Keep smilin' chick, you sound like the best step mum a child could ever have and your mil should stick her comments where the sun doesn't shine. I really hope things go well with the new place and that you can have a lot of happiness.

I cannot believe she said that to u infront of ur step daughter! and to say quote' we have been doing fine without u, ur not needed' etc who does she think she is the girls mother?! she really needs to step down off that pedastall shes put herself on and see what a great girl her son has found and what a great job ur doing looking after her, if she had any sense, which she clearly doesnt, she would be over the moon that ur getting married and would want to help in any way, not drive u away. but like u said ur not leaving which is good, she is prob testing u trying to c if u will disappear, but a mother shouldnt be doing that to her kids, like u say its for ur h2b to take the risks and find out, and hes obviously made a good judgement this time, his mum needs a good slap, peggy mitchell style!!

hope u get out of there asap and dont worry about the backlash, whatever it may be at least u wont have to live with it! good luck 2 u all, and stay strong x

I hope so. We've been told not to worry about things they'll say until they actually say them, but it's hard!

so glad that you're.oving out.she' going to be forced to realise that her psychotic behaviour is going to tear her family away from her. im a way, she deserves feelimg sorry for because it's you with a lovimg h2b,a stepdaughter who worships u and now a place of ur own and she' left alone and bitter becauase of her behaviour. xx

hunni you have to do what is right for you and the witch will come to realise that all she has done is push her son and grandaughter away .

i have had a reall issur this year with mr lala`s mother ...
1, i went for a meal for her birthday only to be told once we had arrived that no one could take me home ( thnkgod i had enough money for a taxi) at the end of the evning she decided it was ok to corss examin me over whey i spilt with my ex and why the children lived with him
2,we went to a bbq for Mr lala`s dad bithday and when we left because i need to go home to take medication ( a week after shoulder op) she said that obv i did think the company was good enough for me etc etc
3,she screamed at us bc we wont have Mr lala`s nieces as bm`s then said if we dont have them she wouldnt come
4,called me in august demanding to know why i had taken her off my fb friends list ... then called me all names under the sun,said what a terrible mother i was .... the told me that i was high and mighty and 2 faced & she wanted nothing more to do with me .

and this all achieved what ? she isnt even being invited to the wedding ...... Mr lala told her that she was in the wrong for what she said to me and will now only go round there if he has to ... so she has pushed him away .

Tough chuffing luck she said the things now she has to deal with not having her son in her life much

My mum has paid the admin fee for the estate agents, no one can view the house now. Handing the forms in on Wednesday when I get my pay slip. My mum is acting as garauntor so the process is going to be quicker. She was crying because I've lost so much weight and I look so ill. We'll be out of here in a couple of weeks. Emilia is excited as she came to see the house with us. I've been fighting off tears today because it's such a relief.

Fantastic :)
Im glad you have your mum to support you both - you need someone on your side

That is good news. x

Thank you! I still can't believe it! Just hope the paper work goes through quickly! Thanks for all of your support :) xx

OMG you have to keep us posted as to what vileness the old bag comes out with! I would pay money to see the look on her face face when you tell her that youre all gonna be out from under her thumb!

She'll be the one missing out. The old crone!

Yey! You're almost free! :) Xx

So where is her Mum? Does she not see her at all now?

Hope everything goes well with moving out. xx

Yaaaay! If the estate agents are as greedy as here they will be done before Friday :D

Don't even bother lol just say bye.

H2b wants to as he wants them to understand that he's making this decision and that he's in charge of his own life.

Fingers crossed you will be in soon! Thinking of you xx

Anyone have any advice on how we tell them we're moving out? We're going to wait until we have the keys until we do, just don't know what to say. I know that no matter what she's going to hate me.x

Thanks! I'm just so nervous about it. I couldn't sleep properly worrying about it last night.xx

I think Ataraxia phrased it perfectly, good luck hun! :) Xx

I think I could move stuff without her noticing, but only small amounts. And maybe wait until they're out before moving bigger things. Thing is, their house is so full of stuff that our stuff is all in our small room, so it would be obvious if things started disappearing. I'm not so worried about them throwing us out without our stuff, just the bad atmosphere that will be there when we're packing.

I don't think I could put it any better than ataraxia. At the end of the day most people move out when they are older anyway so it's like it's out of the ordinary.
Just tell them it's time you had your own little place for you as a family.
Most mil would be happy for their son/daughter etc.
And tbh if she doesn't like it! Tough, you know the real reason, that she made your life hell when you clearly didn't deserve it.
Good luck with it.

Xxxx

Thanks lala. I have said to him that that's what I want him to do. I just know I'll find it hard to bite my tongue.

Good News! good luck with the new place too

That's great news. Hope you can move in soon :)

Yaaaay! Not long now and you will have your own place!