I have a dilema.... My matron of honour (matron as she is married, maid is used for single ladies) is an older lady 58 to be exact, alot of people disagree with my choice becuase she is older than my mum and because she dont seem that interested in my wedding only when it suits her and is a 'my way or no way' type of woman however i dont have any friends to ask in replace of her (only one but my family & h2b hate her) tbh i have tried a subtle way of trying to un ask her but it failed badly so now my dilema is how do i choose a dress for her? I want it to suit her yet not look to stand out from the rest of the bm's and hubby wanted them all in matching dresses? xx
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CommentAuthorgdu
put them all in matching dresses and give her a different bouquet so she is subtly differnt or just have them all the same, there was a thread on here where lots of people just had them all the same
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Yeah I like the idea of GDu, I would give her a different bouquet x x
CommentAuthorMrsC.Wade2B
Thanks girls so do you think just to put her in same style dress as the rest an sod the fact she is an older woman? xx
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
What are the other dresses like? Maybe you could get her a matching bolero to wear with it to make it look a bit more age appropriate? xxx
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same dress sam bouquet just put her on the top table and also have her as your witness
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CommentAuthorSam
I think matching dresses might make for a mutton dressed as lamb moment. Minimally I think she should have a jacket/bolero/shrug. Optimally she should be dressed in an outfit similar to a mother of the bride/groom. I think the biggest problem is that you and others are clashing with her on so many levels. That's what needs to be worked out. Maybe you can meet with her and ask her if she feels comfortable/interested in her role. Lay out the expectations you still have for her in her role as MOH. If she doesn't feel comfortable fulfilling them then you can tell her it's ok if she doesn't want to be MOH anymore. But maybe you tried this?
