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In-laws !: monster mother in laws!

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- CommentAuthorCamillaB
  
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i really do not understand why the MIL starts to kick up a fuss when wedding planning! i have been through literally HELL!! with my mother in law! they have had their day, why do they feel the blinking need to put their nasty noses in?

I am so glad to see that i am not the only one who is being bullied/blackmailed/harassed!
I have been with my fiance for 7 years and really thought i knew his mum... WRONG!

Here are some lovely quotes from her!

Talking about my hen party ' i would rather give the £20 deposit to a tramp and his dog in the street than come to your hen'

To their own son 'your wedding is going to be the worst day ever, everyone will be arguing, we dont even know why we are coming'

seriously and this woman goes to church and claims she is a christian!..

why are they so mean? urghhhh
- CommentAuthorEmmilou82
  
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I'm so sorry to be reading this....

What you FMIL has said is really awful and hurtful. I got tears just reading it so I can't imagine how you feel.

I've only been with my H2B for 10 months and my FMIL so far has been wonderful and I couldn't imagine her being so mean.

Keep your chin up CamillaB, it's your day you do what pleases you and you H2B...... If they don't come, it's there loss. If they can't come and enjoy your day, then I'm not sure I'd want them there anyway xx

Marrying 'The One' on 30th July 2016
I am now Mrs Emma Stokoe xx
- CommentAuthorMrs D2B
What your MIL is saying is horrible and I imagine it must be breaking your heart, but if I were you I'd just laugh it off when your with her, don't let her see it's hurting you, just tell her that if she want to give her £20 to a tramp and not come to the hen or the wedding then go ahead. Hopefully if she realises she's not getting a rise out of you she'll drop it.
It seems weddings can bring out the worst in people, but don't let them ruin it for you, it's your day and it will be perfect!!

31/12/2017 A New Year, A New Life, A New Husband and Wife
- CommentAuthorInDreamland
Weddings seem to bring out the worst in people for some reason.

What she has said is nasty and vindictive. Don't rise to it or lower yourself to her level.

Ignore her and just let your h2b know how it has affected you.

Just don't even discuss the wedding with her. I wouldn't invite her to the hen. Let her stew and she will eventually regret being horrid when she realises that she's the only one she's going to hurt because everyone else is just getting on with things.

Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Camilla i hope this makes you feel better but i think my MIL takes the Gold ,sprinkled with diamonds, medal for her statements to me ... the worst one being that my children would be better off if i was dead.

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- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
To deal with your mother in law ...

dont mention anything to do with the wedding

be sweetness and light to her, tell her how lovely she is looking when you see her

any comments she makes give the Mrs Brown reply " thats nice"

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- CommentAuthorMrs D2B
What is wrong with some people!!! Who in their right mind would think it was ok to say something as horrendous as that!!!

31/12/2017 A New Year, A New Life, A New Husband and Wife
- CommentAuthorInDreamland
Lala that is just uncalled for, evil woman!

Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
- CommentAuthorFlossie
I would do what lala said and just not talk to her about anything to do with the wedding, that way she has nothing to respond to and can't be so mean. If she stills says stuff then it would be completely out of turn and you can tell her that you have not asked for opinion and so don't want it!! I don't understand why some family members have to make it so difficult, what is wrong with them?! X

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18th June 2016
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- CommentAuthorMyranny
Tell her you'd rather she gave her money to a tramp as well, but you were told it was tradition to invite the old trout. :P

I think Lala has it just right. If you act like an angel, she doesn't have grounds to say a single word against you. She sounds awful, sorry you have to put up with it. x
- CommentAuthorTeresa
so sorry to her she is being like this to you :( it must be so hurtful.

I agree with the comments made, dont rise to her, if you give her attention she will only do it more,

im sending you a great big hug,((((((X)))))))) hope this helps xxxx
- CommentAuthorMrs henderson 2B :)
I've had very similar problems like you CamillaB and I've learnt like people have said to not mention a word about wedding or involve them, they will be the odd ones out when it comes to your wedding.

They are not worth your last breath, I've learnt the hard way and my FMIL has been told she is to have nothing to do with her future grandchildren as both me and my husband to be don't want the children around hurtful people.

I'm sending you a huge hug as I feel for you

Have a happy time wedding planning

Xxx
- CommentAuthorCamillaB
Hiya ladies!!! thank you sooooooo much for your support...

i no longer want to see her now till the wedding! and if i have to see her before then, ill do as you girls have said, kill her with kindness, not discuss the wedding and if she mentions anything i dont like, i love that mrs brown quote, 'thats nice'

Thank you again girls.. really means a lot, i sometimes think am i over reacting etc.
- CommentAuthorTeresa
you are deffo not overreacting, you stay strong hunny xx
- CommentAuthorRebeccaH304
No you're not overreacting at all CamillaB. Your MIL sounds awful. i would follow Lala's advice or try to steer clear of her although I know that's easier said than done xx
- CommentAuthorMyranny
Definitely not overreacting! I think she's lucky she didn't get a good slap for what she said to you. She genuinely sounds awful, but reading through some of the other forums you are certainly not alone. x
- CommentAuthorKatieH
I'm really sorry that you're going through a hard time with your mil. What she has said is disgusting and uncalled for. Big hugs xx

Met in 2007
Started dating in 2009
Got engaged in 2014
Became Mrs Holme 11.06.16
- CommentAuthorAprilS61
How awful?! Luckily my mother in law is lovely and nothing but warming, which partly makes up for my monster biological mother!

You can go about it two ways - retaliate which she will want to show you are wrong for her son, or ignore her and let other people see how awful she has been and continues to be by the sounds of it. Don't mention anything about the wedding, try and keep your everyday business to yourself as much as possible and only deal with her when completely unavoidable. Then what possible reason does she have to say things like that to/about you?!

What has your fiancé said about the way she is towards you?

Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15

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