SO ive had my mum badgering me saying that the MOTB should tie in with the Bridesmaid but Ive said all alone that's not the case (Or that's at least what I thought) I was at my friends last night and she said that MOTB should tie in with the BM is this the case?
I don't care what my mum wears as long as she is comfortable and looks good, but I don't want people to say or think she is odd because she hasn't done the outfit the 'right' way for MOTB and I certainly don't want my mum to feel odd
Anyone know what the etiquette is for MOTB outfit?
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CommentAuthornatg85
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Between myself and my mum we have decided that as long as she doesn't clash with the colour scheme that is okay (this was her worry!). I want her to be comfy and enjoy the day as its her only child getting married.
I don't think it really matters. Why not choose a colour that compliments the bridesmaids?
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
ok .... im with you as long as she is comfy its no business of anyone else .... my mum wore trousers to mine with flipflps .. she suffers with lymphodema and was worried about how her legs would look .... she looked fantastic and was comfy so win win ...( my bm`s were in fushia pink and my mum in black and white along with the rest of the guests )
tbh, ive no idea what the etiquette is... but I don't think id want my mum in the same colour as the bridesmaids... I think it might make her blend in, rather than stand out as MOB? that said though, if youre happy with it, I cant see why any one would have anything to say about it
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CommentAuthorJoanna
I'm not sure what the etiquette is. My bridesmaids wore burgundy and my mum wore cream and pink. I wouldn't have minded whether she matched or not, neither of us even thought about it. I wouldn't worry about etiquette on this one x
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My Mum is wearing what she likes. I will just try and make sure my fiance's Mum isn't wearing the same colour.
CommentAuthorMel D
I don't think there's any real etiquette - My mum wore lilac to my wedding (bridesmaids in purple) and green/cream to my sisters wedding (bridemaids in blue).
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
My bms are in navy and my mum is wearing teal and black x
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Thanks everyone I always though MOTB should wear pastel type colours but as long as my mum is happy and comfortable I don't really mind what colour she wears as long as its not a purple as me BM dress is Purple x
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Etiquette is that the mother wears colours to match the bridal party/ colour scheme but this doesn't have to be stuck to if you don't want it to be! My bridesmaids are in champagne with coral flowers and my mum is planning on wearing coral with champagne shoes, bag and fascinator so that she still matches but doesn't look like a bridesmaid! Most mums wear a variation of the colour so for example if the colour is purple, they wear lilac, but as long as she is comfortable in what she is wearing I don't see what it really matters xxx
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
I'm not entirely sure what the 'rules' are but if she is comfy then that's all that matters :)
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
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I've no idea what the rules are either. My Mum however, purposely didn't want to have the same colour as the BM's which I appreciated but, then again, my Mum isn't usually known to wear purple so I would have been shocked if she had lol. The same for MIL2B. She also avoided purple. As it turns out, both Mums are in similar colours (not too similar that they look identical). They have gone for different shades of goldy/stoney. Both will look lovely.
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CommentAuthorHelainaH
For any etiquette questions, I used D3bbr3tt's. According to their website;
"The bride and groom's mothers should confer to avoid embarrassing clashes or similarities. Planning is key - the outfit should be considered and finalised well in advance.The fashion for most mothers of the bride and groom is a dress or a suit-like outfit. If the wedding is an evening or black tie event then the mothers of the bride and groom could consider an evening gown. Although the mother of the bride is generally considered to play a more important role on the day, the dress of the mother of the groom is still very important.A simple design in a striking colour, accessorised with beautiful jewellery may look better in photographs than something very fussy. Overly bright colours and patterns should be avoided.Hats are traditional - but by no means compulsory - at weddings and can be a stylish addition to the outfit. Many nothers choose to wear a'fascinator' instead....."
But in my opinion, they should wear what ever makes them comfortable. My bridesmaids wore emerald green, and my mam wore cream/pale gold. My MIL wore read and pale grey.
Hope that helps x
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
My bridesmaids are in silver but as my wedding is not for another 2 years my mum hasn't bought anything yet. However a few of the outfits she has looked at are also a silver/grey colour. I don't care if that is what she wears as long as she is comfortable with what she is wearing as although it is mine and my h2b's day there is still alot of focus on the parents. Let your mum buy somethign you are both happy with xx
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
My mil2b still doesn't have her outfit and we have gt 4 weeks to go! Yet again it's HIS family either causing problems or not getting on with doin what they should be! She wet looking last weekend and saw an Ice blue outfit but she said nothing jumped out at her as the outfits she's seen, she's already got similar at home! Ffs! Now she's on about getting a bloody outfit MADE!!! Hellllllooooo we've got FOUR, yes FOUR weeks to go! My mums had her made in my bridal store and it's been in design and production since LAST August!!!!!!!!! Grrr.
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CommentAuthorclairenina
my mother in law hasn't got an outfit yet. It's a tough situation. She has Alzheimers, but doesn't acknowledge she has it. We aren't allowed to even mention it in front of her. We haven't worked out how we are going to get her an outfit. She says she has lots of clothes and doesn't need anything. (she does need a new outfit for her only sons wedding).
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
clairenina, i think when someone has a mental health issue like your fmil you need to do what makes them feel comfortable. You could buy anoutift but whats to say on the day she will wear it? I think the main issue is keeping her calm on the day. I know my h2b's papa can't handle being around anyone other than his wife which is why he has now been admitted to a psycho-geriatric ward. he is now becoming violent. I would suggest just bringing it up on her good days and hope for the best but dont be upset if on the day she decides not to wear it xx
CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
My mum just went out and bought an outfit which she tried on in the sale, we were meant to go shopping together for it but heyho. She bought the outfit a few weeks before I got the BM and she knew our colour scheme was purple- she is wearing a goldy colour and it does not tie in at all. I prefer her not tying in though. I am hoping my mum will tie in with her corsage flowers and wanted her to have cream - she tried telling me she was having a different colour but I told her I think cream will look better lol
CommentAuthorclairenina
Thanks MrsThomson2B. My father in law keeps saying she needs a new outfit, but I have seen her in some lovely clothes, and like you said, I think it's mainly about keeping her happy & calm. I think we'll just have to take each day as it comes with her. Like you know, it can be hard
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Missweedles my mil sounds just like yours she will prob get an outfit the week before and no doubt it will be cream, (my mum has said no one should wear that sort of colour to a wedding as it's to close to the bride).
My gran had vascular dementia and as much as it hurts me she won't be at my wedding she will be 94 (if still alive) by the time I get married and the day would just be too much for her. Gran is a massive part of my life and if she could go she would and she would just wear whatever she was comfortable in. Ts really difficult when someone has an illness like that as you don't want to upset them but you also want them to be 'involved' and feel special too. Xxx
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