Hiya ladies i need a major rant im having such a rubbish weekend. It started on friday my birthday with my nan insulting htb in our house til he walked out which was great so i was dreading yesterday which was a bbq at my mums for me and my sis a birthday thing so i went but htb wasnt invited as my mum said she.was dreading him going when everyone thinks he is a abusive dad and would ruin the day by shouting at the kids etc i didnt wana go after that but htb said i had to.for.my sis. When i got there my mum was in a bad mood due to htb apparently upsetting my nan the day before by walking out haha what a joke she was the one on the wrong. ThEN just to make my birthday the best ever she turned around and told me none of my family are going to our wedding as they cant bare to see me marry him!! I text htb then and left asap i cant believe my family choose to start a huge rift on my.birthday making htb out to.be a monster so fed up :-( my wedding will be down to 28 guests 10 of which are children if my entire family turn there backs on me i.swear if they dont come im.never speaking to.any of them ever again x stressed out so bad x
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
That is awful of them. I can't believe they could do that full stop let alone on your birthday. It is so unfair of them to do that and they should be ashamed of themselves.
CommentAuthorNerdette
Have I missed something? What on earth has made them think he's an abusive dad? People don't just spontaneously come up with these ideas, so where have their suspicions come from? It might be that their dislike for H2B has come from someone else spreading rumours. In which case, neither your family, nor H2B are in the wrong - and there is still time to mend things. I'd find that out asap, before it causes a rift as big as the Marianas Trench
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CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
My mum and step.dad dont like htb for a few reasons one being when i met him.nearly 3 years ago i lived on there doorstep.with my two.kids but then after a few months i moved in with htb about a hour bus ride away from them so they dont see us all the time. They also dont believe in telling kids off so were looked at as being terrible.parents because my oldest two kids there 5&6 get punished nothing.different then most.parents do the naughty step or going to there room for a time out etc but they just hate it and say social services should.be involved its stupid my.kids are perfectly happy and love htb to.bits he does.everything for them and treats them as his.own. I just dont get it poor htb is at the point where hes saying shall i.just go and.be done with it :-(
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorNerdette
Oh no... I'm sorry but I have no tolerance for that kind of namby pamby parenting - it does the child absolutely no favours. It's a shame that their dislike of how you raise your children being so different to theirs has now been focussed onto your H2B. Did they have any complaints about how you disciplined your children before he came along? Because it sounds like their belief in not telling kids off has translated into a horrible passive-aggressive on-going punishment now you are exerting your independence and moving out of their control.
I cannot believe they are being so selfish that they will continue to ruin your life by trying to exert their control on you as an adult. I would also disagree with your H2B - poor man would actually solve NOTHING by leaving. The damage your family has caused has already been done and only they can undo it. Him leaving would make them happy, but leave you and your children unhappy (and him, obv!) Your children and H2B need to be your new family who love you and each other and live in a healthy happy environment.
I agree that kids need boundaries and consequences and it isn't like you are beating them. I think instead of judging your parenting skills they should re evaluate their own because they are not doing a good job themselves!
CommentAuthorClareS
your parents have no right in telling you how to raise your kids! Let them get social services if they want but they'll soon turn round and tell your parents that naughty step and time out in their room is much better than a physical punishment. If that's how they want to play it you go ahead and plan your wedding without them. Don't mention it to them and leave them to come to you to apologise. concentrate on your new family with h2b and children. Big hugs xx
CommentAuthorMrsTacky2B
what a horrid birthday, its very hard when kids are involved and your parents think they no whats best, i went through the same sort of thing with mine, lived 2 mins from them then me and h2b decided to move, we had all the poo that goes with it, but they are so much better now, hopefully with time and before the wedding they will see they are in the wrong hunny, chin up and enjoy the planning i know it will be hard but we are all here for you as well xx
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CommentAuthorjanetx71
it seems a bit extreme that they would go to such lengths just because you put your children on a naughty step or send them to their rooms it just seems way to extreme and to say social services should be involved would imply that they perhaps have it in their heads that something is happening or has happened could one of the children have said something to them about your h2b kids do tend to blurt things out in a different context to how they happened i would try very hard to get to the bottom of it by speaking to her calmly just ask her outright whats going on what is it they think is happening here im sure by what you have said that h2b is a great dad to the kids but i would still look into what they tell you hun i dont mean to offend you but its better to get to the bottom of whats being said then check it out yourself then tell them where you stand from there as for ruining your birthday again a bit extreme and really unfair it neds sorting if its exactly as you say then they are being petty and sod the lot of them but it wont hurt to check xxxx
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
I have tried to talk to.my mum shes being petty and using the kids as an excuse, an also tried telling me htb is a snob and looks.down on me and my family she cant stick to.the same story doesnt make sense i think its her being jealous. My step.dad.has always.hated htb just because he works for the police they all suck lol htb doesnt deserve this
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
oh hun thats awful, kids need telling off as they will turn into spoilt brats if they get everything they want and no punishment all the kids would be running riot omg!! its a shame they had to ruin your birthday and for them to say they wont come to the wedding is shocking, at teh end of the day if your happy with h2b stuff em as long as you h2b and children are there!! hugs xxxx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Stick to your guns. You know your h2b better than any of them and know what they say is a load of rubbish. Just make it clear to them that you won't be having any more of this nonsense so they can either choose to keep their mouths shut or not bother seeing you.
CommentAuthorJilly17
what an awful shame! I can never undersatnd how so called family can be so mean and cruel!. You have a lovely h2b and wonderful children so focus on your own family unit and let your mum stew! I cant see where she can critiscise you or h2b for parenting skills when hers are currently a disgrace!!! Bless you!
CommentAuthorjanetx71
ah i see i thouht maybe it was a misunderstanding that might be easily sorted but i guess not lol that being the case i stick to my usual advice SOD THE LOT OF THEM hun they aint worth the agro i think from now on if h2b isnt invited then maybe you shouldnt bother to go either let them know it wont be tolerated they may get the message i mean imagine not liking him cause he woks for the police i mean for heaven sake its so stupid xxxx
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Oh hun that sounds awful, especially on your birthday! How cruel. But I agree with the other ladies - your h2b sounds lovely and a great Dad :) Sounds like your family are being petty, especially as they can't seem to stick to a story! If they keep behaving like this then tbh your wedding day will be better without them! :) xx
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
thanks ladies i feel the same now ive thought about it why should we spend money for guests who hate htb? id rather just use the money to spoil the other guests who actually are pleased for us. bit sad my mum wont be there to get me in the dress and give me away but never mind. only other thing is my sisters are BMs and im hoping they are going to come still ones 23 and prob will the other will be 16 and living with my mum so might not be allowed. im also losing £1000 budget and my cake but if my mum thinks by not giving me the money shes putting the wedding on hold shes very wrong!!!
26th August 2013 1pm
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CommentAuthorAtaraxia
Don't worry about it mrsb, I'm sure you'll get it all figured out!
Sorry your family are being so difficult!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hun you have a long time yet and people can and do change , dont write you family of just yet .
We have mr lala`s mother saying shes not coming bc we wont have his nieces as bm`s !! but i will still sendthem an invitation as it is good manners then it is up to her .....also she saidthat alot of family wont come bc they agree with her , i have spoken to a few who have all said they think she is being stupid and will be there with bells on !!!! you mother may not have the influence she thinks ..
