My partner works in the RAF and at the beggining of september he will be moving down to London to a new camp.
Now we bought a house in Lincolnshire 2 years ago and selling up was not an option when we got the news. So basically up until our wedding in just under 2 years time we will be living apart.
Anyway i digress, his mum has been calling several times a day for the past few days and if we miss her call because we are say out taking our dog for a walk, hubby to be will get a right ear full about not answering.
Last night she called to remind him that he will need to have duvets and pillows and should start getting bits and bobs together ready for his move. HELLO, isnt this my job now to make sure he has everything he needs. We have been living together for four years and he has not lived at home for nearly 10.
When we told them he was moving they acted like he was moving to another country when they will see him just as often as they do now, its me that needs to get ready for a complete change in our relationship.
I know she wants to help but sometimes she can be completely overbearing and just doesnt seem to get that he is a grown man, i dont even want to think how she will be when we decide to have children.
Rant over ladies, thanks for listening
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
Oh dear another over powering mother. Unfortunately I can't offer much as my mil2b is wonderful but I understand what you mean when you say it's your duty. Just keep breathing and hopefully she will back off slightly. X
CommentAuthorkimmy
Ha Ha sorry for laughing because im sure it is a pain in the bum, does she live nearby?
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
why dont you say to her that instead of having the cost all the time could she put togetehr a checklist of things he will need for his move and mail it to you .....
then when it arrives you can duely ignore it and file it in the bin ....
as for the living apart bit you will be fine ,you will have to get together for lots of naughty weekends lol lol
at least he is in the country babe i will see Mr lala for 49 days this year as he is working aborad ....yeah he comes hom next thursday and i havent seen him since may 16th
o dear sounds like she is not ready to cut them strings lol i feel for you hun having to have a relationship so far away i am sure it will all be ok xxx
Oh I feel the pain! Don't get me wrong I love my MIL2B, but her and H2B have always had a VERY close relationship (only child, dad not around). We've always got on really well, but after falling pregnant with our daughter she became incredibly overbearing - it's quite difficult to be in this situation (our daughter is now 18 months old). I do struggle with the thought of having to have this strained relationship for the rest of my life, and I've always said if me and H2B ever split up it will be because of her / him choosing her over me. I love her to bits, but I do wish she'd give us some space sometimes x
CommentAuthorjo Santa
Lol at Kaytee - XMIL interfered in everything too, except when I needed her help, but when I got pregnant with my last child - completely unplanned - she believed she was sent from God and tried to make us name her "Angel" and was furious at me when I had a friend help me decorate the nursery as she believed she and my xFIL should have done it. Mrs M 2b - your h2b needs to help her break away, slowly slowly, not pandying to her every whim or fit of temper. If you're out, you're out etc. Perhaps he needs to say "Mum, I'm sorry, but I have my own life to live" - yes, it will hurt her, but mum's like that won't ever sulk for long as they love their sons too much. Lala is right - ask her for a list then do it your way. Gradually let her know that she was a great help, but you've got the hang of it now!! Don't allow what I did and have your MIL be in control or make you feel like she's the Marm and you have to listen and obey. You'll end up hating her for it.
Jo Santa
CommentAuthormrsmorgan2b
Thanks Ladies,
Dont get me wrong she is a lovely person and would do anything for anyone but it just gets too much treating us like we are children.
She doesnt live too close by, bout an hour and half drive away so not like she can pop rond unanounced. She would never make H2B choose between me and her as shes not that kind of lady. But i know that once H2B has left she will be offering to do his washing at weekends and buying him new socks haha, sad but that really winds me up.
I suppose she could be alot worse.
Lala, i kinda know how you feel, he is having to leave constantly to go abroad with the RAF, although secretly i think he puts himself forward for these things. Enjoy having him home.
