hey everyone,

I just wondered if anyone was going through the same thing as me. My mum is showing so little interest in my wedding day. I had to keep asking her to come see the venue and she didnt show any excitement and just slagged it off. Then I had to practically beg her to come see my wedding dress in the shop and she spent the time embarrassing me in front of my MIL2B by slagging the other brides in the shop. Well today I phoned her because I want to order my dress (gettin a copy made from ann) and I need her help to do all the measurements and she also said she would like to buy my dress. I could tell she was in a bad mood and she was very short with me - she just said we'll do it next week. I was ok with that. Then she phones me in tears askinf me not to phone the house cos I caused an argument between her and dad!!! I was on the phone for like 1 minute. I said ok we'll do it next week. I dont get how I caused the argument. I got hold of my dad and he said the argument was nothing to do with me. Now she is pn the phone to my "golden child" brother, probably moaning about me, but I dont know what Ive done worng.

I'm in two minds whether to just buy the dress myself. Its only £185 and I could buy it out of my wages - Id just have to be skint for a month. I dont understand whats going on because deep down she is a lovely caring person but its always me who gets the blame if her and dad fight. Also, I just wish she was more interested in my day, its not going to be much because of the budget but I am trying to make it as special as I can :-(

Should I buy my own dress?

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My mum was exactly the same, she promised to buy my dress the let me down after it had been ordered and 6 weeks before the wedding, she never came dress shopping with me or had anything to do with the planning of the wedding. On the day itself, she left the church having not had any pictures taken with me and went straight to the venue where she proceeded to get drunk and then left at 4pm. Her parting words to me were ' you'll have to put your dress on another day so we can get some pics together' Urmmm no!!! Well my advice would be to get your dress yourself, if she then offers to give you the money back for it then it's s a bonus, try not to let her lack of interest get to you as hard as it is, the day is the most special of your life and it goes far to quickly, just make sure you enjoy it. Xxx

Well when we started to plan the wedding she said something along the lines of "well your sister and brother are both divorced, what if your not together in ten years - you wasted all that money getting married" she has said so so many hurtful things to me. She is so bitter because she hasnt had the life she wanted that she takes it out on me and my sister but not my brother - he is the golden one. I am the baby of the family by 10 years and I have been a pain in the ar5e for a lot of my life but I am really settled now so I dont know how else to please her. She wants me to go to uni and get a proper career but Im a singer and there is nothing else I want to do. She always has to say the negative about everything. I've already spoke to her about it and asked her to be excited and she came and looked at photos but now Ive brought up the dress shes not interested again. I need to order it ASAP. It might not be right and need changing and Ive only got 9 months to do all that.
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I'd go ahead and buy the dress myself. If she decides that she wants to contribute she can always give you the money back hun. Hx

Rockabilly my mother is exactly the same when i got engaged she said well i got engaged last night and i already know because dave asked me if it was ok to ask you. THEN when we set a date she went hmm well i will be married before you. THEN she told my step dad who is giving us 3k towards the wedding that she doesnt have to pay for anything as its not her job to! well its not my step dads (they are sepereated) as he isnt actually any relation but has bought me up so will always be my dad.
i sort of dont want her there as i know she would wear white to try and out stage me. x

I would ask your dad if you should go ahead and order it then. Does it need to be paid for upfront?