every dress i love, she hates! i want tall centre pieces.....she thinks small ones! i want a bouquet....she thinks i should have a posie! she thinks i should wear a veil and a tiara.....but i dont want to!!! she is going shopping with as friend to look at bridesmaid dresses when she knows i cant go with them because im working! she3 has even made enquiries about a venue.....when we have already booked ours! get this......she even went to a church and spoke to the minister about us getting married there!!!!! AAARRRGGGHHH! she has got a friend to loan us there mercs on the day adn has asked her friends brother to be our DJ!!!!!! i want her o be involved cos i am not close to my mum in any way and i want her to feel involved. i would mean alot if they liked what we had done with the wedding and i find alot of her opinions cloud my judgement....but there is being iinvolved and completely taking over!!!! i dont want to upset her! what would you do????? HELP!
CommentAuthorAli
tricky one hun, I don't have that issue with my mother in law as she refuses to have anything to do with our wedding and will not be viewing the live webfeed or attending the night do. But i must admit my mum has had a lot to do with mine, and i wouldn't necessarily have chosen what she has, but i go along to keep the peace.......does help that we're not having a big do.
Maybe try talking to her and explaining that you've being dreaming about this day all your life and you have a particular way of how you want it to make it "special" to you. She probably hasn't even realised that whats she's doing is upsetting you.....xx
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CommentAuthorMrsC2B
Deep breath Avril! Your MIL2B is certainly enthusiastic! What about giving her specific jobs that she can get her teeth into? Maybe she could sort out the table plans or some other time consuming job? Remember it's your day and you're in charge. xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
firstly...calm down!!
you have to speak to her and explain that you want her involved but she is going over the top and it is your wedding and you will have it your way.
She will be upset and i dont think there is a way to avoid it but you cant leave it or it will just get worse.
maye ask your h2b to speak to her if it will be easier xx
CommentAuthorljeh92
tell her in the most polite way that you appreciate the help and you is happy that she is involved but you would like to be notified before she does anything, and for her telling you she doesnt like stuff, just shrug your shoulders and say i do so im gonna get it anyway.. its not her day, its yours hun xx
well.....my partner or husband to be ( god i need to get used to saying that! hahaha ) was working on his car on sunday just gone.....so i said to craig i would drop him off and go wedding shopping to a big wholesalers that do wedding stuff and thought it would be nice to invite his mum! so off we went.....i sawe these amazing martine gkass style glass centrepieces which craig had already told me he loved! but his mum was straight in there! her and the florist were talking like i werent even there! i came with nothing! so i went back 2 days later to buy them with a friend, knowing that she dont really like them! but hey! i dont want her to be offended that i have gone back there without her and bought them anyway! :-( its so difficult! and her dress sense is so out of date! im never gonna please her! my granny always told me that if you try and please everyone else you will end up pleasing nobody, and the only person who will get kicked in the teeth is me! but its easier said than done! its ONE DAY! its a big day, and its an important day!!!!! but ill only ever have it once! is what i want for one day too much to ask for????? xxx
CommentAuthorUnknown
glad you bought them anyway! i love them! we were going to have them until we saw candalabras xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
explain that you appreciate her involvement and enthusiasm but that it is YOUR wedding and explain that surely she understands why she cant make enquries and ask ppl to do things without consulting you first. Explain that you will hapilly consider all of her ideas and opinions but the final decision is yours and H2B. If she still doesnt back off, cut her off from all the planning. Keep things a secret and do them yourselves... let her feel sill when she asks someone to do something and finds you have it checked off the list and she has to go back to them with her tail between her legs so to speak. My mum tried something similar, she asked my uncle to give me away which she had no right to do. I asked my grandad and she had to go back with her tail between her legs and apologise for jumping the gun. She was so embarassed and upset that I woudlnt tell me uncle even though she was the one that messed up that since then she has come with me to everything and voiced helpful opinions but not done anything else behind me back... it worked :)
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CommentAuthorAvril
she has a great aunty who used to be a cake maker! she has asked her to make our cake but her taste is vile! lol we already know what kind of cake we are having but have thrown her off course! we want a traditional italian wedding cake which are HUGE because my H2B is italian! but we have told everyone we are having a simple 3 tier cake :-) i dont know eh? mother in bloody laws!!!! LOL x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
keep throwing her off course and do it your way... good plan. Love the idea of the big italian cake nom nom nom
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