So MIL isnt really that bad but just can't seem to get through to her.. She wants to be sooo involved which is fine shes taking an interest and its good to have a hand as H2B is currently serving in Afghanistan. She wants to know all the details and put her opinion in whick can get a bit annoying. So she asked to make the favours which I agreed to if shes concintrating on my favours then Im free to do everything else in piece. She has went totally OTT and away from my colour scheme!! My colour scheme is hunter green she has made most of the THIRTY favours for everyone in red and blue when I calmly tried to explain that it was a bit much and that I wanted them in huntger green seen as thats my colour she pritty much told me to F off and that shes done them now!! what on earth do i do now?
Sorry for the rant but its buggin me
xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
wat are they hun? cant u put them in hunter green organza bags?
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CommentAuthorLinziBlyth-x
i have no idea ive only seen pictures shes made loads for each person there in large wicker baskets EACH its totally OTT theres candles soaps coasters ect
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
so every1 has a wicker basket?? crikey mayb put them on the chairs lol
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CommentAuthorLinziBlyth-x
yeah a huge wicker basket full of stuff not in my colours shes just makin it up as she goes along. it started off as personilised candles and its just got more and more and shes just gettin stuff in any old colour. She wont listen to me and i cant say anythin to H2B he has enough on his plate whichout worryin about favours for the wedding
i wud put my foot down hun and tell her ONE thing out of basket only in a green organza bag! do it be brave
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
you have to do it nad be brave hun. after all it is ur wedding.
u also need to explain that u love her help, but u would like things done to ur colour scheme and not in any odd colour.
hope all gets sorted hun
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Sorry going to go against everyone here lol
ok yes i would tell her that you love the fact shes helping BUT tell her if she wants to help in other ways she MUST stick to your colours and what you want or you will not ask or use her help in the furture!! As for the baskets personally if she wants to spend so much time effort and money on each guest LET HER!!! Maybe to get them to fit into your colours when you get hold of them you could add name tags and ribbon or a bow to them in your colour?? After all the outside looks better in your colours but the inside doesnt have to be so this may be a good way of getting them to match without upsetting your fmil???
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CommentAuthor~feebee~
Omg what a nightmare! She's lost the plot! :@
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Lol she sounds a bit too enthusiastic to me! :p Either way she needs telling to stop before she moves onto something else.
I can see it both ways regarding the favours - yes it's not what you wanted but if she's paying for them and guests will like them then it's not too big a deal. As hails said - tie it all up in green ribbon, or you could wrap the bits in hunter green tissue paper so it all looks green? Spray paint the wicker baskets green, or put them on the chairs so they aren't next to your centrepieces? :)
But if your really not happy with them put your foot down. Xx
CommentAuthorkatie_lou
look on the bright side hun, you have a MIL who's willing to help and spend her own money making your favours for you! if they dont match the colour scheme put them outta they way like the other ladies suggest.
why dont you thank her, and mention that you're worried about her putting herself out of pocket? (in an attempt to stop her from overfilling the baskets even more!)
I think that the green ribbon idea sounds like a great way of rescuing the colour theme, and green, blue and red could work really well together in an olde english kind of theme.
CommentAuthorjo Santa
I think that if you will cause problems by letting her know that it's not what you wanted, let her go ahead and then make sure that the best man knows to thank her in his speech for putting the favours baskets together...that way anyone who is savvy enough to notice they're not in your colours will realise that they were her gift to you. Noone else will mind or think of it most likely. If you think there is room for the ribbon idea, buy the ribbon and give it to her - that way it'll be right.
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
i think jo is spot on! on everything she put. x
CommentAuthorbabybex
Jo's put it perfectly. But I know how u feel about her going against your colour scheme I think if my MIL did that we would fall out because Im sure Im going to be a bridezilla, I don't like having help, if I have a task to do I do it much to the annoyance of others, it's my way done by me or the highway and not done at all... Im like that at work I don't like passing my work to fellow colleagues!! Yet at home Im completely different and OH takes charge of most things!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
o kmow you said you dont want to tell you oh ....but as someone sho`s ex oh was out in the gulf war ...it would be the sort of thing he does want to hear about ...normal stuff , the guys out there really wnat to know that life is still going on ... i used to send letters saying all dorts of rubbish , gossip about the neigbours what was going on in eastenders etc .
as fot your MIL i have to agree with hails .at least she want to be involved and is showing an interest ... could you get the fabric/organza in the colour you want and give it to her as for contents ...if she is putting loads in the favours ,can i come ?
Wow she sounds like right charmer! Im assuning she never had a daughter? So shes gotta be all up in your business? Tell her you appreciate it, but thats not what you wanted and they wont be used. Tell her youre gonna do them yourself and if she'd like to help you make them the way YOU want them shes welcome. Other than that, keep you nose out!
CommentAuthorHeLz
Oh no what a nightmare for you!! Like someone said above, if they are in wicker baskets they may have to go on the chairs then just cover them in something in your colour? It's definitely a difficult one for you. xxx
CommentAuthorLinziBlyth-x
Thanks girls.. I have had another word and again explained im grateful but shes not to make/put anythin else in and can we arrange everything so its in my colours and we've sort of come to a compromise i think. And im not sure my H2b would be very happy if i told him i was seariously considering hitting his mother over the head with a blunt object if she told me 2 F off 1 more time lol! x
CommentAuthorFutureMrsClarke
How bout if I did it for you? Im in the mood for a bit of granny bashing! lol
CommentAuthorMrsCaitiClarke
FutureMrsClarke the phrase "gotta be all up in your business" is amazing. I've just had the MIL on the phone telling me how much she loves me and had me in tears (in a nice way) so I don't know what to advise! We're just trying to keep her involved as much as possible and let her feel like she's got a hand in things. I guess it's hard for them to know how to be part of it when it's their son's big day? Not the same as being MOTB. Xx
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