when we went to see the Minister (and meet him for the very first time) he said that his wife plays the organ, and could do so at our wedding for £60. Fine I say. His fees are £60 too. He then started going on about how good the food was at my venue, and how he knows the Chef.

Well then i go and meet Chef and he says that the fact the Minister was talking about him and the food, that its a massive hint that he is staying for dinner. So oh well I think, I guess we have to ask him and i know what his answer will be. BUT, his wife. What is he gonna do after the ceremony, send his wife home whilst he stays for dinner? No Chef says, wife usually stays too!

i think thats a flipping cheek. She is gonna be getting paid £60 to play for 2 hymns at our wedding. That is it, and she will expect staying for a feed too??

I know its "polite" to invite the Minister to dinner, so we are going to. But how do we let it be known that the wife IS NOT invited? or do we have to just get over it an accept that she is?

It makes me almost glad that priests cant marry! x

i think its vey cheeky hun and very difficult as to know what to do sorry not much help am i lol xx

I'm inviting my Rev but that's because I no him and he is awesome! Luckily he's not married though so he's a cheap invite lol xxxx

I'm a barmaid/waitress and every wedding iv been workin or been to when they've been married by a minister and they're marrried the wife has had dinner aswell wheathe rshes doing something on the day or not and they've always sat at the top table i think its just the wedding thing xx

lol lala xx

We're inviting the our Vicar, but not the wife. She won't be there. And I've made it clear, our Vicar knows were on a tight budget. xx

I'm with Louby, apologise but due to finances ...etc.
I'm quite lucky on this point as, I know for a fact, my priest has a wedding straight after! xx

I aint inviting the vicar though, he is just marrying us in my eyes. Think am gonna get Shaun to call him around the time our final numbers are due and just say something like "venue are needing our final numbers, but forgot we could be ONE extra as we hadnt invited you to stay!" and then just hope he gets the hint and politely declines the invite.

and there is only space for 10 at our top table, and no way am I demoting any bridesmaids for him/them

I've never known the minister to be invited!! He/she is there to do a job and then they should leave unless they are close friend or a family member who has an invite. I find the whole thing very odd and I think if they expect to be invited it's extremely rude!!! You shouldn't have to make excuses or think of ways to get out of inviting them, it shouldn't be presumed in the first instance!!!