Wedding Forum - Mental brakedown :'( just needed to vent/...

What should we do? (sorry its a long one)
We are ment to be getting married this August.
We have had the wedding booked since last May and everything was going well. I got my dress 3 days after OH popped the question in April (appointment was to look at prices as we hadn’t set a date but I got carried away…oops) and shortly followed my veil, flowers, shoes, garter and everyone else’s flowers.
Then everything (life) started going wrong.
Our baby started reacting to his milk and we had to fight with the GP to listen to us. When we started weaning he was reacting to more stuff having anaphylactic reactions. Due to this I gave up work. They are starting to re-introduce the foods into my son’s next month and I’m scared to death that he is going to react badly again.
My dad found out his brain is dying and they don’t know why. It’s affecting his personality and most days now he is either horrible (told me I had to lose my baby weight because no one could love a fat bride!) or he’s like a hyper child.
My grandad was rushed in due to being extremely poorly and they found an infection in his heart, blood and bone morrow. The medicine he was on has caused life changing complications.
Our home flooded due to a leak and we now have to replace OH's 8yr old's bedroom stuff.
We are having problems with the 8yr old but that's another story.
My OH’s hours have been cut to less than half of what he was doing when we booked everything for the wedding and now the only way we can afford to get married is if the BM’s and GM pay for their own outfits and if we cut down on everything.
I am Autistic and have Asperger’s syndrome along with other mental issues, the added stress of the wedding has sent everything into overload and I am not coping well at all. I am having anxiety attacks daily, crying at everything, have lost loads of weight and struggling to cope with our 1yr old son.
Part of me wants to cancel/move the wedding and part of me doesn’t. OH just keeps saying he will sort it and that everything seems worse because I am hormonal, emotional and I'm not liking the not knowing of things I have no control over. Family and friends are trying to help but it’s just making me feel worse. I’m worried if we carry on with the wedding the stress will put me in hospital.

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time. I think it's enough to affect anyone regardless of whether they have medical conditions.

As GF says you need to weigh up the cost of cancelling or postponing. Also, never lose sight of the reason for your wedding. It's not about having a bigger fancier day than the next person with all the little extras which to be honest most people forget about after the event, it's about marrying the one you love. So, as lovely as it can be to have certain things at your wedding maybe it's good to cut them out or cut down on. You can still have an amazing special day without certain things. This pressure on brides soemtimes to have a wedding day in a certain way is unnecessary. Family and friends will understand and I'm sure will help out where they are able to - you may need to be a little flexible on the outfits if BMs and GM to pay for their outfits (like style/colour and price). It will give you something nice and positive to look forward to. Maybe go for a smaller wedding? Less day guests if your venue allows? Then more for the evening reception which would be cheaper. There's lots of options available to you, you just need to go through them all.

xxx

You definitely have a lot on your plate. Definitely check what would happen if you change the date or cancel. Simplifying everything might make it more manageable. I hope your son's condition improves.

My personal opinion is that you go ahead too, try and turn all of that negativity into positivity and have a fantastic day xx

Ahhhh glad it's still going ahead and that people are helping out. Everyone will be more than willing to help I'm sure,

Glad you seem to have a supportive family and OH. Youll get through this and come out a stronger MARRIED! couple :) xx

Glad to hear things now seem to be getting better x

Thanks everyone.

Having a really bad day today. Can't stop shaking or crying. Had 4 anxiety attacks since 7am (currently having another one as I type), so waiting for a call off my GP.

Could just sleep all day but home alone with the baby so that's not going to happen.