Hello All Ok Where to start. I've known my MOH for about 12 maybe 13 yrs, were we inseparable when our daughters were born as they are only 5 weeks apart in age. so holidays and going to each other house regularly, i started work and she started uni and things got less often. anyways i asked her to be my MOH as soon as H2b proposed she offered to buy the cake and then i heard nothing more even though i asked on more than one occasion, so i ordered it and when i told her she said 'oh great' i havent seen her since 23rd december even though i have invited her to my new house and to family parties.i have text etc... and coz i couldnt get her to come up i just ordered a bog standard dress size i've had the dress for over a month and she hasnt tried it on yet!!! i'm getting really annoyed now and my h2b is getting more and more peed off too help i feel like i need to ask her to stand down xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
She doesn't seem interested at all to me..think you need to choose a MOH that wants to be involved x
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CommentAuthorSian-Louise
I agree with madam butterfly....she doesnt seem interested at all. I would give her a call and speak to her about how you are feeling xx
CommentAuthorRags
Try getting a meeting, if you can ask her if she still wants to be a BM. If you can't get hold of her then just send her a text saying really sorry but I think there must be something major going on in your life so I'll leave you be and get someone else to be MOH
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would speak to her and tell her that it is making you feel bad when she doesn't get in touch etc and that you need her to try on the dress etc. Get it out of your system and let her know what is going on or it will just get worse. She can't fix something if she doesn't know there is something that needs fixing.
Tlk it through with her first she may be really busy with her own life she may have problems etc just give her a call and ask whats up and if she feels that she cannt be MOH say its ok and get someone else in x
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CommentAuthorMrsCandlin2B
Definitely see if you can either meet up with her or call her. I would ask her whether she actually wants to be your MOH, ask her to be honest. Failing that I would just tell her that you need her to be more committed.
CommentAuthorangelan1986
Yep as everyone else has said just let her know, tell her your gutted she hasnt even been bothered to come and try her dress on and that your considering dropping her and just having her as a guest... if push comes to shove i can stand in hahahahaha. Chin up, she might just need that kick up the behind x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
have u asked her why she isnt interested?
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CommentAuthorljeh92
CALL HER. And demand that she helps you out!! im in same situation its really bugging me.. i just dont have the guts to tell my MOH cos shes h2b family neice!
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CommentAuthorMary Blood
Don't give her the satisfaction. Can you ask someone else, someone supportive and actually interested in you and your big day?
If you can find someone you can then phone her and thank her for the disappointment. I think i need coffee :)
CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
I would call her and maybe go and see her, have a chat but not about the wedding at first... make suer she is ok first and check that she isnt having any problems!
Then if she seems fine, then bring up the topic of the wedding and see how she reacts.. if its not how you think it is,, then tell her straight and honestly how you feel! xxxxx
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
you need to have a convosation with her and give her a way out it might give her a kick up the bum to get involved if you ask her if she would like to step down.
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CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
She's avoiding you because of the wedding cake situation. She may of offered to buy it but her money situation may of changed and now she's embarrassed and doesn't want to face you. Just let her know you'd rather pay for the cake or someone else has offered to pay, that your really grateful for her offer but you wouldn't want to put her out and I garuntee it'll sort things out!
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CommentAuthormelvis
aww :( i hate when MOH's dont give you any support... its not fair on you because shes ment to be your first port of call for help and support... text her and tell her how hurt you are and say that she is making you feel like suddenly your friendship is not important to her, if you were her MOH youd have been there for her... wait for a reply and if she doesnt reply think who has been there for you throughout the plans and been actively interested and involved and ask them. Then the origional MOH will have had an opportunity to look at her behaviour and put it right... and if she doesnt bother then you know where she stands and you deserve a better MOH than that! hope it gets sorted hunixxxxx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i think you def need to speak to her. ask her if everything is ok with her as she has been distant recently and are concerned something is up and then ask about the wedding! if she doesnt seem to be bothered then, then maybe you need to say to her that her being moh wont work x
CommentAuthornini
I agree with MrsMelody, maybe there is an issue with money and she now can't honour her offer of buying the cake. Pop round to her house when you know she will be in for a chat about non-weddingy things and just check that she's happy/not going through a rough patch. She has been your friend for 13 years and she will be your friend after the wedding so try really hard to sort it out.
CommentAuthorAvril
tell her you dont think she is deserving of the MOH post lol simple as. its your wedding.....evereything is your choice! x
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
You need to talk to her and find out what is going on. Waiting for her to contact you may take forever
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
i was havin this problem and not just with moh with all my bridesmaid for months upon months untill about 6 weeks ago i flipped i sent them all a txt sayin they have 6 weeks notice and on the saturday they was all expected to make them selves available for bm dress shopping anf who ever didnt show could basically go do one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! two have since done one at first i was upset then angry but now i dont give a toss they have just showed me what i really meant to them which is nothing, if it wasnt for one of them been h2bs friends wife they wouldnt be gettin an inivte to wedding, but other one wont be, night do yerh wedding its self not a chance x
id give her a date for in 4/6 weeks time tellin her what on that days gunna be happening and if she doesnt show then she is no longer your moh x
my moh started whinging other day i said ill drop u bac home if u want make your choice now she shut up and got on with it x
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CommentAuthortweedwedding
I think you def need to have a word with her and liked stressed to the max said, give her a deadline if she's still not willing to commit. I'm starting to worry that I might have to do this with one of my BM's (not having a MOH) cos since she got with her boyf i've hardly seen her! Hope it all works out for the best for you hun x
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
i started out with 12 bm';s and im now down to 6 but the 6 that are left are helpfull and actually wanna be bm's x
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CommentAuthortweedwedding
Wow stressed, that must have saved you a fair amount of money as well!! Good that you have the really helpful left though hun x
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
well im not payin for there dresses there payin for there own but im gunna buy them there shoes a bag flowers and obv a gift so that will cost me a small fourtune ;-) lol x im glad to i do have to tell moh when shes on one though haha. x
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
well girls i've delved a little deeper and she is fine... going out partying every weekend by the looks and sounds of it so i think its time for me just just say she can be there as a guest but maybe the MOh status should be for someone who has time to help me!? i'm not a bridezilla by no means but i rarely hear from her she text me yesterday asking if i knew anyone who does ann summers parties (she sounds very well to me!!) xx
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
tell her to do one hun xx
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i agree, get rid. she is obvs not bothered about it, find someone else x
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
well girls i got rid and she wasnt a$$ed! xx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
Wasn't worth the stress hun. Have you got someone who gives a toss now?
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CommentAuthornickers
her loss hun xx
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
have yer mrs mann xx
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soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
All worked out then :-) shame you went through all that though!!
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
exactly hun i am gutted i was so wrong about her xx
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CommentAuthorMrsH2B
Jeez if she didnt want to do it she could have just been upfront instead of messing u around. Glad u got it sorted it now tho! x
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
my point exactly mrsh2b xx
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Glad it's all sorted now and you have someone else clearly more deserving! Hx
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CommentAuthorsam73
My best friend is getting married next April and she has a similar problem. I'm her MoH but another bridesmaid can't be bothered my friend asked her to try dresses on an her answer was oh I don't want to try it I am break it! What's all that about??!! She doesn't know what to do the rest of us have told her to not bother with her she has now bought all the dresses but she hasn't been bothered to get in touch. My friend has now said she is not chasing her but we all think it's terrible
CommentAuthorkimmy
Send a message that because of her pure lack of interest she wont be needed, and ask someone who can do the job properly :D
