This is what I'm going to have with H2B when I get in tonight! After MIL whinging on about how she was being shut out of planning and getting upset (cos she was drunk!) I was told by 4 of K's family to invite her to my local hen do ' she won't come but just invite her to shut her up'. I said that she would come. 'no, she won't' I told them that I didn't want to invite her to that as I didn't think it was appropriate but if I was going for a meal, spa day, afternoon tea I would ask her. I bowed to pressure and I sent her an invite on facebook, the same way I invited everyone else. She not v good on facebook so I was hoping she wouldn't notice and then I could show her afterwards that I had invited her (sneaky, I know)
I get an email today from her, K has text her to ask if she's going Friday and told her all about the facebook invite! She'd be delighted to come! AAARRRGGGHHH!
She is an absolute nightmare when she's had a few, she gets 'diggy' and a bit nasty.
Now I don't want to go on my own hen do! She will defiantly go, will probably drink too much and accuse me of being after her money AGAIN or start being nasty to at least 3 of the girls going that she knows and doesn't like.
I sent K a message telling him that I was VERY annoyed. Actually that's an understatement I am 'king fuming and you have ruined my hen do, Thanks.
I don't know what possessed him.
I was really looking forward to it but I am now dreading my hen do on Friday
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
did u tell him not to say anything? men r stupid if u dont hun
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aw no :-/ not a good situation! just try to keep a wide berth of her! if she sits at one end of the table make sure you sit at the other end! if she starts getting nasty, maybe suggest 'finishing' the day there and going to a seperate place when she has left! or you could have a word with her and plainly say that if she spoils it for you, that will be it! hope you get through it ok and enjoy yourself xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
after the conversation we had on Sunday I thought it was obvious but clearly no, as you said - men are stupid!
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
You could cancel it and re arrange it secretly so she doesnt find out, then boot him in the baws. I'd be raging too! He shouldve spoken to you first. Or you could explain to her that this is a drunken night out for you and friends and that you are having a dinner as well and you would rather she came to that instead?
The problem is I'm not having a dinner as well and she knows its a pi55 up, that's why she's coming. I wasn't going to have a local hen do but K is in London for his stag and I arranged to go out with the girls, then the guest list got bigger and it got called 'hen do' but it is just an excuse to go out. I can't do it any other time either as all weekends between now and wedding are booked up already and friends have gone to a lot of effort to arrange childcare etc for Friday.
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Men are seriously dumb at these things!! Yeah mine would be in the doghouse for at least a week. lol If Steve did that to me I would make sure I invited one of the most annoying and irritating people he knows to his stag night...see how he likes it! Why should you have her there if you don't want her there. It's your night. I would get him (as hes the one that put you in this pickle) to talk to her and make some excuse why it wouldnt be a good idea for her to go. xxx
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
ahhh so no way round it? Unless you just say to her quite honestly that you'd rather she didnt come as its your hen night and you wouldnt feel comfortable with her there...I know that sounds awful but it seems like the only way to get her not to come :-/
:-( men are rubbish.
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
jsut get him to give her a warnin! hios fault he gotta sort it
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CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
She's already kicked off because she thinks she's not been included in anything on purpose. And she's right, she'd make suggestions and then get v annoyed if I didn't do or use her suggestion so I stopped asking her advice. It's not advice if you insist! Everything was planned and decided over a year ago 'cos I'm just that organised. Whilst she thinks that I should now be running around like a headless chicken sorting stuff (except for the cake) everything is done and dusted. She is constantly having a go at both H2B and his brother 'cos they don't go and see her. The reason is that she has a drink problem. You could pop round for a coffee at 2pm but you can't guarantee she'll be sober! Even if she knows you're going round she wont stay sober and she's not nice when she's drunk BUT noone has got the cohones to tell her. I'm going to have to hope that she doesn't turn up and or stay for long and or drink much - all of which are unlikely! Wish me luck!
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CommentAuthorClareS
what a nightmare! wishing you lots of luck! x
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
nightmare! i have all my things planned cos i want a nice run down to weddin n not runnin around like a chicken! my mum undertsands that his mum is a bit well its too early am like no its not lol
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CommentAuthormym72
Can't you let her come, but wait while she goes to the loo or something then all jump ship to another bar? Or even tell her where you're all meeting - then change to place and avoid the place you've told her?? lol You could always tell h2b that you looked for her and she didn't turn up (great excuse if she tries to tell him first lol).
CommentAuthorjanetx71
aw whata nightmare you obviously cant stand this woman and its probably her own fault (ive read some of your other threads ) but its still your h2bs mum and its not a nice position for him to be in he loves you and he loves his mum i feel sorry for him even if he did do the daft thing lol i dont think you should have invited her at all to be honest but its done now maybe you could appoint a babysiter for her so if she gets too much then its time for her to go home but sometimes we have to just put with things for our other half even though its really really really hard sometimes good luck dont let it spoil your night xxx
CommentAuthorGazza 122
Can't you make sure she gets well drunk in the afternoon, so will be too hammered to go out in the evening with you all! lol ?
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
Janet, she's fine when she's sober but that's so rare an occurrence. I understand that it's hard for Kiz, we had a chat when I got in and he'd snapped under pressure from her going on at him again for excluding her. He really didn't think that she'd come. I really didn't want to invite her but they insisted that she'd be happy with just the invite and wouldn't come as well.
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CommentAuthorjanetx71
what a horrible situation my mum had a drink problem so i know what a nightmare that can be and very humiliating at times to maybe you could tell her that you dont think its her thing but shes welcome to come to your dinner night ( you said you were having another night i think ) i dont get why she wants to be all involved in everything i mean its not like shes your mum she sounds a bit controlling to be honest if all else fails then get her plastered and go out without her but no matter what she should not be allowed to ruin your night xx
CommentAuthorMrsH2B
Oh dear hun not good. But dont let her ruin it...have a back up plan if she gets drunk n goes loo all head 4 the exit lol (is that mean?)
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CommentAuthormym72
MzEden - I understand what you're going through. Husband's mum is just the same. She's rarely sober, and so vicious even after one pint (and just gets worse the more she drinks). In fact she's so bad that we didn't even invite her to the wedding because we knew that she'd start rowing with everyone there (even though she's never met my family).
On one of her worst outbursts, she told me that she hoped that I'd crash my car and die (all because she wasn't invited to the wedding). In a way, her turning on me like that has sealed it once and for all, and Gav doesn't even keep in contact with her anymore. I hope you get it sorted because poisonous mil's are a headache (and that's putting it mildly).
CommentAuthortweedwedding
Sounds like you might just have to drink through it yourself hun!! I hope she doesn't ruin it too badly for you xx
CommentAuthorMummy Geri
sounds like it could be a fun bonding session :/ goooood luck lol x
