me and my partner have lived together for 3 yrs now and have everything for the house we need a few friends of our s gave us the idea to set up an account at a travel agents and ask guests to pay what they can afford in rather than bring a gift,iv just looked into this and found the travel agents take a chunk of this money for themselves,im wondering if it would be best to just ask people to put money in cards but does that sound cheeky????
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CommentAuthorUnknown
we have asked people to put money in cards. i think it is pretty normal these days xx
CommentAuthorKaya
A friend of mine just asked for donations towards a honeymoon and everyone just gave money or cheque in the card and no one seemed to mind!
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CommentAuthorKirsty4Paul
if you do a search on this there are loads of poems people have posted asking for money instead of gifts, thats what im doing too. I know what you mean about feeling cheeky but ive been to lots of weddings where others have requested this and it generally goes down well as it saves people struggling to think of a gift! you could also have a wishing well or similar where people put their cards too
CommentAuthormrs handforth
im asking for money for our honeymoon as weve lived together for 4 years x
oh good,its always the part i dread,i know myself when you get invited to a wedding the gift list can be quite daunting and not for everyones budget so i suppose asking for money should really take the pressure off everyone.x
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CommentAuthorsam73
We have already booked our honeymoon and are in the process of paying for. However we are asking for first choice holiday vouchers, which people can place in a card, this is so we know we will be able to go away next year for a second honeymoon.
CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
yeah i was just looking at the wishing wells as my partner was worried about them just getting left lying around,they look really good.x
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
ill have to check out the poems,do you just send them out with the invites?
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CommentAuthormrs handforth
im thinking of putting smaller envalopes in with invites and having a post box so people can post there money envalope at the recption,but i want people to not put who its from so if people cant afford anything then i wont know who hasnt give owt x
CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
thats a really good idea sam73.x
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CommentAuthorMrs Steer
too be honest i completely forgot to put anything in with the invites lol but we are the same as you dont want anything, honeymoon is completely paid so would prefer money if anything at all to upgrade things we already have xx
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
yeah thats a good idea mrs handforth2be,i think thats why people panick about weddings so much peoples budgets are diff and not everyone can afford the same.good idea.x
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CommentAuthorlinzi
so are you asking people for money when you send out your invitations, and even putting in an extra envelope for them to put that money into??
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CommentAuthorsam73
I think we will be getting a wishing well, its just such a good place to keep all the cards, knowing me i would loose them otherwise, we are disappearing straight away too on our honeymoon so at least it will only be one place my parents have to look for all the cards in the morning!
CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
i was thinking of doing that yes just asking with the invites,wasnt going to put a little envelope in tho,most people will prob just put the money in a card,need to give it a good think really as sendin invites out this weekend!!
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my AWFULL wedded husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
my heart is overwellmed with the love i feel for him,
my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthorlinzi
sorry, meant MrsHandforth. Asking for money is one thing, but providing an envelope to put it in is a bit cheeky!!
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
yeah and there are so many great ones,i was thinking of buying a plain one and decorating it myself
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my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthormrs handforth
i got the idea from someone else was just seeing if it would work??
CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
oh sorry,i suppose some people could find it a bit cheeky but its not much diff to a gift list service,i personally would rather just state my preferance and leave it for the guest to decide what to do but some guests might appreciate the envelope being provided for them.x
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my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthorsam73
No dont provide an enverlope as people will want to decide what they give you, and even if you do ask for the cash there will be some people who wont want to give you that and will want to buy a gift, by supplying an enverlope they may be offended.
CommentAuthorlinzi
hmm not sure Hun. I am all for the money for honeymoon thing, cause that is what we are doing. But i think giving people an envelope to put the money into might be a step too far for some people!
after an argument with MIL2B we have decided to not put our honeyfund cards out with the invitations. We are just going to wait until people ask us what we want, then they will be directed to the honeyfund. Or told they could just give money if they prefer, but we would rather they just turned up and had a good time.
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CommentAuthormrs handforth
itd be up to them if they wanted to use it,it wouldnt bother me if they didnt give anything as i want there presence at my wedding and not there money! x
CommentAuthorlinzi
yeah i know, but some people might be offended by it, or feel obliged to give you money when they would rather not?
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
yeah your hearts clearly in the right place mrs handforth2be and like iv said providing an envelope is no different to using a gift list service,people at your wedding obv know you and will know your not bothered about if they give money or not,but as people have pointed out and what was my biggest concern when we decided to ask for honeymoon funds is some people wont want to give money for various reasons and maybe a bit offended.i dont think theres any right or wrong way about asking for money or gifts and we all just av to go with what we feel best and hope are friends and family know us well enough to not take offence!!!! xx
i sarah louise duncan do take thee daniel paul uttley to be
my AWFULL wedded husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
my heart is overwellmed with the love i feel for him,
my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthorsam73
Well like i said before we are asking for first choice vouchers, however we also do have a gift list, this then allows guests to have the choice, maybe you should do both?
CommentAuthorlinzi
its a flipping minefield isnt it!!!
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CommentAuthormrs handforth
any way im going to find the right poem off internet at some point as there is many to choose from and just see what happens,ive got till sept to decide wat to do,x
CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
lol,yep they certainly aint much bout weddingsthat aint stressfull,and as this discusion shows we all av diff opinions as will are guests,we cant make everyone happy so will just av 2 go with what we feel is right for us and hope for the best! best of luck to us all!!! x
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my heart is overwellmed with the love i feel for him,
my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthorMel D
Our travel agents told us that if we got gift vouchers they would refund the total, so we've asked for TC couchers, and they don't get a cut.
Got married Sat 28/05/2011
Renewing vows Sat 29/05/2021
We're planning WELL in advance!!
CommentAuthorlinzi
we thought of that too, but we are leaving the day after the wedding, on the Sunday so they said we cant do it. You need to go into the shop with all of your vouchers before you leave for honeymoon.
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CommentAuthorshellay
we put a poem in our invitation requesting money for the honeymoon and no one has moaned about it :) x
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CommentAuthorsam73
linzi thats why we have booked and paid for the honeymoon and using the vouchers we get for a second honeymoon in the summer.
CommentAuthorMrs_Williams
We are having a wishing well where people put donations in an envelope instead of a gift as we have everything for our place. It's normal these days :)
Hi we put a money poem in all our invites and people were lovely, lot's said it was a good idea saving the hassle of finding a gift. Personally I wouldn't have put an envelope in that seems a bit cheeky. We had a post box too as we were worried the cards would end up all over the place.xx
CommentAuthorSammyJo
We're doing both - a small gift list, as well as requesting money... A friend of mine set up a special bank account just for the honeymoon n explained this, and gave the bank details with the invite for anyone wanting to donate...
here are a couple of poems I've found: Don’t worry about gifts, don’t buy us a yacht, The things that we need - we've already got... Don’t go out shopping or get yourself stressed, All that we ask - is for you to be our guest. If you want to be generous, despite what we’ve said, Then save all the hassle and do this instead….. Don’t know how to word this but will give it our best shot.. Contributions are most welcome, we’ll go somewhere hot! A honeymoon would be marvellous, to start off our life, In our long winding journey, as new husband and wife
If you’re thinking of a gift for us we ask if you would consider contributing to our honeymoon to make it all the sweeter. Our house is full of all the things a couple could require and so a holiday away is what we most desire. Then while we're relaxing on the beach or by the pool so blue we'll sit back and know that it is truly thanks to you !!
We haven’t got a wedding list, The reasons we’ll explain It’s to save you all the hassle As shopping is a pain. We thought we’d ask you all For something else instead A small contribution towards A holiday in the med. So if you’d like to contribute Towards our honeymoon We offer you our heartfelt “Thanks!” With love, the Bride & Groom.
Can't wait until the 14th July 2012!
CommentAuthorDee37
We popped a poem inside I found online, I tweeked it to ask for dollars as spending money for the honeymoon. We had a wedding at work recently and she was chuffed to get currency for her trip so we thought that would be a good idea.
xx
CommentAuthorParisianbelle
Hey ladies, what do you think about Honey Money? It's an online gift list for the honeymoon. If anyone has used it comments would be very welcome. It says that you can use the money as you like and they are not a travel agency so you don't have to book through them but i'm just a bit weary of the 9% service fee they take off the overall amount. They say "We liken the costs incurred in the service fee to the cost of your guests buying wrapping paper, card, postage and packing, etc". H2b and I currently talking about wedding websites and honeymoon etc and I saw another couple used them and they seem to have lots of testimonials but i'm just not sure how I feel about someone taking some of our money. Are all honeymoon gift websites like that? xx
CommentAuthorParisianbelle
ps- I really like the poem idea, I think it's playful and I'm sure guests would appreciate it too! I also like the idea of a post box for cards and gifts if people want to contribute xx
CommentAuthorkvelvick
We have booked our honeymoon through destinology and they do a free service of collecting gift monies however most people have said that they would prefer to give money/cheque on the day. x
CommentAuthorAnnette
There is another site parisianbelle, honeymiles or something, they only take £55 I think or something, one off payment, and they don't take any % off your gifts, they just deposit the money straight into an account using paypal
