We have a lovely new home with everything we need but with the cost of the wedding...we have nothing left for the honeymoon. We're thinking of asking for money but in the form of a poem to put in our invites. I've found this one, short and to the point?
Love the joy of choosing gifts? And wrapping the chosen captive? If thoughts elude in this regard... money is attractive!
What do you think? C x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
we put a poem in our invites too but it was much longer
We know it's not traditional It's not the way it's done But instead of a wedding list We'd like a bit of sun.
Please do not think of us as rude Please do not take offence We do not want to upset you That's not the way it's meant.
We've lived together quite a while And all the bills are paid We've got our plates, our pots and pans Our plans have all been made.
So if you'd like to give a gift To help us celebrate Some money for a honeymoon We would appreciate
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorMrs Badger
Clare don't usually like the money poems but I like that one, very short and sweet. xx
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CommentAuthorclare0481
Thanks Kaya, I thought so to. Not sure whether to put on the actual invite or seperate just inside?! C x
CommentAuthorMrs Badger
Are you sending any separate information about hotels, travel, etc with the invites? If so I'd put it with that. If not I'd put it on the invites. xx
Now a Mrs!
"..I've seen the best and the worst of you and I understand
with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You're a hell of
of a woman. You're the one..."
ours is on our directions and menu card :-) just on the inside cover
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorclare0481
No, as everyone knows the venue location and the menu is a set one. Think I'm going to put it on the inside cover. C x
CommentAuthortinkerbell2013
Mrs Mann love that poem, I might pinch it to put in ours soz We are in the same boat we got all our things we would like money instead but was unsure on how 2 ask and they way u've put it is fantastic xx
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May 2013
CommentAuthorclare0481
Think we've decided to go with word of mouth, rather than put in the invites. Made a sample invite, it just read tacky to me, don't want our guests to be offended either! Just want them to come and enjoy the occasion!! C x
CommentAuthor~feebee~
There's another money instead of gifts thread somewhere. I put a pic of my money poem card on it. I don't want to offend anyone but then I don't want people to spend their money on things we don't need. The bridesmaids mum bought us a guest book and photo album and h2b's bothers and sister have paid for the DJ which is brilliant and helpful
Finally Mrs Grove :)
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
We are planning on a polite 'don't bother with a pressie give us the cash' as there is a few things that we need for the house but we don't want to use a department stores gift list.
CommentAuthortillyturtle
i had this dilemma to as mucha s i think some of the poems are inventive, i just would not put the words cash in the invite, i just couldnt do it to me personally i thought it brought the ocassion down a little bit, in the end i did find one but even then it said the would we want money...so here is my adapted version.... We are sending out this invitation, And hope you will join our celebration. If to send a gift is your intention, In modesty we would like to mention, We have already got a kettle and a toaster, Crockery, dinner mats and some coasters, So rather than something we have already got, we would appreciate money for our savings pot. But, most importantly, we request, That you enjoy yourself as our wedding guest.
CommentAuthorBanks
We will be putting a poem in ours, it says:
The date has been set and we'd love you to come, To celebrate our wedding, a long way for some, All you must do, is decide what to wear, Then polish your jewellery and comb up your hair.
Dont worry about gifts, dont buy us a yacht, The things that we need, we've already got, Our home is quite compact, we may have to move, Then our storage and space will surely improve.
Don't go out shopping or get yourself stressed, Don't alter your plans for a pre wedding rest, If you want to be generous, despite what we've said, Then save all the hassle and do this instead....
We dont know how to word this but will give it our best shot, Contributions are most welcome, we'll go somewhere hot, A honeymoon would be marvellous, to start off our life, In our long winding journey, as new husband and wife!
It the best poem I have found that I dont cringe at or wonder if people would think we're money grabbing (my dads side of the family!)
CommentAuthor*Kat B*
Even thought I popped a money card poem in the invitation I've had endless amounts of enquiries into what my gift list is, it's amazing how many people don't read it and just assume you want a present. My little poem was basically centred around having the ones we love share our day.
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CommentAuthorKeys
This is the poem i am using:-
More than kisses so far we've shared, Our home has been made with Love and Care, Most things we need we've already got, And in our home we can't fit a lot! A wishing well we thought would be great, (But only if you wish to participate), A gift of money is placed in the well, Then make a wish, but shhh don't tell! While enjoying our honeymoon we'll feel brand new, We can look back and say it was all thanks to you! And in return for your kindness, we're so sure, That one day soon you will get what you wished for.
CommentAuthorSijen
Ha Clare - I love that one. Very short and sweet - although I know my family and friends would get in a tizz about the directness of it.
Soon to be Mrs Mann, we're using that one too but have altered the ending to suit us more.
We're just putting ours on the bottom of our information sheet to go with the invites.
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CommentAuthorgemsy
We have chosen this one..... Do you think its too blunt?
The most important gift to us is to have you share our day, but should you wish to contribute in someother way, then help us on our honeymoon in our chosen paradise, a little extra spending money would be really nice. with thanks, the bride and groom to be!
CommentAuthorgemsy
I prefer your one Keys, thats lovely :) x
CommentAuthorJules
I like your one Keys aswell x
I'm marrying the man of my dreams xx
CommentAuthorKeys
Thanks ladies I thought it was nice and not too cringeworthy! Xx
CommentAuthorLou lou
I'm glad I read the above as i was worried how to phrase the whole money thing without sounding cheeky and demanding, we like others have all that we need n would love to take kids on a familymoon xx
CommentAuthorClareS
I'm glad I'm not the only one stucj on this. I know when I've received a wedding invitation and there's a gift list etc with it somewhere, I think it's brilliant and will save a lot of hassle. We're not having a list but I just can't bring myself to ask for money :( We'll go with word of mouth. I was going to ask for holiday vouchers but with companies going under left right and centre I don't want people getting vouchers to find them to be worthless if the company folds. I think we'll leave it and it anyone asks we'll just tell them. I'm sure they'll understand x
CommentAuthorclare0481
Hi ClareE, that's what we are going to do to. I think it's wrong to even expect gifts from guests, you just want them to turn up and enjoy the day, so asking for money would just be out of the question. If you don't put a list in, they're bount to ask you what you want! C x
CommentAuthor
i am putting a seperate piece of paper in our invites reading :
We havent got a gift list, for all of you to see Coz as you all know, we never can agree But if you'd like to help us, to start our married life Some money towards the honeymoon Would really please the wife!
I think these poems are a great idea, its the done thing these days so most people wont be offended no matter what you write!
xx
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Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorgemsy
im having 2nd thoughts about mine now :(
CommentAuthorJakesmummy
Mines similiar to yours ziggyboo86, although slightly diferent at the end
We havent got a gift list for all of you to see because as you all know we never can agree but if you'd like to help us start off out married life cash towards our honeymoon would save alot of strife
CommentAuthor
ah thats a good one :-) i think they are a fab idea, not cheeky at all! if you need the money, even maybe to put back in to savings that youve spent on the wedding its better to just ask than get a load of gifts that you dont need! I myself would prefer to give something that was wanted than spend time looking for something that would probably never get used xxx
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorSammi_with_camera
I like the money poems. Keys is one of my favourites. Im wondering if there is anyway to set up a simple website where guests can log on and "purchase" honeymoon vouchers. that way they can buy us anything from a meal to an experience that we can then enjoy on our honeymoon, we could also include a picture of us enjoying their girl with the thank you cards. That way guests can feel like they are actually buying us more of present than an anonymous donation.
Will have a think and research i think :-) x
CommentAuthorKastobe
edited
Paypal? You can make donations and can send the donations with a message.
We are looking at asking for money rather than presents so we are considering using my Paypal account and also maybe suggesting Amazon voucers/Love2Shop vouchers if people would prefer.
CommentAuthorclare0481
Kuoni let people leave messages with their donations. You just send out cards with your invites that have a reference number on. Then all they do is go online and type the code in on kuoni's website which links them direct to your holiday. They can't see what anyone else has donated and they don't have to put their name to it either. C x
CommentAuthorNicsquared
bump
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
Me and h2b are having an argument about this at the moment. I don't really feel right asking for money and have seen a website that let's you have a giftlist and its for lots of high street shops (the ones we were going to spend our money in anyway) but he just said everyone would just buy the cheapest thing on the list.
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asking for money is the done thing now katie, i wouldnt think anyone would find it rude...if anything theyd be quite relieved that they dont have to go out shopping for anything! Im asking for money as we are hoping for a honeymoon, if not a familymoon to disneyland paris so to me its well worth asking x
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
We know it's not traditional It's not the way it's done But instead of a wedding list We'd like a bit of sun.
Please do not think of us as rude Please do not take offence We do not want to upset you That's not the way it's meant.
We've lived together quite a while And all the bills are paid We've got our plates, our pots and pans Our plans have all been made.
So if you'd like to give a gift To help us celebrate Some money for a honeymoon We would appreciate
this is ours we don't live together in our own house we live at my OH's parents but we have most things for our house all stored away as i lived in a student house on my own so i have all pots and pans and bits and pieces all ready we only need a sofa and where are we gunna put that?! until we move out?
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorAntonia9
love your money poem keys! very good, not cringeworthy or rude at all - very subtle!
Cant wait to become Mrs Purdie x x x x
May 4th 2013 - The day i get to marry my best friend
CommentAuthorMrs B
Banks, ive got the same poem as you. Ive sent my day invites out and everyone has commented on how lovely the poem is!!! x
CommentAuthorKeys
Thanks Antonia, just got to find a wishing well now lol xx
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
The only thing is some people might just not want to give us cash so will give us gift vouchers (probably for places we never shop in or have to spend more money to buy something that we want that costs more than it would elsewhere)
CommentAuthortillyturtle
We are sending out this invitation, And hope you will join our celebration. If to send a gift is your intention, In modesty we would like to mention, We have already got a kettle and a toaster, Crockery, dinner mats and some coasters, So rather than something we have already got, we would appreciate money for our savings pot. But, most importantly, we request, That you enjoy yourself as our wedding guest.
this is our poem we changed it slightly from the origcanl as it sounded a bit rude with words like.. we would like some cash!!! so changed it to appreciate etc...hope you like it
CommentAuthorbrilly
bump xx
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CommentAuthorLeanneW15
I like them all! :) i searched for ages before we decided on ours, I really wish i'd just looked on here before haha x Our life together had already begun, We almost have everything under the sun. If you were thinking of buying a gift, A little extra money would give us a life. You share our day as our wedding guest. Now that we’ve saved you any fuss, We can’t wait for you to celebrate with us. x
CommentAuthorLeanneW15
haha its meant to say Lift instead of life sorry.. x
