I know ive moaned about this before on here but ive just had it up to here **reaches v high standin on chair** with my MOH.

She has done nothing but complain or go against my decisions this whole time ive been planning my wedding! Now its just the final straw!

Me and h2b have been trying to choose our wedding song mainly the one where i walk down aisle too.

We both really like "A thousand years" but I remembered a conservation last year that i had with my MOH and when i mentioned that song to her at the time she went "oooo dont use that one i want that one" but she said it jokingly and with her not being engaged or anything i thought it would be okay. So i was texting her about the song choice and i mentioned using a thousand years.... well she went off it. how dare i use HER song and im a c*w cause ive STOLEN the song she wants to walk down the aisle too (shes not engaged currently) and that she wudnt speak to me again if i used it.

Well its not just that.....

I was doing the table plan and i confirmed with her that shes at the top table..... apparently we had already sorted this out, she is not sitting at the top table as she is going to be 7 months pregnant and wants to sit with her bf.... i explained that moh traditionally sits on the top table - nope she isnt she doesnt want too and dont ask her again

So then to add to all this.... she made me buy a dress 2 sizes big for her as she expected to grow big.... now she wants it taken in as she thinks its too big (i cant afford adjustments as my other venue went bust and i ahvent got the 3k back from that yet)

Then the shoes that we bought that we'd agreed on "aren't her style"

Shes not having her make up done by the girl whos coming to the venue.....

She will be coming on the wedding morning at 10am to have her hair done..... ive told her shes gotta be there for 9...... this is too early for her as shes pregnant

Soooooooo after all this... as u can imagine im a lil bit annoyed at her. Im just sick of her constant winging and creating probs for me!

What do i do????????

Love it when people use pregnancy just as an excuse.,it's like they are the only ones who have ever been pregnant *dramatic eye roll*

Why does she get the decision on the song? How is it any less fair for you to not have it, so she can

Just tell her she can do what she wants, wear what she wants and turn up when she wants. As a regular guest. Seems like more hassle than she is worth.

Throw the pregnancy excuse right back at her and tell her you think it will be too much for her being so feeble and pregnant!!

Wow!!! Who needs enemies eh!?!? I'd be tempted to tell her to do one....who cares if it's the song she wants? Why can't she have it aswell (if she ever gets engaged let alone married!) Velcro's idea is a good one of throwing the pregnancy back at her. Is she the sort of friend you can sit and have a heart to heart with? Personally I would probably tell her she can do as she likes (whatever makes her feel comfortable in her "state" of pregnancy) but your MOH will be sitting at the top table with the rest of the bridal party, will be having their hair done at 9 - if she doesn't want to be that MOH then fine! I know it's easy for us to say this as it's not our friend but tbh, she's not exactly playing fair xx

Haha I had to laugh, I am pretty sure being pregnant is not a terminal illness!

Tell her I am also using that song to walk down the aisle to, does that mean she will hate me too? its a popular song, she needs to get over herself (sorry I am in a very grumpy mood atm!)

I like the idea of saying she is obviously finding childbearding a strain and you don't want her to go out of her way, and demote her to a guest. it will be less stressful for you on the day.

WOW ... I'm 7 months pregnant and regularly get up at 5:30am to be at work at 7! I keep having to tell people that I am pregnant, not disabled!

If I was you I would get her dress and shoes back on the pretence that you are going to get them sorted out and then tell her that she's been demoted to guest so that she can sit next to her bf. BTW, why did she expect to grow big? Was she big to start with? Was she planning on "eating for two"? I am still wearing clothes that I had before I became pregnant - ok, not all of them but certainly some of the tops and dresses I had are stretchy material.

Tell her that you're not using the song, and then use it anyway! What's she going to do? Start making a scene as you're walking down the aisle???

Lmao kirsty that comment made me laugh she'll be FURIOUS ur having it it too hahaaa!!!

TBH over the years we've grown apart for instance last time I saw her was between xmas and new year.

But she is my oldest friend and two years ago when I asked her to be MOH it was the right decision.

I am tempted to use the song neways but I just know she is the sort of person that would say something to me before walking down the aisle.

I would literally just not have her as a MOH or a BM but I found out yday that one of our BM and Ushers (who don't know neone else at wedding) may not be coming nemore as they've broken up and its really bad between them. So if im loosing my BM I dnt want to also lose my MOH even tho shes creating prob after prob!

I think tbh its better im just bowin down to her and letting her have hat she wants I cant be bothered with the agro!

We decided to play Canon in D last night and tbh I quite like it :) so we may just use that.

The one thing I have decided on though is that my MOH was doing a reading..... ive decided to take the reading out of the wedding altogether. I just don't want her doing it anymore after everything.

So........ its kinda sorted lol x

Just tell her straight - If she's not going to behave then she can go in the naughty corner, simples! Call her bluff, say if you can't be happy for me and support me which is what a PROPER bridesmaid/MOH should do, then don't bother even coming as a guest :D xx

Can someone tell me a nice way of telling my moh that I want to use the piano guys version of a thousand years?

I don't want to ask her permission, but I do want to say that ive taken on board that she doesn't want me to use her song... that being such n such version..... but I am going to use this........

in a nice way lol :P
xx

She can hardly lay claim to a song that she just 'wants'.... By the time anyone even proposes to her, it will have been years from your wedding and no-one remembers! So many people use the same music anyway like Pachelbel's Canon in D... Done to death at weddings and nobody moans if it's the same and to be perfectly honest, and no offence to you, but guests won't remember what the song is at hers! I can just about remember the entrance music from my cousin's wedding last August but her sister's wedding 2.5yrs ago, haven't got a clue!! Ultimately, she isn't getting married so tough :D

Well that's only what 6 of them? In the great scheme of things, I don't think that's that many ;)

I think at the beginning it does sound like it and you will know it's the same song but I've listened to a lovely version for cello and piano though which I reckon you could just about get away with it because you don't have any vocals and the solo line is on cello if that's any good? :) xx

Putting the link on your wall now hun xx

omg am so embarrassed

that's the version I love, but when I read cello there I thought it was a trumpet paahahahaa

so u think ill get away with that one? x

As for the top table issue, most people would be honoured to sit there. If she doesn't want to sit there then give the space to someone who really deserves it.

haha yeah Catherine don't be stealing my song :P

aw that sounds lovely bout the duet!

ur right elinor my other BM Claire, has been so relaxed about the whole thing letting me pick what dresses, not bothered how I want her hair, shes just so chilled out about it all its been a nice calming effect for me :) so Im letting her sit on the top table instead!

x

Haha, as if I would!! :P so what've you decided on the song? Yay or nay?! Glad you've got at least one nice BM LOL x

Canon in D - to walk down aisle too

Then having these for signing registra:

You & Me - Lifehouse
Somewhere only we know - Keane
To love somebody - Michael Buble

Then to leave the ceremony room:

Happy - Pharell Williams

I aint told MOH what our other songs are so she cant tell me I cant have one of them as I cant deal with the stress lol x

haha all of the music above sounds beautiful :) I love the lifehouse song you and me, have you decided what song you are having for your first dance yet? xxx

Oh yeah forgot about that one - we're having lonestar - amazed. then I think I may be singing "your song" as a surprise for me h2b but I dunno if its too cheesey??

xx