Wedding Forum - Mother in Law trying to interfere......

I would simply ignore what she is saying and just say point blank, sorry but that is what WE have decided! She has heard the reasons and if she is not accepting them just change the subject if she brings it up again by saying that it is all sorted now. If she gets worse I would recommend your h2b has a word with her to tell her to pull her neck in as it is your wedding not hers. From my experience, I wouldnt recommend you speaking to her about it by yourself unless she says something to you directly, it is his mum he should sort her.
I am a little confused as to why he thinks she is trying to stop you from getting married though? Is she not just being an interfering MIL? Family eh?

at the end of the day if she doesnt want to go for that reason then dont invite her. family and friends should count their blessings they are invited at all. it should be on your terms not hers! cheeky witch. sorry this sort of thing really narks me! dont you go changing your venue etc, if you both love the place then get maried there. agree with jilly, its up to h2b to sort her out!

I was wondering when the slap was going to be recommended lol

You'd have been disappointed if I hadn't said it!

its ok girls im here ........SLAP HER

where in somerset is she and where does she wnat you to have it ?????

yeah welll down yeovil... normally she is quite lovely... but 1st she didnt like us to get married TO SOON/EARLY, than she said we should get married in somerset h2b said no everyone can move there bum up to gatwick... as it wouldnt be fair on my family as they are coming from germany... and gatwick is quite easy to fly to... than she said ok seemed ok with it... but now h2b told her an approx. price of exclusive hire of the venue and she said well u would get that here for a 1k... well i dont think i can get those sort of service which i want plus 22bedrooms incl. in the price in somerset and if i dont think i'd like the venue anyway... its hard to say really as she thinks its to expensive but what do u expect in excl. hire... on top of it if familymembers wanna stay any longer we can book them easily for a cheap rate in to the hotel where h2b and i work as we got 821 rooms anyway :D so ...
but h2b thinks he ran out of reasons to explain her thats why she want to talk to me well she can talk to me wen i'm seeing her middle of june so i'm going to be prepared with all pro's and con's for my venue :D hehe and i will convince her if she still doesnt like it i'm going to ignore her and wont tell her anything anymore and she will just get the invite when its about time to come :D hehe not going to let her ruin my day :)

ur day = ur way hun!
dont back down. and jo is right, u dont need to give her reasons! its ur wedding not hers xx

ya i know but at least i dont wanna have a big family argument so i should at least tell her the reason why i think...

Is she paying for the venue, if not its none of her buiness whether there is somewhere cheaper, my dad has a little horrifed at how much our costs, but my mum told him to butt out, as hes not paying for it (mil2b is).

well i gonna ask her in person... try to ask her for other things via text message and its not the first time i didn't get n answer... either she needs a new phone or she is nt realizing i'd text her to actually ask her for something different to involve her ... well gonna ask h2b later if or if he doesnt know coz sometimes she'd done this weird thing were she is not sending me a text back but calling h2b... strange woman... me thinks... neither mil2b nor any of my family members is paying so... mil2b are always a bit strange i guess my mum had the same problem my nan never accepted her ever... when my parents suddenly split and divorced she seemed to accept my dads new fiancée well what ever even dads girlfriend had a go at me so i dont give a damn about what they all think thats one reason i'm doing lots of overtime to afford my big dream :) even h2b knows why i'm almost only working now... anyway as we both have shifts not seeing each other much anyway as he has got off different days than me...
but yeah maybe i will try to contact her that she tells me which venue it is and i will call the venue... but honestly really dont think u'd get exclusive hire for 1k...

yeah my mil2b seems like this sometimes especially it seems like he is so young etc... that he cant decide for himself... but he lives about 3h away from home so... i mean why does she care so much she was the one who send him to work far away... his older sister doesnt seem to manage to stand on her own feet properly i mean she lives in a rented house but 2nd child on the way no money for anything... her partner hasnt got a job as he got made redundant and she hasnt got a proper job either... cant even manage the simplest things alone were h2b is more grown up than his sister in my opinion and doesnt hardly need anyones help... but here we go live is made nt so easy for him... and he feels most times also left out...i mean i got this problem with my daD but i just ignore him now coz i know he is doing everything for my younger brother not blaming him though... not his fault...but also my mum can see what my dad has been doing... h2b's dad we better nt start talking about him he cant even apologize for his mistakes he has done and is blaming for everything someone else dont even think he will turn up for the wedding... well we will see...
jilly wont kill myself i will cut other things out like the car i'm sure will find a mate in case with a sportscar or something like it :D haha i still try to spend much time with my h2b and mates as work is nt everything decided already that every bit of birthday money/checks/voucher/etc goes towards the wedding :D that helps aswell

21 bedrooms one bridal suite so lovely rooms i mean its a 4 or 5star hotel a listed building and from 16century so lovely... they had a listing of prices suggestion for example £190per room incl breakfast for guests but it doesnt have to be this much... i mean even if we ask for 120 coz they are 2 ppl in the room or 90 because there is only one in the room surely u wont get much cheaper... ok maybe in the hotel were h2b and i work bust still thats about 10min with taxi away... and weekends they charge more as well

it is as u could see :)