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    • KellyR632
      CommentAuthorKellyR632
      Posted: Sep 18th 2014
     
    I am getting married next year and my parents are paying for most of the wedding but my problem is my mum keeps asking us to ask my partners mum and dad to help pay for the suits as my mum said its the grooms side who pays for the suits?in really stuck with this and i dont know how to ask them as we feel bad asking.please help.
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    • sALLY
      CommentAuthorsALLY
      Posted: Sep 18th 2014
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    Hi Kelly are you parents to be helping with anything else? could your h2b not ask?? he may feel more comfortable asking.


    Me and my h2b are paying for the suits as we have my dads, our sons, best man and groom just easier for us to buy them
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    • KellyR632
      CommentAuthorKellyR632
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
     
    Hi my parents are paying for everything except the church and car as me and my h2b r paying for them.my mum said she thinks traditionally the grooms parents pay for suits but im not sure and my mum has said if they have to pay for the suits then they will have to budget for them and my h2bs parents are not helping with anything.my h2b doesn't like asking for that sort of things so its sort of me thats got to spoke to them about it.i just dont know how to ask or what to say.x
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    I thought traditionally the groom paid for the groomsmens' suits? I have to say if it was me and we were having most things paid for us anyway I would try and get the money together and buy the suits myself x

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    • CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    im not sure on tradition the traditions usualy fall into place if you dont live together already my mam said if i lived at home theyd be paying best part of it but as we dont they are onky helping where they can and we r paying most of it. suit wise we r paying for these
    dress is split between me and my dad
    food me and my parents
    bridesmaids im paying for
    car my dad is paying
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    • CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    Times have changed!! I dont believe anyone should be forced to pay for our wedding & I certainly wouldn't ask.
    We planned from the offset to pay for everything ourself which we mostly have, however my mum offered to pay for our honeymoon & my dad offered to pay for the food. H2b took it upon himself to guilt his parents into saying they'd pay for something, by telling them my parents were contributing so it would look better if they did too!! I was fuming with him. My parents are a lot better off money wise whereas h2b's are really struggeling at the moment, they don't have the spare cash to help us out.
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    • barbie86
      CommentAuthorbarbie86
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    No-one has to pay for anything. It's lovely that your parents are paying for so much, but that's their choice, and it doesn't mean your OH's parents have to contribute. Basically, there's no polite way to ask for money/a contribution so if they haven't mentioned contributing, they're probably not going to.

    I guess you could have a word with your OH and mention it and see what he says; he may have the type of relationship where he feels he can mention it. I also don't think it would be unreasonable for say his dad to pay for his own attire at least (which is something, and which could be a compromise). Otherwise, would you and your OH consider contributing? My parents paid for the vast bulk of ours but we did cover the rings, honeymoon, gifts, OH's outfit, part of my outfit, some of the stationery, etc.
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    My parents have been amazing and have offered to pay for quite a bit. OH's parents have also offered to contribute which we are very, very thankful for. However, I would never have asked them outright to pay for anything. I think you should book a wedding with the expectation that you would pay for everything yourself and anything else is a bonus x

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 19th 2014
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    To be honest, I don't think many people follow traditions like that anymore, like Mrs Robson said, times have changed!

    Its lovely that your parents are paying for the majority of your wedding, but that doesn't mean they should just expect your OHs family too as well. I would be paying for what I could though to show my appreciation.

    Me and my fiancé are currently living at his parents house so that we can afford our wedding and we are paying roughly half of it, my dad about 25% and his parents are paying about the same.

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