am i wrong to not want my mother to wear ivory??? i will be wearing ivory and i want to be the only one to wear this colour but she seems to think she can wear this colour too. help!!!!!!!
CommentAuthorJennaLouise
OMG!! No hon, you are not wrong! You need to nip this in the bud don't you?! Erm, maybe send yout mum a text explaining that you don't want to hurt her feelings but you wanted to be the only one wearing ivory xx
CommentAuthorJenR101
No not at all! why would your mother think its ok to do that!? have you spoken to her about it? xx
CommentAuthornatalie2614
My mother wanted to match the bridesmaids colour, so when she said she was getting navy blue i told her to get a grip and pick a different colour. I also said, how stupid are you going to feel when people look at the photos and say oh the MOTB wore the same as the bridesmaids! Ivory is definitly a no go for your mum, set her straight before its too late and she goes an buys something x x
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CommentAuthorJill
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Aww that's rubbish of her, of all people your mum should be the one making sure nobody else wears it! My mums matching our colour scheme but not the same... bms in latte dresses, fg in ivory with latte sash, groom and groomsmen in black tartan with latte cravat and hanky and my mum wearing a dress that's mostly black with latte and cream through it and an cream jacket. I encouraged her to go for that though, I wanted her to match in although I certainly didnt want her to match me! She needs to know how much it bothers you x
I think its perfectly normal to not want anyone else to wear the same colour as you.. tell her NO!! lol
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i was going to put on the invites for the rest of guests not to wear purple but i went off that idea my mum was looking at a white dress suit and i said no way you wear any other colour but white/ivory. My nan is wearing a black and white ensemble but the hat is black, the jacket is white and the dress underneath is black with a slight white pattern on, this is acceptable but only because she will only be wearing the jacket to the church and its got a black piping thing through it so its not all white but she's my nan not my mum.
simple answer is TELL HER NO!
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
just tell her streight i wouldnt have ANYONE wearing the same colour as me lol
CommentAuthorSweetchilli
Tell her she can't wear it and if she does she will spoil your special day
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
no no no no no!! my mum has gone for a colour to tie in with the theme. We've gone for aqua blue bridesmaids dresses so mum has got a navy and powder blue dress - it won't match but its the same base colour of blue so will look nice :o) xx
CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
NO NO NO big fat NO to anyone wearing ivory except the bride and may be the flowergirls my mum is walking me down the aisle so would look like 2 brides walking down if she wore ivory but she knows its a no no and is wearing possibly a pale pink dress with navy accessories as my colour scheme is navy blue, white and pale pink flowers so think her outfit will compliment the colour scheme. I have said on here before about guests wearing white or ivory to weddings who do they think they are I thought everyone knew you never wear white/ivory to a wedding unless its the colour scheme some people are so incosiderate sorry to rant on lol this subject just makes my blood boil lol. Tell your mum no quickly before she buys something good luck hun x
Definitely not, I would say it's a given for nobody to wear the same colour as the bride, unless instructed by you and they are a bridesmaid! xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
she needs to compliment the bridesmaids, my bms are in cadburys purple my mums outfit is multicoloured- pinks white n purple!
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
I'm clearly insane by actually preferring that my mother either wear white/ivory or the BM dress colour. :S
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CommentAuthorMrs B
I wouldnt mind if they wore white or ivory, its personal taste i guess but i think it doesnt matter what they wear, no ones going to confuse me with anyone else as im the one in a puffy dress haha x
CommentAuthorLoubyxxx
Legobride, I don't think that's insane at all, whatever suits you, that's what makes people's weddings unique!
I do think though that close members of the family should be considerate to what the bride wants, and if my late Mom was here for my wedding I think she would definitely want the nod from me for the outfit she was wearing. I feel the same, I wouldn't want anyone to wear white at my wedding!
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CommentAuthorsrk37
WOW I cannot believe this, it is definitely not OK for your mum to wear ivory!!! That's just for you love!
CommentAuthorMrs Cerutti2b
I'm actually in shock that there is a MOTB that wants to wear the same colour as the bride! surely she should know better, white/ivory/colour matching the wedding dress is a major no no at any wedding, for any guest!
My mum is planning on going for something that compliments the colour scheme, to ensure she looks like an important member of the bridal party. But she'd never dream of matching her outfit to mine!
You really are not wrong on this at all :) hope you get something sorted, surely she'll be able to see your point of view x
CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
I can not believe your mother wants to wear ivory!! I do not think you are wrong at all in the way you feel! My mum asked me what colour I wanted her to wear and I said as long as it wasn't ivory or the bm colour I wasn't to worried. She said she would never have contemplated ivory as that or white is and should only be worn by the bride the day of her wedding!!! Xx
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CommentAuthorhaylz127
Thank you so much ladies, youve all been a massive help. now to tell her that i dont want her wearing white eeek xxx
CommentAuthorLegoWife
My sil2b was telling me yesterday how when their cousin got married the MOTG had a cream suit that she loved, she had a hard time finding something cause she's a bit of a larger lady but was really excited to look nice at her sons wedding. Only to be told by his W2B she couldn't wear it. She was devastated and the whole family had rushed out to find a shop where she could get another outfit.
Exactly the reason I think brides telling others they can't wear any variation of white is a bit harsh. I don't think the sake of being the only one wearing white is worth upsetting someone you love.
Each to their own though! And not an issue if said person wanting to wear white just doesn't realise the bride doesn't want any attention taken off her. Especially when it seems to be common knowledge that wearing white to a wedding is a no go!
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CommentAuthorKirst
I would be upset up my Mum wanted to wear Ivory...think the only one in white/ivory should be the bride. I hope she understands when you chat to her :) x x
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
no offense if the mog was large lady cream wudnt of been best
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
my dress is gonna b ivory and my sis hu is moh is gonna be in ivory with navy blue sash and my bm's r gonna b in navy blue with ivory sashes.......i quite like the idea of me n r claire similar, shes my best friend as well xxxx
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CommentAuthormadhen
I think as it's your day she should maybe compromise a bit for you. Personally I wouldn't mind but everyone's day should be just as they want it and she should understand that I think. x
CommentAuthormym72
I'm probably going to get shouted at for this - but as long as the outfit doesn't look anything like a wedding dress I can't see a problem. Our colour scheme was royal blue - but my mum complimented this by wearing turquoise. My MIL wore an ivory lace dress and it didn't overshadow me in any way. In fact she wasn't the only one - husbands gran wore an ivory dress with pale blue jacket and my aunty wore an ivory dress with black jacket (and another guest wore ivory/black as well) and they all looked fine, especially in the pics.
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Personally I wouldnt mind as long as it didnt look like a wedding dress after all Im the bride no one else! But if it was a shirt or a jacket or even a dress with maybe a slight pattern to it then if she felt comfortable then yeah why not!
My mum hates wearing white and ivory so Im fine lol
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
i wouldn't have a problem either as long as it didn't look like a wedding dress like the other Lady's have said. would look nice with a bit of colour which would complement the bridesmaids. my niece wanted to wear a short white dress to my sisters wedding last year everyone was up in arms a bit it say you can wear white to a wedding my and the bride both said it would be fine and not a big deal as her wedding dress wasn't even white or ivory any way but more of a dark champagne colour but the groom and her mum both totally refused to let her wear it anyway.
CommentAuthorGabyS
That personally wouldnt bother me... however it is your day and if thats what you want your mum should want to comply... im sure there are other lovely colours out there she could wear xx
CommentAuthormillz090
It wouldn't bother me either... as long as she was comfortable and happy then fine by me.
As some of the other girls said i will be the one wearing the big dress so wont get us confused !! xx
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Hmmm I'm gonna go back the other way again and say I'd be pretty peeved! I've no problem with anyone wearing the bridal party colours but I thought it was common knowledge white/ivory was out of bounds? There are all the other colours out there to choose from lol! Xx
CommentAuthorGabyS
Having said that alot of maid of honours wear the same colour as bride just a tonned down type of dress so does it really after its not like its gonna compare to the brides gown x
CommentAuthorFutureMrsClarke
Tell your mum of course she can wear ivory too, but that she needs to be aware that you will most likely trip right in front of her 'accidentally' spilling a rather large glass of red wine all over her! These things happens......beware mum!
CommentAuthormadhen
Ha! Wouldn't like to get on the wrong side of you FutureMrsClarke!!
CommentAuthorhaylz127
haha me niether madhen :) thanks ladies u have all been a massive help and i will have a chat to her and see what she says. hopefully all be fine :/ xxx
CommentAuthorMrs S
ooh now i thought this would bother me, but i have only just realised by reading this that my best friend wore dark ivory/champain colour to my wedding,(she wasnt a bridesmaid) but then everyone new the colour scheem & matched (silver/purple/lilac) my mum wore a silver derss, all the men in grey suits with purple cravats, and the other lady who had a black&silver dress on, then me & my daughter in ivory (was only 13 of us there including me, hubby & our 2 kids) even looking back at the pics i never realised ha ha xx
CommentAuthorloustew2012
my mum and mil2b has asked me and i said i wasnt bothered as long as im the one in the big dress then its fine!!! mum insisted i went with her and weve picked a champagne dress with a sparkly bodice and its really beautiful on her. mil will go nearer the time as she like me i pick something out and decide i dont like it and have to do it again.
as for your situation, if you dont want her to wear a certain colour, the least she can do is honour your decision.....xxx
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
Have you managed to tell her hun? If so how did it go? If not..Good luck hope she takes it okay & understands where your coming from xx
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CommentAuthorPB
I have always worked on the principal that if you are a guest at a wedding all white or ivory are completely off limits x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Ive always thought exactly the same xx
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CommentAuthorhaylz127
no not managed to tell her yet but i am trying to suttily (if thats how it is spelt) find her another dress in a different colour lol x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Good luck hun xx
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CommentAuthormrsheavey2b
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i have a mother like that she tens to wear thing that r a bit how to say it well slutty to b far there is no othere way to put it and at first she picked this dress well lets just say every one would have seen her knickers providing she had some on and i put my foot done and said not a chance if she wears some thing that short she is not welcome and if she came in some thing like that she would b remover well any ways i thought it had sunk in when she sent me a message saying she had found a different dress that she liked and it was long till she sent me the link and i looked at it ................... it was a wedding dress train and all i asked if she was asking the p*SS that is a wedding dress your not wearing it to my wedding she then sent me a pic of another one that i thought was really nice but now she is saying she wants a short one not long to make her legs look longer i just hope she chages her mined b4 the wedding or she is not coming like i think the only thing you can do is b straight with her hun xx
CommentAuthorAliK
Are you Kidding me! I've given strict instructions to the best men that they are to kick out anyone wearing predominately white, ivory, cream and Pink (the last because I really hate pink! Its all clearly stipulated on the invites) and if they don't I'll be throwing them out myself! why on earth would your own mother think that it's acceptable!
CommentAuthorhigginszajac
I would take your mum out on a shopping trip, go and help her pick something that will make her look stunning, thats not in ivory, you could make a day of it, lunch get your make up done, make it all about her, it worked with my friends mum xx
CommentAuthoremmaaa
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As long as it didn't look like a wedding dress and wasn't being worn maliciously to try and steal the limelight, it wouldn't bother me at all, I'd rather a smart white / ivory / whatever other colour provokes my ire outfit than one that's been hurriedly bought to match up to some stipulations, which they are less comfortable in. But then again I feel guilty about making the BMs wear something I'm choosing, I'm not very good at this "my day, my way" malarky!
Would people be offended by guests wearing dresses like this at their wedding? (the dress on the left is cocktail length btw)
white dresses!
CommentAuthorAntonia9
it wouldnt bother me at all - people can wear whatever they want for me, i dont think anyone can cast a shadow over the bride on her wedding day, and certainly wont be mistaken..... x
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CommentAuthormrscookiecrew
personally i thinks its up to the bride. i wouldn't be happy if my mum did. she's our colours are cadbury purple, baby pink and ivory so she's wearing baby pink, whereas the bm are wearing cadbury purple x
also wold have been nan and grandads anniversary
CommentAuthorClaire Bear-85
hmmmm i think this is a tricky one. i dont know which way to swing with this one. yes i want to stand out and be the centre of attention but i dont think the colour will make it any less special. in a way even if she does wear ivory shes not going to be dressed anything like you at all. its like the men all match in there suits so why not hav close female wedding party guests aloud to blend in. i think it would be nicer if she wore a accent colour like your bridesmaids rather than just you, im confusing myself now lol do what ever you feel is the right thing for you. its your day and you should have it the way you want. and at the end of the day if you tell her she cant wear that colour then it is just a colour she will get over it and pick anouther one, hopefully xxx
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
My poor mum is already stressing about what to wear and looking nice, if she was to tell me she had a white/ivory outfit and she felt comfortable and pretty in it I'd be over the moon that she had one less thing to worry about. Nobody will outshine me on my wedding day especially not in my h2bs eyes.
I've got to say if I had an invite to a wedding that told me I couldn't wear pink or any other colour, I'd probably not go. The point of my wedding is that I love my man to the moon and back and he loves me back, we want all our loved ones to be there on the day we are legally united in matrimony. I don't want to alienate anyone or make them feel uncomfortable so as they are smart I don't mind what colour they wear. With my hair and make up done and a beautiful dress, I feel like a princess on the day I become the happiest girl in the world.
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