do know weather i am just being petty but MIL is really starting t upset me
said i wanted to go thi ibiza with my friends foir a hen do she invited herself (and her friends) along with out even asking me then we i said ok if yu wanna come thats find we will be staying in these apartments i got " oh no me and my friends woould like to stay in a hotel" !!!!!!! - that will look brilliant them staying somewhere different i did not know what to say! just cryed when i got home - my own mum is brilliant she is there when i want her and does not stick her nose in i feel like she thinks its her wedding
i feel like saying i will not be having a hen do :-(
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aww lisa your not petty maybe she does not understand how this makes you feel(or maybe she does) but i think first speak to you H2B and see how too broch the subject with the MIL and if it takes a little tough love to get what you want then so be it. you could also let her have something by sugesting she organise a tea and cake kinda afternoon to spend with the girls
i wish you all the best and i know sometimes you just need to cry to let it out
xxx
so excited to soon be the real mrs sp
this is the happiest i have eva been
CommentAuthorLisaS
H2B is an only child and just goes along with his mum thats what makes this soooo difficult, i will give the tea and cakes afternoon a go
thanks x
CommentAuthorNavyBaby
I'd speak to your other half about it...Maybe ask him to have a little word and just ask him to explain that you dont want to hurt anyones feelings but if they want to come then they should respect your decisions and go along with your plans, they cant have a Hen Celebration with The Hen there! I've just read Mrs SP's reply and she's said everything I was going to suggest :)
Chin up honey. This should be the best time of your life, don't let anyone ruin it!
Let us know what happens. x
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your welcom and we are here even if you just need to vent xx
so excited to soon be the real mrs sp
this is the happiest i have eva been
Im going to go against the grain here. And I know you are finding it frustrating. But will it not work out better for your hens, if the golden oldies stay in a hotel and not in the apartments with you guys? You can still meet for to enjoy the night life and what not.
By bending a little, and letting her come, but stay in a hotel, you still have seperation and you still have a happy MIL.
MIL or real mother, this wedding is going to be massive for them, its a whole change, in their future as well as yours and a little bit of give and take works wonders.
Lou x
Start Weight - 17stone 2lb (5/6/11)
CommentAuthorKimberlee1
sounds like youve got it just as bad as me hunny i do feel for u i really do. My MIL decided that it would be a great idea to join my bday her day and my hen do all into one. 16th may (hers) 17th (mine) 19th hen do. i was fine with it until she started taking over. And even when i said to her that id changed my mind she was still inviting her friends along that that didnt even know. I guess if your MIL was invited and she didnt know anyone that was her age then fine let her bring a mate, but the fact that shes invited herself and then invited her friends takes the biscuit. Id have a word or else things are gunna build up and you dont want to feel like your stepping on egg shells on your night. You really dont wanna get drunk and end up sayin something nasty.
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17th August 2012 I'll be Missus Matthews
CommentAuthorLisaS
Nailed - i concided this but she wants to stay somewere upmarket - anone who has been to ibiza will know these are few and far between!!!! so not the easiest of tasks
thanks so much everyone i have made a desision to day that my MOH is taking over all plans she has already sent a message out on bookface so say the hen do is now in london for a weekend staying on a 5* hotel and doing some other activites while we are there - then me and my best friends are going to go away to ibiza on "holiday" so i get the best of both worlds
is kinda nice to have it all takern out of my hands as i know my MIL will not argue with my MOH
