I am very upset. My nan died on monday. My evil uncle was told at about 9am that she was shutting down and this was it, she passed away at about 5pm, he didnt bother contacting any of us so we could say goodbye, not even my aunties who have now lost their mum.
There is some family feuds that have been present since before i was born and now my uncle is putting barriers up to stop some of my cousins attending the funeral. Obviously quite a few of us are more than willing to stand up for them to him, but it seems so sad that at my poor nans send off, either people who love her will have to stay away or there will definatelt be some sort of scene.
All this will be happening on our 1 yr to go countdown day, 24th march....which is a day that i had been looking forward to soo much, it felt like such a big milestone, now i feel awful! Just want to cry really :(

I know you cant stop someone from attending, but seems sad they are faced with the option of go and my uncle will cause a massive scene, or stay away. Hopefully now that my other cousin and my dad have stood up for her she will be able to go and hopefully my uncle wont dare make trouble. Just so sad. A funeral is never nice, but to make it even harder than it has to be and to be on a day that i had been sooo looking forward to is hard for me to deal with.

Hopefully everyone will behave and remember that they are there to celebrate a life not drag up issues from the past. Sorry about losing your Nan and that was horrible not letting you know so you could say goodbye. Sending a hug (x)

oh huni big hugs. wht an awful man! it wasnt the time to be like that. if he didnt want to see you all he didnt have to be there when you said godbye. still what is done is done. go to the funeral, ignore him and say goodbye to your nan. rant, cry, scream all you want. love to you and your family xx

sorry about your nan hun x

you dont not get invited to funerals you get invited to weddings!!!!!!!! if they want to make a scene let them its shame on there behave, not yours and anyone who doesnt, they will have to live with that.

also how about everyone attending the funeral but doin seperate get togethers afterwards, so there is no hassle or confrontations x

I think my cousin is planning on having a word about everyone being on their best behaviour. Yes there has been a feud, but over the past few years since my grandad died my aunty and cousin have been visiting nan and making their peace, i have seen my nans face light up when my cousin has walked into the hospital ward, so i dont understand why my uncle would want to keep them away.
I have told her to come with me and my dad, there are enough of us who will stand up for her and yes if need be we will go hold our own wake somewhere else.