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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    Today first time I've found myself having wedding blues, we decided we would have what we wanted on the day but at same time save and scrimp on as much as we can without having to give up what we actually want. As oh has been married before and rushed through it and he didn't get a say so I said this time he can have a say about everything, and I've always had certain things I wanted as we agreed we would do what we can. Now everything's in place I find myself thinking why have we spent so much on just one day!! And then think what else we could have spent that money on :( I know the day will be amazing and hopefully I won't look back and regret it ( main reason as lots people all said they regret scrimping) but Worry we are spending too much on one day!
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    You're not going to get the chance to have this day again - it will all be worth it!!! xx

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    • DanielleS0709
      CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    When we decided to get married I wasn't sure about spending all that money on one day. My OH convinced me that if we were going to do it we should do it right. He said If we didn't we may live to regret it. I agreed and got so caught up in the madness. Now as its getting closer I'm worried that it will actually be the opposite and that as much as I'll love and enjoy our day I'm worried that I'll regret spending that much on just one day. I'm just hoping that I'm wrong and OH is right

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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    That's my exact worry Danielle, and don't think it helped oh is divorced as gave me more of a kick to have what we want. I think it's nerves as we have put all deposits down so we have committed and just getting nervous. I keep telling myself the day will never happen again and make most of it especially as can't do anything about it now. But doesn't help when in laws keep saying don't you think that's a lot for one day blqbla just because they chose to do it on the cheap and now regret it!
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    Try not to listen to anyone else! You're having the day YOU want, not the day that other people want you to have. I'm the same as you - I find it scary the amount of money we have committed to paying, but I know it will all be worth it come the day. The money you're spending is helping you to create memories that you will have for the rest of your life and you can't put a price on that xx

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    Ignore the in laws. You and your OH have the day that you want. We get comments from OHs grandparents saying we didn't spend that much. Why don't you look at school halls for the reception venue. But the answer is very simple. That isn't what we want for our day. We are both fixed in the mind that you only do it once (hopefully) so you should have it the way you want it.

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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    Thanks Hun, just worry it will be back of my head on the day and I know certain people will be saying don't see how this cost .... And I know it's just jealousy but still hurts x
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    • DanielleS0709
      CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    We get that too. It's annoying. I've often said to OH let's cut our losses, Lose the deposits and just get married but he always talks me around lol. Hopefully he will be right

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    I'm sure that on the day you'll have such a magical time that you will have no regrets. I only have two regrets from my wedding, and one of those was money related. We decided to save money by having five friends each make a layer of a wedding cake, and rather than stacking them directly on top of each other we got a stand that allowed each layer to be on the stand separately. It was a lovely cake but problems with icing meant it didn't look the way I'd imagined, and it was so much hassle. It would have been far better to spend the money on getting it done professionally, so we chose what we wanted and it arrived on the day.

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    • LeanneR0186
      CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    I have had the same worries, the amount we are spending could be a deposit on a house. We are having what we want but also not going massively over board, I didn't imagne it would mount up to this much. I am just hoping the day will be so amazing I won't mind how much it cost. xx

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    • CommentAuthorLoz K
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    I've often thought the same thing, but like many on here my OH has said that it's our day and we should make it special for us. Yes, we may have been able to spend the money on something else but this is something we want to do jointly to celebrate our marriage and we want to look back on it with no regrets. Don't worry, it's just your mind playing tricks on you but it will all be worth it!!
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    • RachaelH705
      CommentAuthorRachaelH705
      Got married 33 months ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    I think there's always going to be a balance somewhere, and everyone has different circumstances. As long as you're able to meet your basic needs then go for it. You never know what life has in store and fulfilling your dreams and making memories is important.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Feb 19th 2016
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    Please can you add to your other wedding related rant thread on money related matters that you already have open. This thread will now be closed.

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