I just need a bit of a rant really. My FMIL is quite tactless and doesn't listen to anyone, she does, however, make a LOT of suggestions...
Anyway, my mum has already bought her outfit. I have told MIL five times what colour it is and where it's from. It's a really lovely purple and pink chiffon dress that suits my mum down to the ground. Every time I have told MIL about said dress (because she keeps asking and doesn't listen) she says something like 'I thought your mum was wearing red/green/another colour I have NEVER mentioned' and when told where the dress is from she has said EVERY SINGLE TIME 'oh I looked in there but everything was too frumpy'. My mum thinks this is hilarious and is not offended in the slightest (the dress and my mother are far from frumpy) but I think her lack of tact is incredible!
So MIL rings last night and says she's found her dress and its on JL website. I spend ten minutes searching for it and it is a beautiful dress in the exact colour of my bridesmaid dresses! I pointed this out and she said it was alright because she would accessorise with silver - I pointed out that my bridesmaids and entire colour scheme is blue and silver - her response? I think it's important people know I'm in the bridal party so I need to wear the colours! As the conversation progressed it transpires her husband has told her she can't have the dress anyway because its too expensive - so that was a total waste of time! So she's found another one which is purple! Not only is it purple but its from the same shop as mum's and is almost identical! I told her mum was in purple AGAIN! 'Oh I thought she was wearing red'. The conversation ended with her saying she would look for a new dress in.....blue and sliver! I find this quite funny but am also sick of having the same conversation over and over again!
Sounds a bit like my mil she kept going on and on about getting a dress and then she said she had found it and its turquise and silver, the same colour as my colour scheme. Was really quite annoyed at first but I'm over it now. Can't believe she does not listen x x
CommentAuthorJackieFC
Ah I can't imagine how frustrating that must be! Why don't you offer to go shopping with her? X
CommentAuthorBarbaraU
Just be thankful that she's not wearing the horrible manky fake fur coat my ex mil insisted on wearing to my 1st wedding it looked and smelt like dirty wet dog that had been hit by a steamroller and she wouldn't pin her flowers on it on case it spoiled it . It still makes me cringe after 26+ years .I wish I had a photo of it to post because tbh none of you would be worried about what mil would be wearing if you could see it. I know at the time I was horrified but dont stress about to much because in a few years time you could be laughing your self silly about it
Oh my god that sounds so frustrating! I would be close to screaming now! I think what JackieFC suggested is good, going shopping with her, but she sounds like she could be a bit of a nightmare =/ I hope it turns out ok and she doesn't turn up in purple or blue and silver =/ x
CommentAuthorLeighS
Maybe you could try a different approach. Guide her tactfully towards another colour. Think about what colour she wears the most and suggest she look for an outfit in that colour as it is a flattering colour on her and suggest other shops she could look in. Maybe have a quiet word with FIL and try to get him to suggest other colours if he is out shopping with her. xx Fingers crossed for you.
CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
Oh dear, your very calm with her about it! I'd be so annoyed! My h2bs mother if I can call her that.. is not coming to our wedding, so luckily I only have my own mum to get sorted! Cant you just tell her straight that you would rather her not wear silver and blue as you only want your bridesmaids in that colour...and remind her for the 5th million time that your mother is wearing purple! lol
CommentAuthorTinkerbell
Thanks ladies!! I think taking her shopping is going to be the best (if not utterly painful) solution. They live five hours away but should be visiting H2Bs sister soon - they don't stay with us because we haven't provided grandchildren yet (she has actually said this). Come to think of it taking FSIL could make the process worse as she seems to think she should wear blue and silver too!
CommentAuthorLilyB39
i just think that she just pretend not to listen to you, maybe you should arrange for someone to dress shopping with her
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Yes go shopping with her, it maybe the most painful day of your life but at least you can vet what they are both going to wear. x x
CommentAuthorlizzylou
That does sound annoying! It sounds like she's gonna do whatever she wants regardless of what you tell her. As long as you mum is ok with it all i'd just ignore her. Not worth getting stressed over it if she's the sort of person who just wont see why she is in the wrong. Save your enery my dear. xx
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorMrsWearn2be
Agree with Lizzy! Shes obviously trying to irritate you anyway, so it doesnt matter how many times youve told her your mums wearing purple, it doesnt matter how many times you tell her not to wear blue and silver...she knows what shes doing...god why are some MIL's such a pain in the backside!? lol xx
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
that sounds so frustrating xxx
CommentAuthorSam
I think she's trying to irritate you and she's done it. I'd honestly leave her to it, it isn't worth your time and stress.
