know how you feel because my mum also goes out of her way to create problems as she like to be centre of attention. Do everything the way you want it and tell her if she is going to continue with her non-sense you will not tell her anything else xx
CommentAuthorPaula
This ladies is why I am not telling anyone until I have made all my arrangements
I have 1 older bm who knows and a close friend because my mum took over my first wedding and I would not have it again x
CommentAuthormadison_uk
tell her to butt out if she dosent want to drive catch the bus, mothers hey
CommentAuthorkimmy
Why do mum's go a bit mad over a wedding, grrr !!!
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
Can you not get her a cheap car if she continues to kick off and get her to pay for it.... ?
Im having a third car for my mum and my gran.. its was only £35 as i had already paid for my car and the BMs car.. so they gave me another car cheap.. but mum is paying for that!
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
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the whole point of her driving is so that they have a car at the reception so they can get home the next day as a taxi will cost a bomb but she just won't have it! the main thing is the flower girl ribbon, she brings it up everytime i go round! she just won't let it drop!
we aren't paying for the cars so we can't just add another car on even if she is paying for it. why do weddings bring out the worst in people!
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorkimmy
Sounds like she is brewing for a fight, don't give up,she is being very silly!!!
