I am getting married next summer and am having 3 bridesmaids: my sister and two best friends. As I don't want a lot of people around me, I'm not even asking my best friend from school, who I was a bridesmaid for (she won't mind). My fiancé has an older sister with 19 and 10 year old daughters. Unfortunately, his mum expects me to have his nieces as additional proper bridesmaids and says it's the only thing she cares about. Am I wrong in my thinking that it's the bride who picks her bridesmaids from her family and friends? Things have turned really nasty with her, but I am trying to stand my ground. Not sure how it will ever end without me backing down though :-( I'd love to hear your thoughts and advice please!
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
it is definately your choice who you have as your bridesmaids so i would agree with you sticking your ground. i think you need to just keep explaining to her that you only want a couple of bridesmaids. Could you maybe ask his nieces to read a poem or something that way they still have a role to play in the wedding xx
CommentAuthorZoe.L66
Your bridesmaids are your choice don't let anyone try to make you have extra if you don't want to. OH family have hinted I should have there children but I'm not budging. Be firm!! Xx
CommentAuthorVikkiO51
Aww hunni it's your day!! Your bridesmaids should be your choice and don't back down to her its your big day so you decide what you want :) hope you sort it soon
Tell her exactly what you have told us your not even having your best friend as you don't want lots around you, its your day and your decision good luck
CommentAuthorInDreamland
It's definitely the Bride who chooses her bridesmaids. Noone else!
Tell her to 8utt out and accept you only want your absolute nearest and dearest 3 girls to be your bridesmaids on the day. Being bridesmaid is an honour and the Bride should only choose who she really wants to be there on the day by her side to support her in what is the most important day of her life. They have to be people you can rely on and trust.
Your FMIL has no right to dictate bridesmaids - in fact noone has any right to.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Here here
Its your choice.....BRIDESmaids not FUTURE MOTHER IN LAWmaids..... How rude!!!!
Stand your ground hun xx
Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Sounds like she has no respect for your wishes.
Lol - Emmilou! Spot on!
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorVelcro
lol good luck!!!
stand your ground, you are the bride, its supposed to be the people you feel closest too and no one else at ALL has any say in the ma
interfering mother in laws!! i feel your pain!
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Oh lordy lord above, why do they do this??
It's your wedding, you have who you want. Stand your ground and tell her what is what.
