Wedding Forum - Mother of the bride speech!!!...

Grrrrr...... In-laws!!! Just need to rant!!! We were all out for an evening meal (my parents are separated and they both live up North, so they visit me down in Essex separately!) with my mum, her friend, my sister and my H2B and his parents and as things always do the conversation turned to the wedding!! They were talking about the wedding breakfast and speeches. My mum then said "I thought about making a speech on behalf of Becky's dad, I would really love to say a speech"......then all of a sudden my MIL2b starts going on about how that can't happen and how it has to be my Dad to speak, which then turns the atmosphere into something that resembles an Antarctic freezer!!! I was so annoyed me and my H2B had an argument when we got home. I have my reasons why I would love my mum to make a speech, my Dad is dyslexic and I remember him reading me bedtime stories when i was younger and he use to struggle telling them. I know if I were to put that pressure on my Dad he would be anxious and nervous and would really spoil the day for him, don't get me wrong if he wants to say a little something that's fine, but a speech would be too much for my dad. I explained these reason's to my H2B and he understood, but you know when some things just grate and you feel like shouting it's mine and Phil's wedding and we will do what we damn well want!!! Rant over.... but it did get me wondering has anyone else had their mum stand up and do a mother of the bride speech?

i'm having my mum do it, but to be fair she's giving me away because my dad died years ago. However, I suppose I could have asked my grandad - if you want your mum to do it, there's no rulebook that says she can't! Sod the mother in law, i'm not listening to mine (a whole other story, different thread! lol) and you do what YOU want to do! xx

It sounds to me that your MIL might be suffering from a little jealousy! Why does she care if your Mum does a speech?

Tell your Mil2b to bog off and leave out - she's had her day and now its your turn - she don't like it she can jog on :)

Thanks ladies, families hey!!! x

I think the MIL is trying to follow old traditions that really have no need to be followed at all. We are not having any speeches as it is something non of us want to do. It is your day and if you want the bin man to do a speech then he can.

well we dont have our dad so i was going to make a speech and still might, as i thought my mum didnt want to. So when i said that to the in laws fil2b said hed make a speech. So now we have best man. paul, mum, me, fil2b and anyone else who would want to join in, lol

My mum always talks about wanting to do a MOB speech - I think if anyone told her she couldn't she'd slap them! Lol.
Definitely sounds like your MIL2B needs to go shove it xx