Just take everything she says with a pinch of salt xxx

all i can say is good luck hun. some children are hard to handle like my niece who too is a spoilt little brat who tells lies, forces herself to cry and wets herself if shes not getting the attention she wants (shes 5!!!!). needless to say she will not be my flowergirl, my very well behaved daughter will have that job (a little biast but she is great :) ) kids can be harsh and cruel and it sounds like she knows all the buttons to press. if she cant decide then you choose after all it is your day and if she doesnt like it tell her where to get off (in a child friendly way) at least her mother will be able to see her bad attitude in full swing. again good luck!!! x

same with my niece except her mother doesnt really care she just lets the kids do what they want. shes treated like a proper little princess and just kicks off when she doesnt get her own way. mine are disiplined when needed (nothing major) but are polite and well mannered children. my sister got married 2 years ago my daughter was a flower girl then aged 3 1/2 and my son who was nearly 2 was the page boy and everyone said they couldnt believe how well behaved they were all the other kids were having strops mine were angels :D kids do need discipline or they turn into monsters as you can see with your neice.

let your daughter pick the dress and if the brat dont like it she dont have to be bridesmaid !!!

Dont make it to in her face but if your daughter really really likes a dress you know full well she wont out of spite. so go with your childs choice.

My neices are a nightmare and when one called me a bitch I grabbed her by the throat and held her up against a wall. Good as gold round me now.....try it! Seriously though sonia has a point. Make sure your daughter is happy and to hell with the brat. (Oh and I'm a nice person really)

Hi cupcake, i am going to have to join you in a rant lol. I am going through the same thing but it's a younger sister not a niece, she too is a spoilt brat not sorry thats wrong she is worse! i am logger with my mum over it the moment because i also have my 3 children as bm's and to be fair they are more important. well they've pick a dress that all my girls like and want to wear but not my sister doesn't like it and my mum wants to see her in something different...... People have different views on this matter but i have had enough and so from now on my attitude is if she doesn't want to wear what i tell her to then she doesn't get to be bridesmaid simply, i also have the same thing going on with hair styles. She doesn't like having her hair donw by anyone but herself and so told me (this is coming from a 12 yr old) "i will do my hair however i like and theres nothing you can do about it"! well again i'm sorry to sound mean but i am not being spoken to like that by anyone let alone a 12 yr old. Therefore i am putting my foot down what i say goes i'm affraid! (I'm not a nasty person, i've just had enough)

I hope you get something sort cupcake as i know how hard it is to hold your real emotions lol. All the best though xx P.s rant over lol xx

omg its kids like this that i end up dealing with at school .......just say to her " i know you have choices about what you wear everyday and as the wedding is my day i need you to wear what i have choosen for you,if you choose not to wear this then im sorry but you will not be able to be a bridesmaid which will be a huge shame"


then smack her when her mother isnt looking

I agree with Attention Seeker.
You didn't ask her to be a bm, so you and your daughter choose the dress, tell her which one she'll be wearing, and if she kicks up a fuss, tell her its the dress or she can't be a bm.
She's only 10 hon, just lay down the law with her. It's your choice what she wears. I know its different with adult bms
xxxx

Oh Kaye babes, what a chuffing nightmare!! Sorry, I'd have to sideswipe her AND her ruddy mother *sigh*

Right, correct me if I'm wrong, a 10 year old petulant brat thinks she can dictate what BM dresses you buy for her and your daughter. There is only 1 way to deal with this, and no, the stroppy little madam WON'T like it - you and your daughter pick the dress between you, if little miss brat knickers doesn't like it then tough bloomin t1tties!! She only has to wear it for the ceremony then she can wear whatever she cons her idiot mother into buying for her.
What are you doing letting this silly little moo getting you this wound up? :P

Seriously, you can't let her and her mother ruin this for you or your daughter, this is your wedding and you shouldn't be held to ransom like this.
The other alternative is to get your hubby to have a word with the mother and tell her it really isn't on.
Another way would be "Right, we need to pick a dress on this trip, if you still don't like any of them then you'll either have to wear what my daughter picks or you don't have to be BM"

Get toughened up woman, she's 10, you're an adult!! ;)
xxx

Right if my little sister done that to me i would tell her she is not being a bm. (she is ten too) Just say to her and her mother that if she cant agree on a dress that you like then she wont be a bm and that if she wants to be one then she needs to wear what you put her in she is ten she has no choice what she wear it would be something if she was 16 but not at 10

haha! Listen its your day and you cant let her ruin it, just tell her its for one day and its for you and ur h2b xx

LOL i amm sorry just tell the mother how you feel the most she does is tells her daughter she is not been a bm and then you can have what ever bm dresses you like and you dont have a spoilt brat to sort out.

I'm going to see what Thursday brings, I'm all geared up for a barney now, I'm sick of her getting me so stressed! I was going to say if she wants to dress in her normal clothes then she needn't be a BM! Basically she has already told me she's getting a dress to change into later if she doesn't like what I make her wear!!! :0 Seems pointless as we are getting married at 4pm and by the time we have been married and eaten then she'll have had her dress on about 4 hours! waste of time and money or what? xx

ok the vegiaterian is one thing ...my nieces has been veggie since she was 7 ...her choice .......

MrsHall thats ok, I'm stressed all the time lately! lol I agree what you said .... you can come with me and shout at her if you like? lol

personally speaking ,id first take h2b to one side and set him straight about jumping to conclusions,then id take the brat and her mother to the other side and tell them,the longer you leave it the worse it gets

I seriously agree with letting your daughter choose the dress. I cannot stand spolit children who think they can do, say or speak to people however they like. Its your day and if you do not stand up to your SIL2b and her bratty daughter now it could lead the way to disasters in the future. I think if you let her know that its your way or no way then she may just back off LOL. Good luck for Thursday xx

i had this problem with my sister she assumed id be asking her children and started going on about dress styles and colours,i told her that id already picked my bridesmaids,she didnt like it,but like i told her,"what right have you got to say what happens on my wedding day"
i honestly think you should just tell them that you dont want her hun,,its only going to get worse if you dont

then you have to be honest now,i hate it when people assume their involvement , its none of their business!!!,,yes it was messy when my sister found out but i dont regret it,like hell was i letting some jumped up hasbeen have a say in my wedding,no way !!!